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Title: Gay marriage
Post by: Stick on April 04, 2013, 11:51:02 am
Yes, it's another one of "these threads". Although, I'm keen to explore another aspect of the discussion.

It has been widely reported that Generation Y are extremely supportive of gay marriage - some sources have even claimed that two thirds of this population are in favour of it. I'd like to see what your insight is on this issue, but also to see whether your background (encompassing your religion and ethnicity) has a significant effect on your viewpoint. If you don't mind, please answer the poll above and if you'd like, leave your thoughts below. :)
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Russ on April 04, 2013, 11:55:16 am
Sure, why not.

I don't care what you say in this thread, but you will say it in a manner that befits a discussion.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: slothpomba on April 04, 2013, 01:44:16 pm
Maybe it cause im into philosophy or whatever but these questions aren't exact mirrors of each-other  :o.

(1) Support gay marriage + background has "no specific view"

(2) Support gay marriage + background is "against gay marriage"

(3) Dont support gay marriage + background has "no specific view"

(4) Don't support gay marriage + background is "against gay marriage"

Putting aside questions of whether it is actually right or wrong,  one seems to assume that you have a background thats actively "against gay marriage" and some would label that a hateful upbringing but the other is a much more milder version, a wishy washy "no-specific views" which is fine but its no mirror of the first option.  That would be having a background "in favour of gay marriage". A lot of people might be "against gay marriage" because of their upbringing and parents and they never put a personal thought into it themselves but i cant see why the same isn't logically true for some people who are "in favour of gay marriage".
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: ShortBlackChick on April 04, 2013, 02:08:10 pm
I dont really think that background in terms of ethnicity and religion has to do with determining ones opinion towards gay marriage. The was I see it is that its not like religions and ethnicities have specifically outlined in their teachings that marriage between and man and a man and a woman and a woman is wrong. Someone please correct me if I'm wrong if there is a detailed disapproval against gay marriage in religious scriptures and if I am just purely ignorant to the teachings of some religions, but to my knowledge such teachings only go forth and specify what a marriage is eg. a union between Adam and Eve. But it does not go as far as to prohibiting gay marriage.

The point I am trying to make is that in the end it depends on YOUR own understanding and perception of the teachings of your religion that determines your views towards gay marriage, as it does towards any topics of debate. For example, whilst the conditions of a loving union is specified, Jesus also goes to say in The Gospels

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John 13:34 A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.

A Christian can make whatever decision as to what implication they believe towards the issue of gay marriage as there is not a strict prohibitation against it.

I myself am a Buddhist, and to my knowledge The Buddha did not ever say that he was against Gay Marriage. In terms of sexuality he was against monks having any sexual thoughts and partaking in sexual actions, but for non-clergy the only specification he gave was in the Five Precepts where he advised buddhists not to partake in 'sexual misconduct' but did not go as far as to define what this misconduct is. So it is up to us, as buddhists to come up with our own belief of what such misconduct is.

Just my opinion, because I'm finding it hard to answer the poll because I cant figure out my religion and backgrounds' disposition for gay marriage.

EDIT: I probably shouldnt have gone so far as generalising that its the same for all religions, but in my case, I'm confused.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: psyxwar on April 04, 2013, 02:22:31 pm
I dont really think that background in terms of ethnicity and religion has to do with determining ones opinion towards gay marriage. The was I see it is that its not like religions and ethnicities have specifically outlined in their teachings that marriage between and man and a man and a woman and a woman is wrong. Someone please correct me if I'm wrong if there is a detailed disapproval against gay marriage in religious scriptures and if I am just purely ignorant to the teachings of some religions, but to my knowledge such teachings only go forth and specify what a marriage is eg. a union between Adam and Eve. But it does not go as far as to prohibiting gay marriage.

The point I am trying to make is that in the end it depends on YOUR own understanding and perception of the teachings of your religion that determines your views towards gay marriage, as it does towards any topics of debate. For example, whilst the conditions of a loving union is specified, Jesus also goes to say in The Gospels

A Christian can make whatever decision as to what implication they believe towards the issue of gay marriage as there is not a strict prohibitation against it.

I myself am a Buddhist, and to my knowledge The Buddha did not ever say that he was against Gay Marriage. In terms of sexuality he was against monks having any sexual thoughts and partaking in sexual actions, but for non-clergy the only specification he gave was in the Five Precepts where he advised buddhists not to partake in 'sexual misconduct' but did not go as far as to define what this misconduct is. So it is up to us, as buddhists to come up with our own belief of what such misconduct is.

Just my opinion, because I'm finding it hard to answer the poll because I cant figure out my religion and backgrounds' disposition for gay marriage.

EDIT: I probably shouldnt have gone so far as generalising that its the same for all religions, but in my case, I'm confused.
The Old Testament is definitely very ant-gay (it isn't a matter of interpretation either, it's pretty clear cut): Leviticus 20:13 "If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads." I'm not too sure about the New Testament though.

Some religions have definite, anti-homosexual bits in their texts, but that doesn't necessarily mean all followers adhere to it. The Bible prohibits a lot of things and ultimately it'd be pretty silly to follow everything it says in today's society.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: abeybaby on April 04, 2013, 03:11:53 pm
psyxwar - The old testament is called the old testament because its.... the old way of living. Many christian traditions come from the old testament, but teaching/doctrine is from the New Testament. As ShortBlackChick said, a commandment to love one another obviously means just that - but that loving someone doesn't mean that you support their actions. Christ kept the company of prostitutes and thieves, He loved them, but He didn't support prostitution or theft. In the same way, the Bible teaches to love homosexuals, but that doesn't imply that it supports gay marriage.

My personal opinion is that I cannot support gay marriage - but i have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT to impose my morals on the rest of society through law. Because of this, I think gay marriage should be legal, but Churches should not be forced to conduct gay marriages (they can if theyre okay with it, but shouldn't have to if they're not).
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: psyxwar on April 04, 2013, 03:24:27 pm
psyxwar - The old testament is called the old testament because its.... the old way of living. Many christian traditions come from the old testament, but teaching/doctrine is from the New Testament. As ShortBlackChick said, a commandment to love one another obviously means just that - but that loving someone doesn't mean that you support their actions. Christ kept the company of prostitutes and thieves, He loved them, but He didn't support prostitution or theft. In the same way, the Bible teaches to love homosexuals, but that doesn't imply that it supports gay marriage.

My personal opinion is that I cannot support gay marriage - but i have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT to impose my morals on the rest of society through law. Because of this, I think gay marriage should be legal, but Churches should not be forced to conduct gay marriages (they can if theyre okay with it, but shouldn't have to if they're not).
I thought that Judaism still uses the Old Testament? I'm pretty sure the book of Leviticus is in the Torah anyway.

But that's beside the point. I see what you mean and agree -- you're entitled to your own beliefs, but forcing them upon others is wrong, especially if it affects their own rights. Might I ask why you hold such an opinion though? Religious reasons?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: BigAl on April 04, 2013, 05:11:24 pm
One word 7 letters: Freedom
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: slothpomba on April 04, 2013, 05:45:58 pm
In before religious shitstorm...

I dont really think that background in terms of ethnicity and religion has to do with determining ones opinion towards gay marriage.

Probably more in terms of culture of that ethnicity, i reckon it is at least partially true. It's not as if looking brown or asian will predispose you towards anything of course but growing up in any kind of culture will predispose you to all sorts of things. I don't mean your background, maybe having asian parents or something will predispose you to a whole bunch of things, maybe not but moreso than that is the culture where you grow up. We've all been influenced by Australian culture where there are gay couples on TV and its generally accepted, i reckon that plays some role in influencing how we think about it. Likewise, there are some cultures that would be the opposite and the contrary is true.

I'd be very careful to pin it all on religion. There are plenty of countries that are barely religious, especially former communist bloc countries like China and Russia were religion is very low but homosexuality is still looked down upon heavily. Calling yourself a Christian or Buddhist hardly makes you one if you never do anything related to it. I know people who are only very nominally religious but still don't approve of these kind of things.

Someone please correct me if I'm wrong if there is a detailed disapproval against gay marriage in religious scriptures and if I am just purely ignorant to the teachings of some religions, but to my knowledge such teachings only go forth and specify what a marriage is eg. a union between Adam and Eve. But it does not go as far as to prohibiting gay marriage.

Such a concept didn't exist 2000+ years ago in Palestine, its why the scriptures also say nothing about IVF, cocaine or hoverboards. Thats why its not disapproved of, so, don't take silence as a agreement, silence is just that, silence. It's neutral. Being homosexual is definitely not a sin though.

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A Christian can make whatever decision as to what implication they believe towards the issue of gay marriage as there is not a strict prohibitation against it.

I think this is a great point, it really is up to you what you want to believe. There are plenty of Christian denominations that are still true believers and have no problem with it. If you want to be against it, you'll find a way, if you want to be in favour of it, you'll find a way.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: abeybaby on April 04, 2013, 05:47:33 pm
A part of me tells me it's unnatural - that it doesn't make sense.. It's not the way things are intended to be (whether by nature, or deity). So it's something that I would never do.
But that doesn't apply to everyone, so YOU should be able to choose whatever YOU want, and as for me, I don't want to be gay, and I don't believe that I could ever 'discover' that I'm gay. I'd have to DECIDE to be gay. But who am I to stop someone else who decides/discovers they're gay (I know some people feel like they did discover their homosexuality, but I can't ever imagine how it could be a natural process. Other animals aren't gay. If any species all turned gay it would die out. That's why I can't agree that it's a discovery - to me, it's a decision)

EDIT: yes, judaism does go by the Torah (first 5 books of the OT) because they don't believe that Jesus was the Messiah, so yes, these first 5 books are the basis of Judaism
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: brenden on April 04, 2013, 05:52:01 pm
My personal opinion is that I cannot support gay marriage - but i have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT to impose my morals on the rest of society through law. Because of this, I think gay marriage should be legal, but Churches should not be forced to conduct gay marriages (they can if theyre okay with it, but shouldn't have to if they're not).
I respect this a lot, even though I disagree with you.

