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General Discussion => General Discussion Boards => Other General Discussion => Topic started by: Joseph41 on September 10, 2017, 03:41:23 pm
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Really interested by this.
I realistically have no friends from primary school, very few from uni, and the number of people I keep in contact with from high school is also small.
I was thinking this morning: the majority of my friends are literally from ATAR Notes lol.
But that's obviously not necessarily consistent across the board. If I think about my brother, his friends are mostly from high school. Others would have sporting teams/musicals/other interests with strong friendship groups. Uni would also be a big source, I assume - but not for everybody.
How about y'all? For those currently in high school, is school where you've developed most of your stronger friendships? :)
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Friendship sources:
- high school: one
- church: heaps, varying levels of closeness but see them most often
- AN: a surface friend or two
- work
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- My "best friend" group comes from high school - there's 5 of us (including me). I also have retained a number of friends from high school who I'm not best friends with, but still good friends with.
- Several amazing friends from AN
- A lot of friends from soccer - this is probably the biggest bunch of people I'm friends with. I was on good terms with everyone in high school, but I'm actually close with my teammates, whereas I wasn't close with everyone at school
- Uni - becoming good friends with 4 or so people at uni, and am surface friends with a lot more people and there's plenty of people I chat to politely but wouldn't consider them friends, per se.
- Work - more surface friends I guess, we get along famously at work but don't really chill outside of work.
I retained absolutely no friends from primary school, and since finishing high school haven't spoken to people that I considered friends - there really are a lot of people you're only friends with out of convenience/because you see them 5 days a week.
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my friends come from 4 places: school, acyf (Catholic festival i went to 2 years ago), family friends, and the internet.
i don't like a whole lot of people from school, because girls are bitchy, and going to an all girls school doesn't really help. i've got about 5-10ish close friends from school. probably less than that. acyf people are some of the nicest people i've met, and i remain quite close with them, but because i live a bit far from them, i don't see them that often. family friends are pretty self-explanatory, i guess. the internet is also a great source of friends, such as here on AN and my harry potter instagram account. :-)
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Friendship sources:
- high school: surface one or two
- AN: a surface friend or two, a beloved one =)
- uni: one surface, one semi close
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My friendship sources:
- Primary: no one really, I passed one of my best friends in primary the other month and she didn't seem to even recognise/or talk to me.
- High School: I have got a fairly big group now (around 10-15 of us), but I don't really know how much this will progress into next year (and how many of us will still talk). I think this is where I have developed some of my stronger friendships, but I spend the majority of my week at school.
- Girls Brigade: I've got a few close friends here and i'm friends with my leaders.
- Band
- Work: Some of the girls I was closer to have left, varying levels (more surface level though).
- AN: Even though I haven't met most of you, I've spent lots of time on here, and would count you guys as friends. :D
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all my friends are from AN haha :(
(actually tbh idek if i'm their friends but I consider them my friends so...:P)
edit: not that friends from AN is a bad thing, just probably should make more IRL :P
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Class of 2019 here:
- Tuition: quite a number of friends here (I think I actually bond with students in my weekend classes more than my weekday :o)
- Primary school: null
- weekday/normal school: a couple friends, but very, very few I can actually call 'close', despite seeing them 5 days a week :P
I find as I move up the high school ladder, the fewer friends I have??
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damn i been on atarnotes longer than alot of you guys and i dont think i've made any friends on here LOL
1st = high school: 70% of my friends and hang out with them heaps and still super cool
2nd = primary school/neighbourhood: a solid 20% of my friends who i see heaps but mostly 1 on 1 as the groups have dissolved
3rd = uni: maybe 10% of my friends. almost all of these come from extra curricular activies or study abroad and am pretty good friends with alot but dont hang out frequently.
other sources are mostly negligible apart from a couple of people. facebook friend doesnt = friend. criteria for friend counts as someone who I realistically could message and ask to hang out, or see them near me on snapchat and be like "YO WYD" and hang out
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Hmm.... a bit difficult to answer personally since i'm currently in the aftermath of a culling phase from high school (Lets just say it wasn't the most enjoyable..)
