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General Discussion => General Discussion Boards => Rants and Debate => Topic started by: Bhootnike on September 18, 2012, 10:08:47 pm
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OK.
so, i want to go to a party friday night, it finishes quite late - 12ish. this party is about an hour drive away from my place.
I dont want my parents to pick me, so I arranged with a mate to stay at his spare house, - as in,. it'll be me , with about 2 other friends in a empty house, just staying the night.
Now, note. I am indian.
And indian parents dont usually give a crap about asking about your aussie friends.
so my mum says.
NO YOU CANNOT STAY OVER.
why?
BECAUSE I DONT KNOW THEM. I DONT KNOW THEIR FAMILY. THEIR CULTURE. THESE AUSTRALIANS PARENTS DONT CARE ABOUT THEIR KIDS.
wtf?
i am angry.
because i feel i know what im doing. im not going to some randoms house. ive been mates with the guy since yr 7 ffs!
anyone know how to convince...??
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Take a CAS calculator and a few Kibahas and say it's a spesh all-nighter. Works every time.
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why the hell didn't you tell your mum that your friend was curry? =.=" LMAO
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Take a CAS calculator and a few Kibahas and say it's a spesh all-nighter. Works every time.
well they know its a party before hand hahha. had to ask them that to go to it !
why the hell didn't you tell your mum that your friend was curry? =.=" LMAO
no curries at my school.. haha.
they know that!
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no curries at my school.. haha.
they know that!
hahah, good point, you could have just told them he didn't go to your school, idk, friend of a friend.
could probably justify that he's a long lost cousin? :P
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no curries at my school.. haha.
they know that!
hahah, good point, you could have just told them he didn't go to your school, idk, friend of a friend.
could probably justify that he's a long lost cousin? :P
ahha well still, the point is, they dont know him, hence, they wont allow me to go to his house.
it sucks.......................
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I do not have a viable solution to this predicament, such is life. My parents would be hesitant to let me sleep over at someones house if there was an older brother there that could possibly rape me in my sleep. Perhaps tell your parents that it is highly unlikely that you will get raped at your friends house.
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Perhaps tell your parents that it is highly unlikely that you will get raped at your friends house.
But then he'd be lying?...
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Perhaps tell your parents that it is highly unlikely that you will get raped at your friends house.
But then he'd be lying?...
LOL
bhootnike, remain cool, calm and collected and go into a debate about how australians have created a better, more looked after country than india.
then tell them "i chose to be friends with them because they are good people.'' give them phone #'s, addresses w/e.
you can do this man, just be persistent.
YOLO
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Put all your best points in the most persuasive curry-terms you can into a letter and let them read it. Put all the information, eg, address of party and friends house like Nacho said etcetc at the bottom as well. And say "Please" with a smiley face?
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Welcome to curry-land.
Bhootnike, I get it man.
Question - what IS an ideal curry kid that parents would fawn over?
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Thushan with bollywood capabilities?
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Tell them that if they don't lay off your back then you will end up like one of those socially repressed emo kids who walks around the street carrying a knife and being paranoid of anything that moves (this probably won't happen, but just say it anyway).
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Parents' response:
"OK, be that way. I'll just disown you."
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Your response:
"If you disown me, then you will be a failed parent with no offspring to carry forth your legacy."
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Your response:
"If you disown me, then you will be a failed parent with no offspring to carry forth your legacy."
LOL dude.
you can't debate logically with a curry parent when it comes to these things
curry parents are strange, hostile and usually unhappy creatures
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They can't be that bad... just the fact that they're letting you go to a party this close to exams AND they're offering to pick you up at midnight an hour away from their house means they must be pretty caring parents. That's 4 hours of driving that they are doing for you.
The only real issue I see is that they are insecure and paranoid of others. Deep down, they only want what's best for you, but I think that they have a distorted idea about what is best for you.
Maybe if you introduced this kid to your parents then they would feel more comfortable about it. You say you have known him since year 7. Do your parents know about it? Basically, you need to convince your parents that the person you are staying with is a nice, caring, friendly person, not some random bogan. Good luck :)
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They can't be that bad... just the fact that they're letting you go to a party this close to exams (only so he doesn't go to parties when it is ACTUALLY close to exams) AND they're offering to pick you up at midnight an hour away from their house means they must be pretty caring protective parents. That's 4 hours of driving that they are doing for you so that they can get you back to your spesh books for the weekend.