A part of me tells me it's unnatural - that it doesn't make sense.. It's not the way things are intended to be (whether by nature, or deity). So it's something that I would never do.
But that doesn't apply to everyone, so YOU should be able to choose whatever YOU want, and as for me, I don't want to be gay, and I don't believe that I could ever 'discover' that I'm gay. I'd have to DECIDE to be gay. But who am I to stop someone else who decides/discovers they're gay (I know some people feel like they did discover their homosexuality, but I can't ever imagine how it could be a natural process. Other animals aren't gay. If any species all turned gay it would die out. That's why I can't agree that it's a discovery - to me, it's a decision)
Well, you can't imagine choosing to be gay, right? But that's from your default of hetero. You never made a conscious decision to be straight, right? I certainly didn't. But would it be fair to say you discovered heterosexuality at the same time you discovered sexuality? It does not make logical sense to me that anyone would ever choose to be gay... I'd taken it as a matter of course that sexuality wasn't a choice (although I suppose you could make a concerted effort to choose, but I'd assume that would be very uncomfortable)
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: slothpomba on April 04, 2013, 05:54:45 pm
The Old Testament is definitely very ant-gay (it isn't a matter of interpretation either, it's pretty clear cut): Leviticus 20:13 "If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads." I'm not too sure about the New Testament though.

Some religions have definite, anti-homosexual bits in their texts, but that doesn't necessarily mean all followers adhere to it. The Bible prohibits a lot of things and ultimately it'd be pretty silly to follow everything it says in today's society.

The old testament is meant for one group of people, the ancient Jews who inhabited Israel. If you have any serious knowledge of biblical scholarship and aren't just cherry picking bad looking lines, i'm sure you'd know this. Many of those punishments, like capital punishment for reasons like this, are suspended in the absence of a proper Jewish religious court (Sanhedrin), even then, the evidence for these things was so strict that it was almost impossible to enforce properly. The old testament as little affect on Christianity in particular because it was replaced by a new covenant with God (the old testament was a covenant between the Jews and God) and most of the old laws were abrogated.

You can't just cherry pick a single line and pretend to be a historical, juristic and religious expert all of a sudden and know everything from that sole line.

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According to the Mishnah (Sanhedrin 1:4) the death penalty could only be inflicted, after  trial, by a Sanhedrin composed of twenty-three judges and there were four types of death penalty (Sanhedrin 7:1): stoning, burning, slaying (by the sword), and strangling. A bare reading of these and the other accounts in the tractate would seem to suggest a vast proliferation of the death penalty. Yet, throughout the Talmudic literature, this whole subject is viewed with unease, so much so that according to the rules stated in that literature the death penalty could hardly ever have been imposed.

For instance, it is ruled that two witnesses are required to testify not only that they witnessed the act for which the criminal has been charged but that they had warned him beforehand that if he carried out the act he would be executed, and he had to accept the warning, stating his willingness to commit the act despite his awareness of its consequences. The criminal's own confession is not accepted as evidence. Moreover, circumstantial evidence is not admitted.

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That the Mishnaic material is purely on the theoretical level can be seen from the oft-quoted statement (Mishnah Makkot 1:10): "A Sanhedrin that puts a man to death once in seven years is called destructive. Rabbi Eliezer ben Azariah says: even once in seventy years. Rabbi Akiba and Rabbi Tarfon say: had we been in the Sanhedrin none would ever have been put to death. Rabban Simeon ben Gamaliel says: they would have multiplied shedders of blood in Israel."

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Once the matter was discussed on a purely theoretical basis the gruesome details could be described in all their starkness while, at the same time, restrictions could be piled on in order to make the death penalty virtually impossible. In practice it became illegal for a Jewish court to impose the death penalty.

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The remarks of Rabbi Isaac Herzog (1888-1959) in an article on Sanhedrin published in 1932 are worth noting. Herzog begins: "I have often heard it remarked that the restoration of the Jewish State in accordance with Jewish law would isolate the Jewish people from the modern civilized world; for the Hebrew penal code includes the death-penalty for purely religious offences such as the willful desecration of the Sabbath, etc." Herzog, quoting the material mentioned above and other Talmudic sources which make the re-establishment of the Sanhedrin dependent on the rebuilding of the Temple in the Messianic age, demonstrates in his reply that until the advent of the Messiah it is illegal to impose the death penalty for any offence, even for murder. There follows this statement:

"The difficulty in question is therefore a matter which could only arise in the Messianic age and need not enter into any practical calculations affecting the reconstitution of the Jewish State in Palestine. But, of course, in view of the actual position the idea of a Jewish State in Palestine (as distinct from a National Home), quite irrespective of the restoration of the Temple, is, in itself, rather a Messianic hope than a question of practical politics."

Source

I'd be careful as referring to it as this:

I thought that Judaism still uses the Old Testament? I'm pretty sure the book of Leviticus is in the Torah anyway.

It can be taken as offensive. It adopts the view that the Christian bible with its old and new testaments must be the only right thing and the Jewish scripture is just plain wrong. The old testament is their only testament, it's their only God given holy book. It's not some old, superseded document for Jews, it is the document.

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One word 7 letters: Freedom

That's a real bad argument. Do i have the freedom to do surgery without a license? Do i have the freedom to walk into your house and steal your stuff? Of course not. There is no truely free society, laws exist to remove freedoms from us which we otherwise would have in a natural state with no government. No one wants total freedom and no laws, the question here is more where should be draw the line on issues.

Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Lolly on April 04, 2013, 06:15:25 pm
I dont really think that background in terms of ethnicity and religion has to do with determining ones opinion towards gay marriage. The was I see it is that its not like religions and ethnicities have specifically outlined in their teachings that marriage between and man and a man and a woman and a woman is wrong. Someone please correct me if I'm wrong if there is a detailed disapproval against gay marriage in religious scriptures and if I am just purely ignorant to the teachings of some religions, but to my knowledge such teachings only go forth and specify what a marriage is eg. a union between Adam and Eve. But it does not go as far as to prohibiting gay marriage.

EDIT: I probably shouldnt have gone so far as generalising that its the same for all religions, but in my case, I'm confused.
There are six verses in the Bible which specifically address homosexuality.
It's also most prominent in Romans Chapter 1  - it's not even a subtle hint. The rejection of homosexuality is spelt out pretty clearly. 

 As for me, I'm still trying to make sense of it all.

If I were to say that I didn't support gay marriage, I would be labeled a bigot and a zealot. To be honest, though, this is a stereotype perpetuated by the ugly words of certain individuals in the extreme right. Most people don't think like that at all. The Christians I know who reject homosexuality have compassion and respect for gay people. They regard homosexuality as a sin akin to greed, hatred, or lust. These are flaws that every single person possesses and one should not be held above another - nor should any stigma be attached to a homosexual person.  That's the line of thought i have heard among my friends, anyway.
 
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a commandment to love one another obviously means just that - but that loving someone doesn't mean that you support their actions. Christ kept the company of prostitutes and thieves, He loved them, but He didn't support prostitution or theft. In the same way, the Bible teaches to love homosexuals, but that doesn't imply that it supports gay marriage.
Basically, this.


However, if I were to say that I did support gay marriage ( And many of my Christian friends also support gay marriage) It would be on account of the fact that  I really do feel for gay people who have been ostracised or misunderstood, especially in the church. It would be an extremely difficult position to be a gay person in the church, to remain alone for the rest of their lives because homosexual relationships are not permitted and same sex unions are not blessed by the clergy. I think that homosexual people feel alienated by the church and this is an issue that must be addressed.

Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: brenden on April 04, 2013, 06:18:27 pm
So you're unsure if you support gay marriage, Loz?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on April 04, 2013, 06:35:11 pm
Marry me, kingpomba?

Okay, some necessary background on Leviticus. The oft-cited Leviticus 20:13 is part of a Parshah (the weekly Torah reading) named Kedoshim. Kedoshim is especially interesting for including what is quite possibly the strictest text and the most, uh, 'hippy' text in what is the strictest Torah book. According to the Documentary Hypothesis, Leviticus (as we know it today) was largely written by Jewish priests, or Kohanim during the Babylonian exile. According to this Priestly source, God is very much interested in rituals and laws, as well as being "distant and unmerciful". Some contend that it was only meant to apply to the Priests themselves when written.

Back to Kedoshim. Kedoshim combines some of the strictest text in the Torah, together with some of the most caring. Leviticus 19:9-18.
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9. When you reap the harvest of your land, you shall not fully reap the corner of your field, nor shall you gather the gleanings of your harvest.
10. And you shall not glean your vineyard, nor shall you collect the [fallen] individual grapes of your vineyard; you shall leave them for the poor and the stranger. I am the Lord, your God.
11. You shall not steal. You shall not deny falsely. You shall not lie, one man to his fellow.
12. You shall not swear falsely by My Name, thereby profaning the Name of your God. I am the Lord.
13. You shall not oppress your fellow. You shall not rob. The hired worker's wage shall not remain with you overnight until morning.
14. You shall not curse a deaf person. You shall not place a stumbling block before a blind person, and you shall fear your God. I am the Lord.     
15. You shall commit no injustice in judgment; you shall not favor a poor person or respect a great man; you shall judge your fellow with righteousness.
16. You shall not go around as a gossipmonger amidst your people. You shall not stand by [the shedding of] your fellow's blood. I am the Lord. :
17. You shall not hate your brother in your heart. You shall surely rebuke your fellow, but you shall not bear a sin on his account.
18. You shall neither take revenge from nor bear a grudge against the members of your people; you shall love your neighbor as yourself. I am the Lord.

And from there on, most of the Parshah are the commandments which people like to recite - no shaving, no tattoos, no having it up the butt with another guy. So let's skip to the interesting bits - Leviticus 20:8-22.

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8. And you shall observe My statutes and fulfill them. I am the Lord, Who sanctifies you.
9. For any man who curses his father or his mother shall be put to death; he has cursed his father or his mother; his blood is upon himself.
10. And a man who commits adultery with [another] man's wife, committing adultery with the wife of his fellow the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.
11. And a man who lies with his father's wife has uncovered his father's nakedness: both of them shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon themselves.
12. And a man who lies with his daughter in law both of them shall surely be put to death; they have committed a depravity; their blood is upon themselves.
13. And a man who lies with a male as one would with a woman both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon themselves.
14. And a man who takes a woman and her mother it is evil counsel. They shall burn him and them in fire, and there shall be no evil counsel in your midst.
15. And a man who lies with an animal, shall surely be put to death, and you shall kill the animal.
16. And a woman who comes close to any animal so that it will mate with her you shall kill the woman and the animal; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon themselves.
17. And a man who takes his sister, whether his father's daughter or his mother's daughter, and he sees her nakedness, and she sees his nakedness it is a disgraceful act, and they shall be cut off before the eyes of the members of their people; he uncovered his sister's nakedness; he shall bear his sin.
18. And a man who lies with a woman who has a flow, and he uncovers her nakedness he has bared her fountain, and she has uncovered the fountain of her blood. Both of them shall be cut off from the midst of their people.
19. And you shall not uncover the nakedness of your mother's sister or your father's sister, for he would be baring his close relative; they shall bear their sin.
20. And a man who lies with his aunt he has uncovered his uncle's nakedness; they shall bear their transgression; they shall die childless.
21. And a man who takes his brother's wife it is a repulsive act; he has uncovered his brother's nakedness; they shall be childless.
22. And you shall observe all My statutes and all My ordinances, and fulfill them, then the Land, to which I am bringing you to dwell therein, will not vomit you out.
So those are a whole lot of verses dealing with sexual misconduct, with the punishment for (almost) every case being killing the participants. Exile is also an option for some. These include having sex while on your period, adultery, bestiality, many different cases of incest, and two guys going at it.