-Primary School: I got a best & close friend since Grade 1, which is quite rare in this generation apprentely.. so i'm grateful we have both managed to keep it together all those years. I also got a few others in which we aren't as close, but willing to hang with .
-High school: I lost a close friend of my after they went of to TAFE and just ghosted me I guess... I made like four friends as well, but not really close with them as much.
-University: I've been pretty good on this front, although most of them are much older then me. I guess also quitting social media, not being a huge drinker and party animal turns me off to a lot of people.
-Friends of friends: I've made quite a fair amount from this stream.
But then again, I guess i don't need a huge amount of friends. I just want a few friends that I know I have a real, good and close connection to.
That being said, I liked to add AN as well... although i'm worried when I go to the meetup, everyone is going to not be my friend :(.
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- primary school: don't talk to them anymore because i lost contact.
- high school: pretty much 99% of my friends come from here. i just hope we keep in touch after we graduate
- teachers: can you count them as friends? i love talking to them.
- work: we sometimes chat on facebook but not super close
- friends of friends: i know of them but don't talk to them. just because it's really awkward and we can't seem to build an actual friendship.
- tutoring: still friends with one person from tutoring. she's pretty cool
- extracurricular: used to be friends with them but not anymore because our extracurricular got cancelled.
- tumblr: have mutuals on tumblr that i talk to every now and then.
if i'm being honest, if i didn't go to high school and saw the same people everyday, i'll probably have 0 friends.
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Hmm, interesting q. I live in the same suburb as my primary and high school but I think I see my uni friends a lot more than the people I geographically live closer to - which might say something about how much time I spend at uni haha.
- Primary School: A lot of my close friends moved away to selective/private high schools and I've lost touch with many of them.
- High School: Good group of friends but nowadays (I'm fourth year uni) we only seem to catch up on holidays or special occasions.
- University (classes etc): Made quite a few good friends from sitting down next to them at lectures, or as a jaffy rocking up to non-existent comp labs/tutes in the first week and just chilling instead.
- University (clubs, societies, etc): I'm involved with quite a few clubs/societies and you see a lot of the same people. After the third or forth time of "haven't I seen you at X or Y before?" you learn their names and become friends.
- Table Tennis: Not breaking an stereotypes here, I play table tennis and have made quite a few friends.
- Work/AN: Quite a few and you probably know who you are ;)
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-venturers/scouts some really good ones from here
-high school some really good ones here too
-band ranges from good to acquaintances
-youth advisory council good mainly
-kwong lee dow good mainly
-primary school good to acquaintances
-mutuals good to acquaintances
-RYPEN never had time to get contact details :( but would happily have multi hours convos if I ran across them
-VCESS very good to acquaintances
-people randomly met at academic or leadership stuff good to acquaintances
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All my friends right now are from uni debating (mainly from my own university society but I'm know to people from interstate and overseas as well), work (some of it is debating related and the rest is journalism) and volunteering. I am meaning to broaden my scopes from the liberal/progressive echochamber, and get to know different people as well, sometimes I appreciate being able to talk to someone about soccer and other interests like films, photography, dance, different cultures, philosophy, tennis, music, theatre and funny life stories/jokes rather than being argumentative or bonding over an esoteric meme/joke. I've always wanted to know what non-debating people cared and liked talking about (even though debaters are great).
For some reason, I've found it difficult to properly get to know people in university tutorials. I've also thought about reconnecting with people from high school or attending reunion events but I didn't like school and most people if not everyone have fixed negative perceptions of me.
By the way, does anyone here attend high school reunion or alumni events?
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I've also thought about reconnecting with people from high school or attending reunion events but I didn't like school and most people if not everyone have fixed negative perceptions of me.
By the way, does anyone here attend high school reunion or alumni events?
I didn't attend my primary school reunion as you stated in this quote because I didn't like my school.
I don't think you should force it appleandbee, sometimes people change and are more accepting to restart the relationship and sometimes people don't change at all.
