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General Discussion => General Discussion Boards => Lifestyle and Entertainment => Topic started by: Odette on March 25, 2008, 12:43:11 am
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Ok guys and girls, i need your advice about something..
My best friend; well one of them revealed that she loves me (she's bisexual) and I just don't feel the same way about her, what's the best way to tell her without hurting her feelings or losing her as a friend?
Thanks
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Wow thats...pretty big so I'm going to take something from the movie Elizabethtown starring Kirsten Dunst and Olando Bloom.
try to not do anything 'impulsive' so you could maintain your friendship
don't give into her because she is your friend, be firm and tell her such and such.
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Thanks for that droodles ^^
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droodles was... helpful?
I am in utter shock.
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Well, if you don't feel that way about her I guess the best thing to do is to just say that you don't share the same orientation as she does and that she is simply one of the kindest people that you have ever come across and one of your closest friends.
What I'd also suggest to you would be NOT to avoid her and to deliberately not spend time together, (this goes for all situations like this, not just girl & girl) because even if you say to her "You're my best friend but I don't like you like that" but then choose to ignore her and avoid her in the hope her feelings change then you'll probably end up making her feel like shit and she will start panicking about losing a friend and you'll end up wondering if it was worth losing a friend just to avoid the awkwardness. Don't be afraid to face the situation, just be compassionate, understanding and just remember that you're dealing with one of your closest friends.
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Ahk thanks Costa ^^
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this happened to me too
what happened was after that it got weird and we didn't talk for ages but now we're good friends again somehow
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Well I spoke to her about it, and she's fine, told her how i felt, and we spoke for hours and she's completely ok with the whole thing. I guess I was just afraid of losing her as a friend, but yeah thanks again for the advice costa and droodles ^^
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No problem Odette, anytime =)
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Ok guys and girls, i need your advice about something..
My best friend; well one of them revealed that she loves me (she's bisexual) and I just don't feel the same way about her, what's the best way to tell her without hurting her feelings or losing her as a friend?
Thanks
i swear that must've felt so weird when she told you that...
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Yeah it did feel weird, but i guess i was ok with it since she's my best friend, but at the same time it was awkward because i didn't know what to say to her without hurting her feelings.
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Only one thing you can do......
make pr0n movies!
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im more than a forum troll you know, sometimes i can be helpful. god i hate you guys
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im more than a forum troll you know, sometimes i can be helpful. god i hate you guys
I know that droodles. You advise me on how to only go for the hot and attractive girls and to fuck personality LOL! Thats so bad
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im more than a forum troll you know, sometimes i can be helpful. god i hate you guys
Aww, you did help me so i'm thankful for that ^^
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Only one thing you can do......
make pr0n movies!
..... says troll...