Now, here is the interesting bit. Some say that these are simply cases of sexual misconduct, and all are equally bad. Others contend that these are not allowed because usually there is some sort of abuse going on, with the male being in an authoritative position over the female. Same-sex relationships at the time were usually a master and his servant, and therefore are also disallowed.

Now, as for how this all relates to the same-sex marriage argument. We allow people who commit adultery to later marry their lover, right? But the prohibiting verses are almost identical! Compare verses 10 and 13. And I don't see anyone suggesting we should go around punishing women who have sex on their periods... So why are we taking this one verse and glorifying it, holding it to be so important, while ignoring the other ones?

My own personal position? I don't see anything morally wrong with homosexuality or homosexual conduct, but even if I did, it's still not any of one's business. There is no rational reason for a State to disallow same-sex marriages. In order to deny equal treatment to a group of people, you need a very strong reason to do so (not Constitutionally in Australia, but things should certainly still operate this way).
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: CH3ezEC4KE on April 04, 2013, 06:58:21 pm


If I were to say that I didn't support gay marriage, I would be labeled a bigot and a zealot. To be honest, though, this is a stereotype perpetuated by the ugly words of certain individuals in the extreme right. Most people don't think like that at all. The Christians I know who reject homosexuality have compassion and respect for gay people. They regard homosexuality as a sin akin to greed, hatred, or lust. These are flaws that every single person possesses and one should not be held above another - nor should any stigma be attached to a homosexual person.  That's the line of thought i have heard among my friends, anyway.
  Basically, this.

+1

I have no idea where people are getting their info from, saying that the bible is vague on homosexuality. It actually is strongly against it
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on April 04, 2013, 07:06:46 pm
Just out of interest, can anyone here come up with a reason to prohibit same-sex marriage which is not grounded on religious beliefs?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: academicbulimia on April 04, 2013, 07:30:00 pm
Yes there are many religions that oppose homosexuality, but hey these religious "rules" apply only to those in that religion. Say a man disagreed with gay marriage because of his religion; he’ll make sure he doesn't marry another man to 'obey the rule'. But I believe that does NOT mean that he has the right to dictate if other individuals(who are outside their religion) can/cannot marry, this is simply absurd.

Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: academicbulimia on April 04, 2013, 07:31:07 pm
Just out of interest, can anyone here come up with a reason to prohibit same-sex marriage which is not grounded on religious beliefs?
I've heard a few, apparently marriage is traditionally about procreation?
Not my view though.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: AbominableMowman on April 04, 2013, 07:39:09 pm
Just out of interest, can anyone here come up with a reason to prohibit same-sex marriage which is not grounded on religious beliefs?
If we allow gay marriage, then who knows what will be next, maybe polygamy or even beastiality, which would cause problems..
Not saying its my view but I think it's an argument.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Lolly on April 04, 2013, 07:40:56 pm
Just out of interest, can anyone here come up with a reason to prohibit same-sex marriage which is not grounded on religious beliefs?

1) If you didn't believe in the institution of marriage - if you saw it as fundamentally archaic.
2)If you still believed in the institution of marriage as between a man and a woman only, but justified this on grounds that were not religious.
3) If you opposed or persecuted gay people on another ideological basis ( ie: gay people were persecuted during the Nazi regime and Holocaust) ( I deeply apologise for invoking Godwin's law upon this discussion)
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: thushan on April 04, 2013, 07:46:31 pm
If we allow gay marriage, then who knows what will be next, maybe polygamy or even beastiality, which would cause problems..
Not saying its my view but I think it's an argument.

An argument, but not a good one at all. Therefore not a valid one. :)

Polygamy is okay if all parties consent, bestiality no because animals cannot consent.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: brenden on April 04, 2013, 07:57:10 pm
I've heard a few, apparently marriage is traditionally about procreation?
Not my view though.
I would quite literally laugh in the face of anyone that said this to me. (not in your face though).. If we deny gay/les marriage solely based on the lakc of procreating ability then we should also prevent people who are infertile from marrying.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: psyxwar on April 04, 2013, 08:02:05 pm
The old testament is meant for one group of people, the ancient Jews who inhabited Israel. If you have any serious knowledge of biblical scholarship and aren't just cherry picking bad looking lines, i'm sure you'd know this. Many of those punishments, like capital punishment for reasons like this, are suspended in the absence of a proper Jewish religious court (Sanhedrin), even then, the evidence for these things was so strict that it was almost impossible to enforce properly. The old testament as little affect on Christianity in particular because it was replaced by a new covenant with God (the old testament was a covenant between the Jews and God) and most of the old laws were abrogated.

You can't just cherry pick a single line and pretend to be a historical, juristic and religious expert all of a sudden and know everything from that sole line.
I don't claim to have any serious knowledge of biblical scholarship. It's not a matter of cherry-picking bad looking lines; it's the fact that such lines exist in the first place -- why does it matter if it appears once, twice or a thousand times? If it mentions putting homosexuals to death, then that's pretty anti-homosexual is it not?

The thing you've seemed to miss is that I wasn't generalising and saying that Christians or Jews were anti-homosexual; I was merely saying that the Old Testament was anti-homosexual in response to someone's comment that religious scriptures don't explicitly prohibit such relations.

I don't see why it being difficult to enforce has any relevance to the scripture being against homosexuality. Honestly, I think you've misinterpreted my position.

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I'd be careful as referring to it as this:

It can be taken as offensive. It adopts the view that the Christian bible with its old and new testaments must be the only right thing and the Jewish scripture is just plain wrong. The old testament is their only testament, it's their only God given holy book. It's not some old, superseded document for Jews, it is the document.
Fair enough. I don't have much knowledge of Judaism and I wasn't aware that such terminology could be offensive.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on April 04, 2013, 08:02:25 pm
So... So far we have:

1. Marriage is about procreation.

If so, then should we disallow marriages between seniors? How about couples in which one of the partners is infertile? Justice Kagan did an excellent job at demonstrating how stupid this point is in the same-sex marriage case in the US.

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JUSTICE KAGAN: Well, suppose a State said, Mr. Cooper, suppose a State said that, Because we think that the focus of marriage really should be on procreation, we are not going to give marriage licenses anymore to any couple where both people are over the age of 55. Would that be constitutional?

MR. COOPER: No, Your Honor, it would not be constitutional.

JUSTICE KAGAN: Because that's the same State interest, I would think, you know. If you are over the age of 55, you don't help us serve the Government's interest in regulating procreation through marriage. So why is that different?

MR. COOPER: Your Honor, even with respect to couples over the age of 55, it is very rare that both couples -- both parties to the couple are infertile, and the traditional -­
(Laughter.)

JUSTICE KAGAN: No, really, because if the couple -- I can just assure you, if both the woman and the man are over the age of 55, there are not a lot of children coming out of that marriage.
(Laughter.)

2. Same-sex marriage would lead to polygamy or bestiality.

In each moral dilemma which comes before us, we have to judge it on its own merits. This way, you don't get those silly slippery slope cases. If you don't see anything wrong with same-sex marriage, then allow it. If you see something wrong with polygamy or bestiality, then don't allow it. (They are both morally interesting questions, but I don't want to drag this off-topic.) By the way, we've allowed gay sex in Victoria since 1981, but bestiality is still very much illegal.

3. You do not believe that civil marriage should exist at all

I'm fine with that. But as long as marriage exists legally, then equal rights should be afforded to everyone regardless of sexual orientation.

4. Belief in marriage as being between a man and a woman, but on non-religious grounds

Which grounds? This is exactly my question, come up with a valid non-religious reason to oppose same-sex marriage.

5. "If you opposed or persecuted gay people on another ideological basis ( ie: gay people were persecuted during the Nazi regime and Holocaust)"

But we agree that this is wrong, no? And therefore, an invalid reason.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: brenden on April 04, 2013, 08:05:44 pm
Just a note to anyone that wants to utilise the slippery slope argument - be prepared to distinguish between gay marriage and interracial marriage (same argument was used; "it's a monstrosity. It will lead to other monstrosities")
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: abeybaby on April 04, 2013, 08:19:06 pm
I think there is a valid argument - Allowing gay marriage can alter the structure of family. Does being raised by two dads or two mums have any bad consequences? I don't know if it does or not, but there's a point there. Should we then not allow gay married couples to have access to things like IVF? Or would it be better to allow only adoptions (2 dads is better than no dads). I haven't given these points enough thought to formulate an opinion, but on the face of it, i think they constitute valid points
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: psyxwar on April 04, 2013, 08:20:08 pm
To play devil's advocate: Jim Spiegel's argument against gay marriage:

1. Heterosexual union is the indispensable means by which humans come into existence and therefore has special social value (indeed, the greatest possible social value because it is the first precondition for society).

2. The indispensable means by which something of special social value can occur itself has special value.

3. What has special value to human society deserves special social recognition and sanction.

4. Civil ordinances which recognize gay marriage as comparable to heterosexual marriage constitute a rejection of the special value of heterosexual unions.

5. To deny the special social value of what has special social value is unjust.

6. Therefore, gay marriage is unjust.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on April 04, 2013, 08:31:31 pm
I think there is a valid argument - Allowing gay marriage can alter the structure of family. Does being raised by two dads or two mums have any bad consequences? I don't know if it does or not, but there's a point there. Should we then not allow gay married couples to have access to things like IVF? Or would it be better to allow only adoptions (2 dads is better than no dads). I haven't given these points enough thought to formulate an opinion, but on the face of it, i think they constitute valid points
Good, probably the first point meriting detailed attention :)

Well, firstly, there's the issue that in many jurisdictions, marriage and adoption are completely two different systems legally. As far as I know, it is entirely possible for a de-facto gay couple in Australia to adopt. In California, same-sex couples have the exact same adoption rights as straight couples. So marriage does not necessarily equate to adoption rights.

Secondly, there is certainly a strong argument to let same-sex couples adopt. Even if a same-sex household is not ideal (questionable, see below), then they would almost certainly still be in a better situation than they were in before.

Thirdly, we allow single parents to adopt. Is that better for the child than a same-sex couple adopting them?