For me personally, I would go for only two reasons
1. Because I want to and not from some external obligation
2. A friend wants me to accompany them
Other then that, I don't bother that past is the past. Some bridges aren't meant to be rebuilt and deserved to be burned.
But that is my opinion on it, I'm a very take no bullshit person and will call people out regardless on who you are.
So as you can tell, I'm not exactly very well-liked by many people...
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That being said, I liked to add AN as well... although i'm worried when I go to the meetup, everyone is going to not be my friend :(.
I'll bet you a friendship that you're wrong there, buddo
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My better friends probably come from high school and uni :) coz you just spend so much time with them
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My better friends probably come from high school and uni :) coz you just spend so much time with them
Have you spent less time with your high school friends now that you've graduated? Obviously don't seem them in school etc., but outside the classroom scenario?
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At the moment, most of my friends came from school. I met lots of great people there, so making friends wasn't hard to do.
I've met some friends at my church, again, filled with great people.
Now I'm at uni, I've made quite a few new friends. The only problem is that because everyone goes to different lectures, I don't see them as often as I'd like to. Thankfully I have Facebook, so I can always message them. It's still nice to meet up in person, though.
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Really interested by this.
I realistically have no friends from primary school, very few from uni, and the number of people I keep in contact with from high school is also small.
I was thinking this morning: the majority of my friends are literally from ATAR Notes lol.
Bump. Have been thinking about this again recently. The majority of the people with whom I speak at least semi-regularly have at least some connection to ATAR Notes.
Keen to hear from others, particularly given we've had a lot of new users since this thread was active last. :)
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Most of my friends are from high school but I only have one really close friend (there's like a 5-10 minute drive from my house to hers). But I am curious to see who I'll keep in touch with. I only keep in touch with one friend from primary school and that's because we were really close. We don't talk a lot but we do talk once in a while just to see how we are.
I'm not sure if it has reached 'friendship' status or just as acquaintances but I have talked to a lot of people from ATAR Notes, most of them being NSW users. I think the AN Meet Up in July really helped me get to know other AN users :)
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Probably three different categories
- School
- Church (some overlap with school)
- People who used to go to school, but I still keep in contact with.
A few things I am now reflecting on:
- There are lots of people from netball and athletics I am friendly with, but not anyone I am super close with.
- Most of my friends are older than me - by at least one year (I have always called myself an 'old soul' haha). :)
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^Is that age thing by design, or are they just the people you feel most comfortable with/spend the most time with?
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- primary school: don't talk to them anymore because i lost contact.
- high school: pretty much 99% of my friends come from here. i just hope we keep in touch after we graduate
- teachers: can you count them as friends? i love talking to them.
- work: we sometimes chat on facebook but not super close
- friends of friends: i know of them but don't talk to them. just because it's really awkward and we can't seem to build an actual friendship.
- tutoring: still friends with one person from tutoring. she's pretty cool
- extracurricular: used to be friends with them but not anymore because our extracurricular got cancelled.
- tumblr: have mutuals on tumblr that i talk to every now and then.
if i'm being honest, if i didn't go to high school and saw the same people everyday, i'll probably have 0 friends.
Wow this is so weird looking back on my previous post in this thread
High school: Post HSC I only talk to 6 friends now since I've lost contact with the others and/or have fallen out.
University: Now this is where most of my friends are from- even though I see them only twice/thrice a week.
ATAR Notes: obviously ;) Made some super cool friends in the last year or so
Work: I got a new job at the end of last year and I love my co-workers so much- I consider them my friends
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Literally all from high school and primary school (who i still have as contacts). Don't do any tutoring or outside sport so I'm really closed off, maybe I should go out and make more friends :'(
^Is that age thing by design, or are they just the people you feel most comfortable with/spend the most time with?
- Most of my friends are older than me - by at least one year (I have always called myself an 'old soul' haha). :)
This is totally relatable :)
For the most part I've sorta gotten used to this by now, though it's more by virtue of my actual age and the year I'm in. Basically everyone's a year older than me with a few exceptions, and I spend loads of time with them, going to school with them and whatnot
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Wow this is so weird looking back on my previous post in this thread
High school: Post HSC I only talk to 6 friends now since I've lost contact with the others and/or have fallen out.