The only real issue I see is that they are insecure and paranoid of others. Deep down, they only want what's best for you, but I think that they have a distorted idea about what is best for you. (fair point)
Maybe if you introduced this kid to your parents then they would feel more comfortable about it (LOL JKS, THEY'RE CURRY PARENTS HAHAHA). You say you have known him since year 7. Do your parents know about it (clearly not)? Basically (this aint basic), you need to convince your parents that the person you are staying with is a nice, caring, friendly person, not some random bogan. Good luck :)
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They can't be that bad...
that's just where you are wrong i'm afraid
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Sorry, but not letting your underage son/daughter stay out overnight with people you don't know is not really being overprotective.
If you can talk to them reasonably before Friday then good luck, but this seems like a not uncommon thing :(
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I think it's mostly indians/asians parents who are typically like this, from my experience.
I have traditional arab parents and they allow me to stay and hang around with my Indian mates simply because I've introduced them to my parents before and they know who they are.. if you were to somehow invite them over introduce them over.. make them see that they're initial assumptions were wrong about them, then I think you'll notice they will be more understanding.
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I dunno about how to convince them- but I have the same problem.
Mother doesn't even let me sleepover at my best friend's house. She KNOWS my best friend. Like, ffs. Curry parents are so annoying sometimes.
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Amen to that.
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Not all curry parents; I used to have sleep-overs at friends' houses (boys and girls) at least once every two weeks in primary school, and my parents aren't anymore strict at all about it now (although chances are most girl's parents wouldn't let a boy sleepover). But my mum always knew my friends' parents really well in primary school, and I guess since everything went smoothly back then she's still relaxed about it enough to trust that nothing will go wrong now.
Maybe try getting your friend's parents to call yours? I can't really empathise because my parents are very atypical curries (never tell me to study, don't really have a curfew, will always give me permission to go out - though I'd never be allowed to drink or do anything vaguely related to that) but it's all about making them feel comfortable. Just don't do anything you'll regret because remember, in a few months you'll have a lot more free reign and you don't want to polarise your parents over something like this. Talk to them and find out what could possibly make them allow you to go.
Alternatively threaten to go on a study strike before exams :P
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Your response:
"If you disown me, then you will be a failed parent with no offspring to carry forth your legacy."
The differences between curries and white people...:P
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Sorry, but not letting your underage son/daughter stay out overnight with people you don't know is not really being overprotective.
This is true.
Once you turn 18, you can expect that your parents will be a bit more liberal about these sorts of things. Until then, sorry but you'll just have to go home at midnight (unless you can somehow convince your parents otherwise).
But seriously though, going home at midnight isn't even that bad. Most people will probably be burnt out by then so you won't miss out on much. Infact, you will probably enjoy your sleep more when you are in your own comfortable home than on the hard floor of a friend's house.
I don't know how old you are... I'm assuming about 16-17. Either way, it won't be long until you become an adult, get a driver's licence, go to university and get more freedom to do things like this regularly. All in due time, my friend :)
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Ah asian and curry parents.. gotta love em'
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Sorry, but not letting your underage son/daughter stay out overnight with people you don't know is not really being overprotective.
This is true.
Once you turn 18, you can expect that your parents will be a bit more liberal about these sorts of things. Until then, sorry but you'll just have to go home at midnight (unless you can somehow convince your parents otherwise).
But seriously though, going home at midnight isn't even that bad. Most people will probably be burnt out by then so you won't miss out on much. Infact, you will probably enjoy your sleep more when you are in your own comfortable home than on the hard floor of a friend's house.
I don't know how old you are... I'm assuming about 16-17. Either way, it won't be long until you become an adult, get a driver's licence, go to university and get more freedom to do things like this regularly. All in due time, my friend :)
haha no im 18.
ive been 18 for a few months actually
i dont know what to say them, all the suggestions made so far ... dont seem applicable.
ive tried the main points already and nothing seemed to work!
grr
theyre definitely aware of what happens at 18ths, and they probs dont care about that stuff.
its more the fact, they dont know my friend. (they dont know many ppl from school actually...), and so their line of argument is that, i cant sleepover, because they dont know my friend, what type of person he is. theyre also against the fact that this particular house is not his actual residence, its a rental property in town that is currently vacant.
im in a pickle really, i think i haven't got much 'a charnce' (haha get it, a charnce.... a char .... achar? )
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im in a pickle really, i think i haven't got much 'a charnce' (haha get it, a charnce.... a char .... achar? )
I LOL'd
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im in a pickle really, i think i haven't got much 'a charnce' (haha get it, a charnce.... a char .... achar? )
HAHAH, that's a gold call, i'm sorry you haven't got much 'charnce', but I honestly could not give a 'pickle'.