There is no evidence whatsoever which suggests that children raised by same-sex couples are at a disadvantaged position, except due to the bigotry of those around them. They do not suffer from mental health problems at an any greater rate, make just as much or even more money than their peers, and are educated to the same degree as well.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: abeybaby on April 04, 2013, 08:34:51 pm
^ good points, but
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They do not suffer from mental health problems at an any greater rate, make just as much or even more money than their peers, and are educated to the same degree as well.
source?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: thushan on April 04, 2013, 08:38:35 pm
I think there is a valid argument - Allowing gay marriage can alter the structure of family. Does being raised by two dads or two mums have any bad consequences? I don't know if it does or not, but there's a point there. Should we then not allow gay married couples to have access to things like IVF? Or would it be better to allow only adoptions (2 dads is better than no dads). I haven't given these points enough thought to formulate an opinion, but on the face of it, i think they constitute valid points

We aren't sure on whether the consequences would be good or bad. We are not sure. And we don't anticipate any disastrous consequences, so we cannot use the precautionary principles here. Hence, we shouldn't be using the "alteration of the family structure" as a valid argument against gay marriage.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on April 04, 2013, 08:41:10 pm
^ good points, butsource?
American Psychological Association And again, as amicus curiae in the same-sex marriage case
Australian Psychological Society
Wikipedia
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: chasej on April 04, 2013, 10:24:30 pm
To play devil's advocate: Jim Spiegel's argument against gay marriage:

1. Heterosexual union is the indispensable means by which humans come into existence and therefore has special social value (indeed, the greatest possible social value because it is the first precondition for society).

2. The indispensable means by which something of special social value can occur itself has special value.

3. What has special value to human society deserves special social recognition and sanction.

4. Civil ordinances which recognize gay marriage as comparable to heterosexual marriage constitute a rejection of the special value of heterosexual unions.

5. To deny the special social value of what has special social value is unjust.

6. Therefore, gay marriage is unjust.

In my opinion  the guy just repeated an argument that is used often but used big words to sound smart.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: chasej on April 04, 2013, 10:28:15 pm
I think there is a valid argument - Allowing gay marriage can alter the structure of family. Does being raised by two dads or two mums have any bad consequences? I don't know if it does or not, but there's a point there. Should we then not allow gay married couples to have access to things like IVF? Or would it be better to allow only adoptions (2 dads is better than no dads). I haven't given these points enough thought to formulate an opinion, but on the face of it, i think they constitute valid points

Really, if it was true that children needed a heterosexual couple to raise them in order for them to develop properly than shouldn't single parents and the divorce/separation of couples which already have children be banned?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Greatness on April 04, 2013, 10:41:12 pm
I have a similar view to abes. I don't think it's 'meant to be' (what is 'meant to be' then?.. ) for the purposes of natural reproduction and the continuation of life itself, I believe heterosexual relationships is how it's 'meant to be', so in that regard I'm against gay marriage. But also, I have no right to tell someone how to live their life, I respect their decisions and they can do as they please. If gay marriage is legalised then so be it, it seems that this is where society is heading and becoming much more socially acceptable.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: spectroscopy on April 04, 2013, 10:43:18 pm
for the arguement about raising children in gay couples, it has been proven to have a negative effect on children
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 There are eight outcome variables where differences between the children of homosexual parents and married parents were not only present, and favorable to the married parents, but where these findings were statistically significant for both children of lesbian mothers and "gay" fathers and both with and without controls. While all the findings in the study are important, these are the strongest possible ones--virtually irrefutable. Compared with children raised by their married biological parents (IBF), children of homosexual parents (LM and GF):
Are much more likely to have received welfare (IBF 17%; LM 69%; GF 57%)
Have lower educational attainment
Report less safety and security in their family of origin
Report more ongoing "negative impact" from their family of origin
Are more likely to suffer from depression
Have been arrested more often
If they are female, have had more sexual partners--both male and female
The high mathematical standard of "statistical significance" was more difficult to reach for the children of "gay fathers" in this study because there were fewer of them. The following, however, are some additional areas in which the children of lesbian mothers (who represented 71% of all the children with homosexual parents in this study) differed from the IBF children, in ways that were statistically significant in both a direct comparison and with controls. Children of lesbian mothers:
Are more likely to be currently cohabiting
Are almost 4 times more likely to be currently on public assistance
Are less likely to be currently employed full-time
Are more than 3 times more likely to be unemployed
Are nearly 4 times more likely to identify as something other than entirely heterosexual
Are 3 times as likely to have had an affair while married or cohabiting
Are an astonishing 10 times more likely to have been "touched sexually by a parent or other adult caregiver."
Are nearly 4 times as likely to have been "physically forced" to have sex against their will
Are more likely to have "attachment" problems related to the ability to depend on others
Use marijuana more frequently
Smoke more frequently
Watch TV for long periods more frequently
Have more often pled guilty to a non-minor offense

source you say?

[1] Mark Regnerus, "How different are the adult children of parents who have same-sex relationships? Findings from the New Family Structures Study," Social Science Research Vol 41, Issue 4 (July 2012), pp. 752-770; online at: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0049089X12000610
[2] Loren Marks, "Same-sex parenting and children's outcomes: A closer examination of the American Psychological Association's brief on lesbian and gay parenting," Social Science Research Vol 41, Issue 4 (July 2012), pp. 735-751; online at: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0049089X12000580
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: chasej on April 04, 2013, 10:55:29 pm
for the arguement about raising children in gay couples, it has been proven to have a negative effect on children
a quote
 There are eight outcome variables where differences between the children of homosexual parents and married parents were not only present, and favorable to the married parents, but where these findings were statistically significant for both children of lesbian mothers and "gay" fathers and both with and without controls. While all the findings in the study are important, these are the strongest possible ones--virtually irrefutable. Compared with children raised by their married biological parents (IBF), children of homosexual parents (LM and GF):
Are much more likely to have received welfare (IBF 17%; LM 69%; GF 57%)
Have lower educational attainment
Report less safety and security in their family of origin
Report more ongoing "negative impact" from their family of origin
Are more likely to suffer from depression
Have been arrested more often
If they are female, have had more sexual partners--both male and female
The high mathematical standard of "statistical significance" was more difficult to reach for the children of "gay fathers" in this study because there were fewer of them. The following, however, are some additional areas in which the children of lesbian mothers (who represented 71% of all the children with homosexual parents in this study) differed from the IBF children, in ways that were statistically significant in both a direct comparison and with controls. Children of lesbian mothers:
Are more likely to be currently cohabiting
Are almost 4 times more likely to be currently on public assistance
Are less likely to be currently employed full-time
Are more than 3 times more likely to be unemployed
Are nearly 4 times more likely to identify as something other than entirely heterosexual
Are 3 times as likely to have had an affair while married or cohabiting
Are an astonishing 10 times more likely to have been "touched sexually by a parent or other adult caregiver."
Are nearly 4 times as likely to have been "physically forced" to have sex against their will
Are more likely to have "attachment" problems related to the ability to depend on others
Use marijuana more frequently
Smoke more frequently
Watch TV for long periods more frequently
Have more often pled guilty to a non-minor offense

source you say?

[1] Mark Regnerus, "How different are the adult children of parents who have same-sex relationships? Findings from the New Family Structures Study," Social Science Research Vol 41, Issue 4 (July 2012), pp. 752-770; online at: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0049089X12000610
[2] Loren Marks, "Same-sex parenting and children's outcomes: A closer examination of the American Psychological Association's brief on lesbian and gay parenting," Social Science Research Vol 41, Issue 4 (July 2012), pp. 735-751; online at: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0049089X12000580

The one by Mark Regnerus: http://thinkprogress.org/lgbt/2012/10/30/1110591/regnerus-admits-gay-parenting/?mobile=nc

The one by Loren Marks: Although was published in 2012 is about an APA policy brief written in 2005 and the studies it relied on. I am bothered by the fact it admits omits the last 7 years of social science. That doesn't mean it is wrong but society has changed dramatically since 2005.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on April 04, 2013, 11:18:20 pm
To play devil's advocate: Jim Spiegel's argument against gay marriage:

1. Heterosexual union is the indispensable means by which humans come into existence and therefore has special social value (indeed, the greatest possible social value because it is the first precondition for society).

2. The indispensable means by which something of special social value can occur itself has special value.

3. What has special value to human society deserves special social recognition and sanction.

4. Civil ordinances which recognize gay marriage as comparable to heterosexual marriage constitute a rejection of the special value of heterosexual unions.

5. To deny the special social value of what has special social value is unjust.

6. Therefore, gay marriage is unjust.
Just about all of those premises are false. But let's just start with the first one - marriage is not indispensable. From there on, the whole thing falls.

Now, as for aalexx' assertion that parenting by a same-sex couple has a detrimental effect on children.

Firstly, I'll take the APA and AMA's word over a couple of nobodies any day. Both studies have been discredited.

We've already established that the issues of gay parenting and marriage are separate. No case has been made against same-sex marriage.

In fact, using your logic, same-sex marriage would actually be a positive thing... Give the children the stability of marriage and what not. Unless you actually think that gay people are bad and can't be good parents.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: psyxwar on April 04, 2013, 11:31:59 pm
Just about all of those premises are false. But let's just start with the first one - marriage is not indispensable. From there on, the whole thing falls.

When Spiegel refers to "heterosexual union" he is not referring to marriage, rather he's referring to heterosexual relationships. He uses the two terms separately in his argument. Heterosexual unions are arguably indispensable for obvious reasons (procreation).
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: brenden on April 04, 2013, 11:34:46 pm
The argument still falls apart when we take apart it's premises.

"Therefore has special social value" - He'd have to first prove that social values are inherent and objective first. The indispensable nature of hetero relationships don't make it socially special. P1 - No.

->won't bother continuing to premise 2.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: psyxwar on April 04, 2013, 11:38:12 pm
The argument still falls apart when we take apart it's premises.

"Therefore has special social value" - He'd have to first prove that social values are inherent and objective first. The indispensable nature of hetero relationships don't make it socially special. P1 - No.

->won't bother continuing to premise 2.
Why doesn't it? Social value means the value such relationships hold in regards to society right? Without heterosexual unions, there would be no society. The fact that heterosexual unions are necessary for society to exist means that it does have a "special" social value.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Tomw2 on April 05, 2013, 12:01:07 am
Why doesn't it? Social value means the value such relationships hold in regards to society right? Without heterosexual unions, there would be no society. The fact that heterosexual unions are necessary for society to exist means that it does have a "special" social value, at least when compared to homosexual unions.

I completely agree with Brendinkles, but am willing to give logical leeway on the "special social value" contention - it all still falls down regardless of whether you agree with statement 1 or not.

To play devil's advocate: Jim Spiegel's argument against gay marriage:
1. Heterosexual union is the indispensable means by which humans come into existence and therefore has special social value (indeed, the greatest possible social value because it is the first precondition for society).