University: Now this is where most of my friends are from- even though I see them only twice/thrice a week.
ATAR Notes: obviously ;) Made some super cool friends in the last year or so
Work: I got a new job at the end of last year and I love my co-workers so much- I consider them my friends
Funny how much can change in a year. How do you feel about your post-HSC relationships? Like, are you content with just being in contact with those you are?
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^Is that age thing by design, or are they just the people you feel most comfortable with/spend the most time with?
The people I am closest to just happen to be older than me.
I probably subconsciously look for wisdom and maturity in a friendship, not really sure. ;D
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- There are lots of people from netball and athletics I am friendly with, but not anyone I am super close with.
Same! I know a lot of people (from school, tutoring) but I'm close with a lot of my friends. I've reached a point where I'm like "what does it mean to be a friend? How do you distinguish between being friends and acquaintances? How does one qualify as a 'best friend'?"
- Most of my friends are older than me - by at least one year (I have always called myself an 'old soul' haha). :)
Same here as well! A lot of my previous tutors have become my friends (no clue how that works lmao) so I tend to have a lot of older friends. I also made a lot of older friends because of my sister- she was friends with a girl a year younger than her and I became friends with her and ended up being friends with the rest of her group.
^Is that age thing by design, or are they just the people you feel most comfortable with/spend the most time with?
For me, I think I'm a lot more comfortable with people who are older. A lot of people in my year group are into things that I'm not into: really don't like the Kardashians, hate their kind of music, a lot of them love making a fuss over things (e.g. really big birthday parties at school), or they're just thirsty af. Because of that, I have a hard time making friends with people my age and even harder time making friends with people who are younger than me. I think it's because the older friends I know have mellowed out a lot more and they appreciate things a lot more.
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Funny how much can change in a year. How do you feel about your post-HSC relationships? Like, are you content with just being in contact with those you are?
Yes- I'm quite content with my post-HSC relationships. I don't want this sound bad but I think it's all about quality over quantity when choosing who I still want to remain friends with. I've dropped toxic friends from my previous post til now and I feel more free (this sounds so bad but it's so true). I've picked up some new friends on the way which is exciting! Although I owe everything to the internet- because if it didn't exist, I would only have like 3 friends. I even struggle to contact with my remaining high school friends (there's 4 of them) because they all go to the same uni- while I go to a different one- and our breaks don't match up. I haven't seen them since September 1, but we do plan on meeting up in 3rd week November when they've all finished their exams.
I'm super happy with the friends I've made from uni, AN and work for sure :)
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I met up with a bunch of high school friends for dumplings last night. There were probably like 15 of us there. It's the first time I've seen some of them in years, and I think I actually feel closer to them than I did during high school? It's like there's some sorta bond there as a result of shared experience?
I dunno, it's really different not seeing people every day. Anyway, it made me think of this thread. What do other people think? :)
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I met up with a bunch of high school friends for dumplings last night. There were probably like 15 of us there. It's the first time I've seen some of them in years, and I think I actually feel closer to them than I did during high school? It's like there's some sorta bond there as a result of shared experience?
I dunno, it's really different not seeing people every day. Anyway, it made me think of this thread. What do other people think? :)
Isn't that nostalgic though, just remembering all the good times in high school, man I would just be sad, but also excited at the same time
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Isn't that nostalgic though, just remembering all the good times in high school, man I would just be sad, but also excited at the same time
Yeah, it's definitely nostalgic! Was actually quite unusual last night, as in many ways it felt like nothing had changed at all (like, the social dynamic was very similar).
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I feel like I've got a couple of friends from like different social groups
I've got a few friends from primary school which I try to keep in touch with regularly.
I have my friends from high school which I try to see on a weekly basis
I have friends from uni which I try to see often.
I've got family friends. I rarely see them but we still make an effort to catch up.
It will be interesting to see how this change over time and going to the same uni helps a lot.