Putting aside the subtext and relevance issues of the term 'union' in the discussion of 'marriage' rights, perhaps a fair statement.

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2. The indispensable means by which something of special social value can occur itself has special value.

What exactly the indispensable means entails is not self evident here, but sure.

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3. What has special value to human society deserves special social recognition and sanction.

Yes, but what form the "special social recognition" must/should take and what "sanction" must/should entail is not self evident nor objective. "Sanction" in particular. The logic really starts to get murky here.

From this statement, is not self evident that we should do anything other than allow heterosexual "unions" to take place and take steps to ensure that nothing prevents them from taking place.

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4. Civil ordinances which recognize gay marriage as comparable to heterosexual marriage constitute a rejection of the special value of heterosexual unions.

And there's the logical fallacy that seemingly cannot be avoided.

"Recognising [gay marriage] as comparable" only constitutes a "rejection of the special value" if you agree that the special value is derived purely from exclusivity of recognition alone.

The "special value" is, according this persons own logic, derived from the exclusive ability of male + female to perpetuate the species.

Its suspiciously unclear why a heterosexual-exclusive marriage right is the sole and only form "special social recognition" can/should take.

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5. To deny the special social value of what has special social value is unjust.

Recognising gay marriage as legitimate does not deny the special social value of heterosexual unions, unless you agree that exclusive marriage rights are the sole and only way we (meaning society) can/should recognise the special value of heterosexual unions.

Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Tomw2 on April 05, 2013, 12:09:40 am
for the arguement about raising children in gay couples, it has been proven to have a negative effect on children

Comparable (and similarly murky) statistics can be cleverly presented to represent all families where the parents are from a minority social/political/religious/cultural or ethnic group or disadvantaged socio-economic background.

Perhaps we should withhold marriage rights from uneducated blue collar workers from a minority ethic background with high amounts of household debt? After all, think of the poor children.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Tomw2 on April 05, 2013, 01:09:22 am
Plus, claiming that reproduction confers special social values is a baseless assertion and I don't even know how he got to that point

I think most societies/individuals do place special social value on reproduction and that part alone isn't that contentious.

It's the part where people claim that theres some kind of natural mandate to defend that 'special social value' through legally enforced heterosexual-exclusive marriage. It gets arbitrary at that point.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: ShortBlackChick on April 05, 2013, 04:46:01 pm
Does the bible say I cant marry my car? Because I want to marry my car. He's the bomb.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: abeybaby on April 05, 2013, 06:02:16 pm
Does the bible say I cant marry my car? Because I want to marry my car. He's the bomb.
This is why I want upvote buttons in Rants and Debates
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: ShortBlackChick on April 05, 2013, 07:43:46 pm
Im actually deadly serious. I cant trust people. We fuck up. My car is amaaaaaazing. He does everything I want him to, he loves unconditionally, regardless of how much of a fuckhead I am, he does what I tell him to even if its hard and could hurt him. All I do is abuse him in return.

Honestly, if you like it then why the fuck cant you put a ring on it?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: psyxwar on April 05, 2013, 08:01:30 pm
Im actually deadly serious. I cant trust people. We fuck up. My car is amaaaaaazing. He does everything I want him to, he loves unconditionally, regardless of how much of a fuckhead I am, he does what I tell him to even if its hard and could hurt him. All I do is abuse him in return.

Honestly, if you like it then why the fuck cant you put a ring on it?
Marriage is by definition mutually consensual (and obviously your amazing car can't consent), though you probably could in some countries. I know guys in Japan have married video game characters.

Recognising gay marriage as legitimate does not deny the special social value of heterosexual unions, unless you agree that exclusive marriage rights are the sole and only way we (meaning society) can/should recognise the special value of heterosexual unions.
The way things are currently heterosexual marriage is this "special sanction" for straight unions; if we were to elevate gay union to the same level (gay marriage) then the two become equal. Because of the fact that they are not equal (as straight union = procreation, gay union does not), treating them as such undermines this "special sanction" of straight marriage.

This is of course assuming that premise 3 is true... which I'm not really inclined to agree with anyway
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on April 05, 2013, 08:04:28 pm
The way things are currently heterosexual marriage is this "special sanction" for straight unions; if we were to elevate gay union to the same level (gay marriage) then the two become equal. Because of the fact that they are not equal (as straight union = procreation, gay union does not), treating them as such undermines this "special sanction" of straight marriage.
Except that many straight unions have nothing to do with procreation, rather with love. Unless you suppose that two 55 year olds marrying is going to bring about children somehow. That's perfectly legal.

So, using your logic, should we limit marriage to fertile opposite-sex couples?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: psyxwar on April 05, 2013, 08:26:54 pm
So, using your logic, should we limit marriage to fertile opposite-sex couples?
Not at all. That's like saying we should limit human rights to those with two eyes, two arms, two legs etc. Humans are humans, regardless of whether or not they possess all the characteristics a "normal" human does; in the same vein, a straight couple that lacks the ability to procreate, either due to age or some kind of defect is still a straight couple. Heterosexual marriage is the "special sanction" for straight unions and not for procreation -- sure, the ultimate reason why such unions are "special" in the first place is due to the ability to procreate, but that doesn't mean that only those who are able to procreate fall under this "straight union" umbrella.

To use an analogy -- let's say there's a country that prohibits the eating of dogs because they are "a man's best friend"/ good companions/ insert other reasons why eating dogs is frowned upon in our society. Does that mean that a man in this country should be able to eat a dog that is, for whatever reason (eg. PTSD in dogs?),  hostile towards him?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on April 05, 2013, 08:40:55 pm
Doesn't work. We're talking about a significant subset of marriages, not a couple of exceptions. And looking at the original argument, it argues that since procreation is indispensable, then somehow heterosexual unions are - but there is no assured link between the two.

Basically, there are so many ways to deconstruct that argument it's a joke.

Anyone else gonna attempt a crack at a non-religious argument against ssm? There was an argument against same-sex couples adopting, but that is a completely separate issue from marriage. Marriage is governed under Federal law in Australia, adoption State. The funny thing is that in Victoria, an (gay) individual can adopt but not a same-sex couple...
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: psyxwar on April 05, 2013, 08:47:34 pm
Doesn't work. We're talking about a significant subset of marriages, not a couple of exceptions. And looking at the original argument, it argues that since procreation is indispensable, then somehow heterosexual unions are - but there is no assured link between the two.
It is still very much the minority. How many people do you think actually get married in their 50s, as opposed to being in a marriage in their 50s because they married previously? The subset of humans that lack certain characteristics (like functional limbs for example) is also pretty sizable.

Of course there is a link. The vast majority of procreation happens in these unions -- sure, you will have people who have sex and get pregnant outside of marriage, but most people who have their own children do so in a family.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: chasej on April 05, 2013, 10:00:45 pm
. The vast majority of procreation happens in these unions -- sure, you will have people who have sex and get pregnant outside of marriage, but most people who have their own children do so in a family.

Not really true. I don't know the Australian statistics but in the US 41% of babies are born out of wedlock. In some areas that the rate is well over 50%.

The "traditional marriage" has already been destroyed, we have couples which live with each other for 30 years and never get married, people that have one night stands and children that grow up never knowing their birth father, celebrities that use marriage for money making (kardashian *cough cough*), single parents, even believe it or not relationships between black and white people used to be looked down upon and many argued this would be destroyed and that would be destroyed in society, 50 years on and the world hasn't suddenly blown apart and the western world hasn't descended into some sort of perverted lawless wasteland.

People only oppose it because they have their own insecurities being scared of the unknown and change, two people that love each other shouldn't be told their love isn't as important as someone else's just because someone else thinks gay sex is icky or a sin.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: psyxwar on April 05, 2013, 10:17:12 pm
Not really true. I don't know the Australian statistics but in the US 41% of babies are born out of wedlock. In some areas that the rate is well over 50%.
That simply means they're not married, not that they're not engaged in a relationship.
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People only oppose it because they have their own insecurities being scared of the unknown and change, two people that love each other shouldn't be told their love isn't as important as someone else's just because someone else thinks gay sex is icky or a sin.
I agree with you here to some extent, though I wouldn't go as far as to say the only reason people oppose it is due to their own insecurities/ scared of change. I'm fully in support of gay marriage by the way.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: lala1911 on April 05, 2013, 10:46:45 pm
All I am going to say is that I do not support it. Also, to answer the second part of the question, I was raised in a household where homosexuality is forbidden and frowned upon.

I'm expecting someone to quickly attack me on my view actually. So I'll edit and add in this:
- It doesn't bother me if gay marriage was legalised. If it was, so be it, I'm not going to go out of my way to amend the law and join protests. I dont go and discriminate against gay people as well. I wouldn't even care if it was legalised.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Limista on April 05, 2013, 11:54:21 pm
I haven't read all the replies (considering there's about 60!), but to keep the fire burning I'll just add my own little take:

I feel uncomfortable when I see any form of intimacy between gay people (excluding hugging of course. I'm talking about kissing etc..). I guess this is because of the way I was brought up - sex of any form wasn't exactly discussed in the household. It was just one of those taboo and tacit topics which my parents just assumed I knew about. So if sex is not a conversation topic, then homosexuality is definitely out of the question! I guess this parochial mindset or upbringing contributed to the prejudice I have against gay people - I see it as an abnormal relationship that's kind of "icky".

That said, I would never discriminate against them. Let them marry if they want, let them have all the liberty they yearn for and let them parade their marital status. But I'll still be feeling nauseous all the same, when they do their 'up close and personal' public displays of affection.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: JellyDonut on April 06, 2013, 12:17:30 am
It doesn't bother me if gay marriage was legalised. If it was, so be it, I'm not going to go out of my way to amend the law and join protests. I dont go and discriminate against gay people as well. I wouldn't even care if it was legalised.
Do you support gay marriage in principle?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: lala1911 on April 06, 2013, 12:25:22 am
Do you support gay marriage in principle?
No I don't.
I don't want to be involved in a debate about this though.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: thushan on April 06, 2013, 09:48:08 am
I haven't read all the replies (considering there's about 60!), but to keep the fire burning I'll just add my own little take:

I feel uncomfortable when I see any form of intimacy between gay people (excluding hugging of course. I'm talking about kissing etc..). I guess this is because of the way I was brought up - sex of any form wasn't exactly discussed in the household. It was just one of those taboo and tacit topics which my parents just assumed I knew about. So if sex is not a conversation topic, then homosexuality is definitely out of the question! I guess this parochial mindset or upbringing contributed to the prejudice I have against gay people - I see it as an abnormal relationship that's kind of "icky".

That said, I would never discriminate against them. Let them marry if they want, let them have all the liberty they yearn for and let them parade their marital status. But I'll still be feeling nauseous all the same, when they do their 'up close and personal' public displays of affection.

Ah :/ sorry to hear that. I get what you mean, it is hard to change your innate tendencies that were shaped by your upbringing. That said though, I am impressed that despite the fact you are super uncomfortable, you understand that it's something that you have to master, rather than something that can be dealt with by stripping gay people of their rights.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Lolly on April 06, 2013, 11:34:08 am
I don't think that fear should be one's guiding principle in making judgements about this issue. I understand both lala and Starfish's position of not being brought up with any discussion of sex or sexual behaviour. ( this hasn't been the case for me, but I can empathise with being brought up in a fairly conservative background when it comes to these matters.)  However surely this aversion can be overcome? If you're going to live honestly,  the reality of homosexuality can't be avoided.  I guarantee that you will confront its existence within your lifetime.  I understand if you don't want to discuss the topic here, but  I think it's important for /yourself/ that you critically appraise why you feel the way you do and assess if it has a rational basis.  If you reject homosexuality, fine, but find a reason for it.  If it helps,  this is what I'm trying to do now. I want to challenge myself and form a justified opinion that is fair and honest and takes a number of factors into account.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Russ on April 06, 2013, 12:26:54 pm
Anyone else gonna attempt a crack at a non-religious argument against ssm?

Marriage is not a civil right but a social construct and should be subject to social approval

Marriage as an institution is not a desirable entity and something that should be reduced rather than expanded (ugh I need to read less feminist crap)

Also what's wrong with arguments with a religous basis



Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: thushan on April 06, 2013, 12:31:46 pm
Marriage is not a civil right but a social construct and should be subject to social approval

Marriage as an institution is not a desirable entity and something that should be reduced rather than expanded (ugh I need to read less feminist crap)

Also what's wrong with arguments with a religous basis

Marriage is a social construct that comes with connotations of commitment and legitimacy that should be enjoyed by homosexuals too.
"Marriage as an institution is not a desirable entity and something that should be reduced rather than expanded" - that may or may not happen over time, but in the meantime homosexuals should have the right to enjoy such a union.
Arguments with a religious basis are often based on axiomatic premises, of which many are flawed.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Russ on April 06, 2013, 12:46:04 pm
Marriage is a social construct that comes with connotations of commitment and legitimacy that should be enjoyed by homosexuals too.

Why? It's a social construct, it's the product of the entire society not of what you think it should be.

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"Marriage as an institution is not a desirable entity and something that should be reduced rather than expanded" - that may or may not happen over time, but in the meantime homosexuals should have the right to enjoy such a union.

That's completely sidestepping what I said.

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Arguments with a religious basis are often based on axiomatic premises, of which many are flawed.

So we scrap them all from the start?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: thushan on April 06, 2013, 02:49:13 pm
Why? It's a social construct, it's the product of the entire society not of what you think it should be.

That's completely sidestepping what I said.

So we scrap them all from the start?

If that's the case it's not a legitimate social construct and reflects, if your conclusion is correct, society's discrimination on homosexuals.

No it isn't. If you want to get rid of marriage, get rid of it altogether, don't allow it for one group and not another for an unfair reason - that's discrimination.

No, address the points on their merits, but don't take them as gospel simply because they are in a religious text.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: brenden on April 06, 2013, 03:17:29 pm
Russ has a thinker.

Marriage is not a civil right but a social construct and should be subject to social approval

I think this argument is weaker in a Western society with rights based on the individual and the importance assigned to the individual. If we accept there is a greater emphasis on an individual's rights in Western society (I really think you have to), then I'd argue the right to equality (even if that in itself is a social construct) supersedes disapproval from societal facets.

Also what's wrong with arguments with a religious basis
Well, many would assign religious principles to non-religious, which is just absurd. Let's inverse this. "As an atheist, I believe praying is absolutely useless and yields no results. Because of this, praying is a waste of time that could be used more productively. Therefore, praying is wrong and people shouldn't pray." -> And then an atheist group tried to enforce this principle on the religious. So; denying x from party G because of principle z should not apply when party G is not subject to principle z.
I guess the obvious rebuttal to that is "marriage is a religious ceremony" but I don't think you can say that statement with certainty. Non-religious African tribes used to jump over a broom to signify marriage, long before Western religion had raped their culture.

I have an argument for your second point but I'd rather think about it a little bit more before I make myself look like a dickhead.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: chasej on April 06, 2013, 06:29:46 pm
Marriage is not a civil right but a social construct and should be subject to social approval

Marriage as an institution is not a desirable entity and something that should be reduced rather than expanded (ugh I need to read less feminist crap)

Also what's wrong with arguments with a religous basis

If you use a religious based argument and say this is why no one can ever do this then you are forcing your religious belief on others by saying. "My religion say this is a sin, therefore no one regardless of whether the follow my beliefs or not can partake in the practice". That's not fair.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Russ on April 06, 2013, 09:39:16 pm
If that's the case it's not a legitimate social construct and reflects, if your conclusion is correct, society's discrimination on homosexuals.

How on earth is it not a social construct? Because you say so? You're just repeating what you said before. The fact that you say it's not "legitimate" (what?) doesn't mean anything. Discrimination also doesn't mean anything, if you believe that there is a mandate to uphold what the most accepted form of a concept is.

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No it isn't. If you want to get rid of marriage, get rid of it altogether, don't allow it for one group and not another for an unfair reason - that's discrimination.

Yes it is. You don't solve a problem by temporarily making it worse in the interest of "fairness". That's not relevant at all to the point, which is that marriage is not desirable. It's a cop-out to say that "we'll solve the problem eventually, but in the mean time lets do something unrelated and worse".

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No, address the points on their merits, but don't take them as gospel simply because they are in a religious text.

So you agree then, that there can be religious objections, depending on what they are?
(also goes for the other two comments here)

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I think this argument is weaker in a Western society with rights based on the individual and the importance assigned to the individual. If we accept there is a greater emphasis on an individual's rights in Western society (I really think you have to), then I'd argue the right to equality (even if that in itself is a social construct) supersedes disapproval from societal facets.

What makes marriage a civil/human right? It's something that evolved alongside society and humanity and the only value it has is the value society places on it; how can you, as an individual, decide to redefine it.

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I guess the obvious rebuttal to that is "marriage is a religious ceremony" but I don't think you can say that statement with certainty.

Perhaps not with certainty, but it is undeniable that marriage and religion are intrinsically linked in Australian culture. Do religous organisations have to provide same sex marriages, irrespective of whether they are legalized?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: brenden on April 06, 2013, 10:45:26 pm
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What makes marriage a civil/human right? It's something that evolved alongside society and humanity and the only value it has is the value society places on it; how can you, as an individual, decide to redefine it.
Sorry, the point of my post was that equality is the right that is being denied and that as a Western society, individual rights supersedes communal views.

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Perhaps not with certainty, but it is undeniable that marriage and religion are intrinsically linked in Australian culture. Do religous organisations have to provide same sex marriages, irrespective of whether they are legalized?
If I were the lawmaker and wanted to keep things fair, I'd give individual churches (Church of Narre Warren, not Catholic Church) the option to opt out of marrying gay couples.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: availn on April 06, 2013, 10:56:25 pm
Perhaps not with certainty, but it is undeniable that marriage and religion are intrinsically linked in Australian culture. Do religous organisations have to provide same sex marriages, irrespective of whether they are legalized?

Separation of church and state is kinda a thing here. The government should not be able to force the church to recognise gay marriage. Likewise, the church should not have any say when it comes to the law. Section 116 of the Constitution of Australia states that "The Commonwealth shall not make any law... for imposing any religious observance, or for prohibiting the free exercise of any religion"

Religion is pretty irrelevant in this argument. Usually when discussing this, I just use "civil union" to mean a legal, non-religious marriage, as it makes it easier to convey whether you are talking about a religious or secular marriage. Pretty much, I believe that gay couples should be allowed civil union, and they would considered just as married as a straight couple who also had a non-religious marriage. Of course, the church doesn't have to pay heed to any of this, and I doubt that it is even possible to make them do so if we tried. They have their rights to maintain their views, just as much as we have to ours, and we cannot impose our views on each other.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: thushan on April 06, 2013, 11:24:02 pm
How on earth is it not a social construct? Because you say so? You're just repeating what you said before. The fact that you say it's not "legitimate" (what?) doesn't mean anything. Discrimination also doesn't mean anything, if you believe that there is a mandate to uphold what the most accepted form of a concept is.

Yes it is. You don't solve a problem by temporarily making it worse in the interest of "fairness". That's not relevant at all to the point, which is that marriage is not desirable. It's a cop-out to say that "we'll solve the problem eventually, but in the mean time lets do something unrelated and worse".

So you agree then, that there can be religious objections, depending on what they are?
(also goes for the other two comments here)

What makes marriage a civil/human right? It's something that evolved alongside society and humanity and the only value it has is the value society places on it; how can you, as an individual, decide to redefine it.

Perhaps not with certainty, but it is undeniable that marriage and religion are intrinsically linked in Australian culture. Do religous organisations have to provide same sex marriages, irrespective of whether they are legalized?

Okay...I guess I'm just stupid :/ I'll leave this conversation.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: BubbleWrapMan on April 07, 2013, 12:26:59 am
I'm somewhat ambivalent about this, mainly due to the issue of what marriage actually means these days. I'm all for homosexual couples being allowed to be together, but the current issue is somewhat removed from this, which is kind of sad.

When I think of marriage, I don't necessarily think of it being something that's entirely good. Not that it isn't a beautiful thing at times, but it has been abused to no end. I also think of whether this kind of status actually matters. It is of course an artificial construct and so has no inherent meaning, so I feel that if the world were exactly the same as it is now, except without marriage having introduced, homosexuals and their proponents would be exactly where they want to be.

This is a farfetched scenario, but it's more for illustrative purposes. Marriage is somewhat erroneously placed on a pedestal, despite its abuse and subsequent weakened meaning. This glorification, in somewhat crude terms, makes gay couples think 'I want that', when it wouldn't necessarily be an improvement on their life or relationship. It feels like it's more that they want it just because others have it.

That said, there's still no point in going out of our way to prevent it, but there's still no point in going out of our way to introduce it. Obviously religion is heavily tied into it, and the Bible isn't being rewritten anytime soon, so legalising it's just going to be more trouble than it's worth. I feel this is the only deterrent; if religion weren't an issue, there wouldn't be a legitimate reason to not introduce gay marriage at this point.

The religious connotations contradict the motive for gay marriage to an extent, since I would imagine anyone (or at least a majority of people) who would enter into a gay marriage would not be religious, and would therefore have no interest in religious ceremonies. A civil union seems to be what is actually sought, but I guess it doesn't have the same ring to it.

This is more just me, but I don't feel that external recognition is important in a relationship. I understand that feeling like you have to (and actually having to) hide your relationship can be difficult. But our society is mostly past that point now; it's only really a legal barrier rather than a social barrier, at least from my experience. If a guy can hold a guy's hand in public without anyone batting an eye, then that's about as much acceptance as you'd need. Well, maybe I speak for myself. I care more about internal recognition of love. External recognition is just a bonus in my eyes. I understand not everyone feels that way, but if internal validation is lacking then I don't know how many problems getting married will solve.

If I love someone, I'd be happy to live with them, and have, or adopt, children with them. Marriage just happens to exist, so it shouldn't really affect something that is so innate as love. If someone's last thought, on their deathbed, was 'I wish we got married', then that would be a little depressing. I would question how much their relationship really meant. This goes for a member of any couple.

But, for sure, the situation could be improved upon. There are many issues surrounding it that are a long way away from repair (e.g. religious involvement), but there are also many other issues in this world that might be more deserving of our attention.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: chasej on April 07, 2013, 12:38:21 am

What makes marriage a civil/human right?


The United Nations Human Rights Declaration
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(1) Men and women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or religion, have the right to marry and to found a family. They are entitled to equal rights as to marriage, during marriage and at its dissolution.
(2) Marriage shall be entered into only with the free and full consent of the intending spouses.
(3) The family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society and is entitled to protection by society and the State.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: ninwa on April 07, 2013, 01:11:26 am
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Marriage as an institution is not a desirable entity and something that should be reduced rather than expanded (ugh I need to read less feminist crap)

Not desirable according to who? And why does this mysterious person(s) who does not desire marriage have the right to be the ultimate arbiter of who gets to access this "undesirable entity"?

Even if you're trying to play Devil's Advocate (which I sincerely hope you are), this is a ridiculous argument.

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Also what's wrong with arguments with a religous basis

Nothing, just don't force that shit onto those who aren't religious

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Why? It's a social construct, it's the product of the entire society not of what you think it should be.

And support for same sex marriage is growing more every day. What's your point?

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Arguments with a religious basis are often based on axiomatic premises, of which many are flawed.

So we scrap them all from the start?

Uhh yes? If they are flawed, scrap them.

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How on earth is it not a social construct? Because you say so? You're just repeating what you said before.

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Marriage is not a civil right but a social construct and should be subject to social approval

It IS a civil right, see UN quote above

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The fact that you say it's not "legitimate" (what?) doesn't mean anything. Discrimination also doesn't mean anything, if you believe that there is a mandate to uphold what the most accepted form of a concept is.

I believe what Thushan was saying is that it is no longer a legitimate social construct if the state of marriage is no longer viewed as acceptable by the majority of society.

Discrimination doesn't mean anything? Are you serious? What the hell is that supposed to mean? There was a time when it was "most accepted" to see black people as inferior. Try telling a civil rights fighter that "discrimination doesn't mean anything because there was a mandate to uphold the most accepted form of that time". Good luck not getting punched in the face.

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Yes it is. You don't solve a problem by temporarily making it worse in the interest of "fairness". That's not relevant at all to the point, which is that marriage is not desirable. It's a cop-out to say that "we'll solve the problem eventually, but in the mean time lets do something unrelated and worse".

"Marriage is not desirable" is not exactly a great point either. You keep trumpeting this, but you have not bothered to explain at all why.

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So you agree then, that there can be religious objections, depending on what they are?

He didn't say there can't be religious objections. He said they should not, generally, be taken as determinative of the matter, because religious viewpoints on same sex marriage are inherently bigoted and founded on a set of beliefs which not everyone subscribes to and which should not be imposed on a secular society like ours.

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What makes marriage a civil/human right? It's something that evolved alongside society and humanity and the only value it has is the value society places on it; how can you, as an individual, decide to redefine it.

Again, see UN quote

Again, it is a fair bit more than "an individual" that wants to reform it. You're the one arguing that it's a social construct. You can't then turn around and deny society the ability to change it as societal views progress.

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Perhaps not with certainty, but it is undeniable that marriage and religion are intrinsically linked in Australian culture.

[citation required], we are a secular state and have been since the Constitution was first devised

edit: not to mention the concept of marriage has NEVER been a strictly religious construct
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: QuidProQuo on April 07, 2013, 01:34:05 am
The religious connotations contradict the motive for gay marriage to an extent, since I would imagine anyone (or at least a majority of people) who would enter into a gay marriage would not be religious, and would therefore have no interest in religious ceremonies.

Well, there are emerging homosexual movements in several religions, including Judaism. Check out the film 'Trembling Before God' - it documents the plight of a group of gay Orthodox Jews struggling to find acceptance in their respective communities, and the ways in which they attempt to retain their religious connection in light of this. As stated previously, homosexuality is involuntary. So, those who enter same-sex relationships and seek SSM marriage aren't necessarily irreligious; in recent years, the Reform movement has offered a safehaven for gay couples who would otherwise be forced to repress their sexuality, remain celibate (thereby contradicting the fundamental tenet of Genesis 2:6), or abandon the religion entirely, condoning SSM but allowing individual synagogues to formulate their own policies on this. Unfortunately though, those brought up in staunch Orthodox communities often find themselves unable to embrace the Reform movement as equally legitimate to Orthodoxy, and as a consequence, many end up removing themselves from their religion altogether, "to salvage a sense of dignity and to build a life" - as noted by Rabbi Steve Greenberg, the first openly gay Orthodox (and disputedly so) rabbi.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on April 07, 2013, 02:03:53 am
Marriage is not a civil right but a social construct and should be subject to social approval

Marriage as an institution is not a desirable entity and something that should be reduced rather than expanded (ugh I need to read less feminist crap)

Also what's wrong with arguments with a religous basis
I completely agree with your first point, actually. There is absolutely no civil right for marriage in Australia (nor in any other country as far as I'm aware). We are talking here about whether same-sex marriage should be legalised, not whether it has to be legalised.

In the US, the Constitutional argument in favour of same-sex marriage is that it treats a class of people differently without a strong enough reason (Google "heightened scrutiny"). While in Australia, we don't really (and certainly none of them are relevant) have any Constitutionally-protected rights, equality under the law should be a moral guiding force behind our legislation.

As to your second point, it's a bit of a farce. If you want to limit marriage, then do so; but don't discriminate in the process. This is not a reason to specifically prohibit one group of people from marrying. I actually said before that I completely understand people who want to abolish civil marriage, but until you have done so, at least treat everyone equally and fairly under the current system.

Religious arguments are fine for your own conscious, but won't be persuasive to those who don't share your faith. Furthermore, as Brenden pointed out, subjecting others to your religious beliefs (or lack thereof) is quite problematic. People should be free to practice their own religious beliefs, but leave it out of legislation which will affect everyone.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Tomw2 on April 07, 2013, 02:23:03 am
Marriage is not a civil right but a social construct and should be subject to social approval

Convenient distinction.

Whenever I hear it, it makes me wonder if, deep down in places people don't talk about at brunches and parties, the whole thing is really just about pointlessly defending the mythical socially constructed, hegemonic Disney heterosexuality. Understandable - it must be confronting for some people to be faced with any notion that would suggest their pure, natural and occasionally/possibly child-bearing love is in any way comparable to those abominable sodomites. I digress.

Personally, I just think that when socially approved social constructs marginalise people, there should be a sound and consistent justification and rationalisation. E.g. demonstrable harm. Particularly if it is defended by law.

I haven't come across a justification that is consistent and makes sense. When you shave the arguments down and cut though a bunch of logical fallacies there are only these at the core of every point:
1. I hate/fear/am disgusted by homosexuals, therefore anything that normalises them offends me
2. [insert deity, idol, parent, author of dubious text etc here] says so and I choose to believe them
3. (2) because (1)


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Also what's wrong with arguments with a religous basis

The religion part; it's redundant. If a defensible and reasonable argument just so happens to come from religious discourse, it has nothing to do with the religion and everything to do with the logic and reason.



Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Russ on April 07, 2013, 09:36:35 am
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gay couples should be allowed civil union, and they would considered just as married as a straight couple who also had a non-religious marriage.

Yeah, I think this is the thing the LGBT community doesn't like though, because it is really just "got ours, screw you". Allowing a renamed form of marriage to be extended isn't what they're after.

Okay...I guess I'm just stupid :/ I'll leave this conversation.

What, no that was never my intention and sorry if it came across that way

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Not desirable according to who? And why does this mysterious person(s) who does not desire marriage have the right to be the ultimate arbiter of who gets to access this "undesirable entity"?

It's not reducible like that, it's about the role marriage serves in society and whether or not it is a desirable element when you consider all aspects of it. If it's not, we shouldn't be sanctioning any marriages, so increasing the domain of marriage further is also undesirable. I don't disagree that this isn't an argument against same sex marriage specifically, rather than as a subset of all marriage, but I needed a second point and I cheated :(

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I completely agree with your first point, actually. There is absolutely no civil right for marriage in Australia (nor in any other country as far as I'm aware). We are talking here about whether same-sex marriage should be legalised, not whether it has to be legalised.

Moral imperative is one thing and is probably an important distinction to make when you consider the role the law/government has in society, but I think this ties in a lot better with what Tom said, (which is what I was expecting when I first posted, but I thought it was an interesting point)

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Personally, I just think that when socially approved social constructs marginalise people, there should be a sound and consistent justification and rationalisation. E.g. demonstrable harm. Particularly if it is defended by law.

I agree with this. There are social constructs that exist and that are sanctioned (formally/informally) that do not treat all groups equally, but they generally tend to have certain rationales behind them (paternity vs maternity leave I suppose). The confrontational point is apt, a lot of people are opposed to change for the sake of it, although I'm not sure it's necessarily because of a latent distaste for homosexuals as opposed to more rigid adherence to "tradition".
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: availn on April 07, 2013, 10:24:39 am
Yeah, I think this is the thing the LGBT community doesn't like though, because it is really just "got ours, screw you". Allowing a renamed form of marriage to be extended isn't what they're after.

You misunderstand me. I just say civil union to differentiate religious and non religious marriage. They would be married, just as how secular couples are married. The only difference is that the church recognises a secular marriage between people of opposite gender, but will probably not recognise gay marriage; hence "civil union", which is probably not going to be recognised by the church.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on April 07, 2013, 12:45:46 pm
So basically what you're saying, is "let's rename civil marriage to civil unions, and leave marriage to religions." Which is fine, but why? I can't think of any state interest to do so. Seems a little pointless.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Tomw2 on April 07, 2013, 02:16:14 pm
The confrontational point is apt, a lot of people are opposed to change for the sake of it, although I'm not sure it's necessarily because of a latent distaste for homosexuals as opposed to more rigid adherence to "tradition".

Fair point, I was being reductive. I suppose in my own limited experience with people in the 'vote no' crowd, the sentiment more frequently reflects culturally-based core beliefs of "but that's just not how it works" and perceptions of homosexuals as 'other', as opposed to disgust.

Still, I'm suspicious of the more militant attempts to tie marriage with terms such as "organic bodily union", "heterosexual union", procreation etc. It reeks of a covert fallacious appeal to nature. 

So basically what you're saying, is "let's rename civil marriage to civil unions, and leave marriage to religions." Which is fine, but why? I can't think of any state interest to do so.

Neither can I. However there is impassioned argument from those opposing marriage equality, claiming there are numerous tangible benefits to the state and society in doing what is, in my mind, analogous to the  anti-miscegenation laws in the US prior to 1967 that outlawed interracial marriage and intimacy.

Russ made a point earlier about "discrimination". I agree somewhat - the 'discrimination' part is irrelevant. As a society we readily and happily discriminate (in the strict definition of the word) against a number of groups and individuals. Most of the discrimination is completely uncontentious and is in fact viewed as positive.
It is, for instance, discrimination to have separate bathroom facilities for males and females. It's discrimination to fine people who do not give up a disabled access seat on public transport to a person with certain special needs.

The crucial element is the justification. Is it sound, is it rational, is it consistent with rights, liberties and values as well as evidence and to what degree.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: BubbleWrapMan on April 07, 2013, 03:47:34 pm
Well, there are emerging homosexual movements in several religions, including Judaism. Check out the film 'Trembling Before God' - it documents the plight of a group of gay Orthodox Jews struggling to find acceptance in their respective communities, and the ways in which they attempt to retain their religious connection in light of this. As stated previously, homosexuality is involuntary. So, those who enter same-sex relationships and seek SSM marriage aren't necessarily irreligious; in recent years, the Reform movement has offered a safehaven for gay couples who would otherwise be forced to repress their sexuality, remain celibate (thereby contradicting the fundamental tenet of Genesis 2:6), or abandon the religion entirely, condoning SSM but allowing individual synagogues to formulate their own policies on this. Unfortunately though, those brought up in staunch Orthodox communities often find themselves unable to embrace the Reform movement as equally legitimate to Orthodoxy, and as a consequence, many end up removing themselves from their religion altogether, "to salvage a sense of dignity and to build a life" - as noted by Rabbi Steve Greenberg, the first openly gay Orthodox (and disputedly so) rabbi.
I'm aware that it's involuntary, but marriage certainly isn't. I just wonder why anyone would want it so badly when it's clearly going to be more trouble than it's worth. Interesting point nonetheless.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: QuidProQuo on April 07, 2013, 04:03:20 pm
Maybe marriage is sought by many religious same-sex couples because it is highly symbolic, especially in a religious context. In this case, Jewish marital customs are intrinsically linked to Jewish history and heritage - for example, the shattering of the glass embodies the Jews' historic mourning over the destruction of the Second Temple whilst living in exile in a hostile Diaspora. So, it may represent more than just the union of two lovers; rather an entwinement with the couple's religious tradition as whole - and for many, to God of course. But yes, as a practical institution, marriage seems to be too cumbersome to warrant the lengths to which people go to attain it...
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: BubbleWrapMan on April 07, 2013, 04:12:33 pm
That's a good point. Makes me wonder how religion lasted this long though.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: slothpomba on April 13, 2013, 03:02:55 am
Just out of interest, can anyone here come up with a reason to prohibit same-sex marriage which is not grounded on religious beliefs?

Not passing any judgment on the rightness or wrongness but everyone has their lines in the sand, whether right or wrong. For some people, this just might be where the line is. Everyone is also conservative (not in the sense of abbott or whatever) to a degree, they want to conserve and keep somethings as are. For some people, this might just be one of the things they want to maintain.

I know plenty of people who only really religious in name alone and don't like it for whatever reason. Now whether the reasons are objectively good or not and whether they're related to the fact they just don't like gay people being with each-other (no law to stop that) or if they have some special reason why they're just against them getting married. Either way, regardless of whatever reasons people have, good or bad, in the end, they are voting on those. We can argue all we like but we vote in the people who make the laws. With the way things are headed, it seems it is more or less inevitable in the short-medium term.

And now, here is a hyper-religious troll

(http://i.imgur.com/tbBAfLa.jpg)
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on April 14, 2013, 01:42:33 am
'That's my line in the sand' is not a compelling argument. In fact, any sort of personal objection is not sufficient when deciding on public policy. Do you still get to vote on it? Sure. But you're also automatically wrong if you can't back up your beliefs with logic and reason.

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Everyone is also conservative (not in the sense of abbott or whatever) to a degree, they want to conserve and keep somethings as are.
Actually, I'm a lot more conservative on social issues than economic ones. I believe that progressive social change should be implemented, but sometimes it should only happen incrementally in order to allow society to adjust.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: bridger on April 17, 2013, 11:41:39 pm
I see New Zealand's parliament has voted in favour of legalising same-sex marriage today with quite a comfortable majority. It will be interesting to see whether this adds any pressure on Australian politicians to reconsider their stance on the issue. Gillard has already said it changes nothing for her, but nevertheless should be interesting to see if it has any effect on the debate in Australia
I'm all for same-sex marriage btw. I think that it's all part of the normalisation of social attitudes to LGBT individuals. I think this can be especially important for young LGBT who studies have shown suffer higher rates of mental illness and suicide than non-LGBT. The whole civil unions vs marriage thing sounds too much like "separate but equal" which is never the way for society to move forward cohesively
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Loneranger12 on May 29, 2013, 09:29:45 pm
Look at Netherlands only 12% of same sex married couples actually bothered to marry.. Tradition is tradition people should understand that choice sometimes comes at a price and what the majority of individuals believe shouldn't be labelled as bigots or homophobes because in reality an opinion is an opinion and you can't change that
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: brenden on May 29, 2013, 09:51:06 pm
what the majority of individuals believe shouldn't be labelled as bigots or homophobes because in reality an opinion is an opinion and you can't change that
Dat Holocaust. Don't be labellin', peeps.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Thu Thu Train on May 29, 2013, 10:47:43 pm
Look at Netherlands only 12% of same sex married couples actually bothered to marry..

What is your point? Not all gay couples get married therefore we shouldn't have gay marriage? Not all straight couples get married therefore I don't think we should have marriage at all.


what the majority of individuals believe shouldn't be labelled as bigots or homophobes because in reality an opinion is an opinion and you can't change that
Opinions change all the time.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Tomw2 on May 29, 2013, 11:00:28 pm
what the majority of individuals believe shouldn't be labelled as bigots or homophobes because in reality an opinion is an opinion and you can't change that

An opinion can be both bigoted and homophobic regardless of how many people hold that opinion. Similarly an opinion can be illogical, inconsistent, unjustified and irrational regardless of its popularity. The notion that a popular opinion shouldn't be challenged or condemned doesn't stand up on a number of levels.

I am of course assuming you aren't trolling.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: JellyDonut on May 30, 2013, 04:19:59 am
Look at Netherlands only 12% of same sex married couples actually bothered to marry.. Tradition is tradition people should understand that choice sometimes comes at a price and what the majority of individuals believe shouldn't be labelled as bigots or homophobes because in reality an opinion is an opinion and you can't change that
Majority? You should really get that checked
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Recognition_of_same-sex_unions_in_Australia#Public_opinion_polls

only 12% of same sex married couples actually bothered to marry
lol
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Russ on May 30, 2013, 05:47:13 pm
My old favourite thread. Bans handed out. Will clean up thread in a sec

Why would anyone NEED to get married?

And yeah, that's fine, you can adhere to an objective system of morality without trying to persuade other people of its correctness. You're in the minority, though, and you're losing for a reason - because you are objectively wrong. You're just too stupid to recognise it.

Objectively wrong?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: JellyDonut on May 30, 2013, 09:27:06 pm
Huh, my post got deleted
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Lasercookie on May 30, 2013, 09:32:00 pm
Huh, my post got deleted
Restored it, looks like it got removed accidentally in the clean up.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: JellyDonut on May 30, 2013, 09:33:31 pm
Oh okay. It wasn't that big of a deal. I was just wondering because I wasn't there when something happened

Thanks regardless
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Will Sparks on May 30, 2013, 09:34:13 pm
I don't get why people don't just let others do their thing.

How does two people getting married affect us?

If you don't like the sight of two people of the same sex getting married, don't go when invited.
If you don't like seeing two men or two women kissing, just close your eyes/turn away.

I don't get why people are so against this, it doesn't even affect us.

It's not like being gay spreads a disease or something actually serious
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: HighLatency on May 31, 2013, 11:01:47 pm
From the words of a awesome NZ politician

"The world will not end, life will go on"
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 27, 2015, 05:29:04 pm
Wow gay marriage is even legal in Texas now, Australia needs to lift its game.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: pi on June 27, 2015, 05:33:51 pm
Love how everyone on fb is turining their dps into rainbows, can't recall this happening when Ireland approved it in a referendum...

Anyway, good move, old Tony's gonna get dumped if he doesn't follow suit.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Alter on June 27, 2015, 05:47:13 pm
As much as I'd be in support of a change, I don't have a strong feeling that the current government will be following suit at the moment. After the next federal election, however, I could envisage such a change happening. In my opinion, it's simply a matter of time at this point.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: achre on June 27, 2015, 06:15:56 pm
Great victory. Is everyone ready for the next big obstacle?

http://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2015/06/gay-marriage-decision-polygamy-119469.html#.VY5bkUYWlQJ
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Aaron on June 27, 2015, 06:22:35 pm
Quote from: pi
Love how everyone on fb is turining their dps into rainbows, can't recall this happening when Ireland approved it in a referendum...
This really annoys me as well. Where was everyone when this occurred?

However, 100% in support of gay marriage (and have no religious background). Bring it on in Australia!
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: MonsieurHulot on June 27, 2015, 06:31:51 pm
Love how everyone on fb is turining their dps into rainbows, can't recall this happening when Ireland approved it in a referendum...

Anyway, good move, old Tony's gonna get dumped if he doesn't follow suit.

There was no app to change the pictures after the Irish referendum, but Facebook created one specially for the US decision.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: pi on June 27, 2015, 06:54:38 pm
This is going to be controversial, and call me cynical or a h8er or whatever, but I think the whole switching dps thing is really superficial. I bet 90% of people doing it have done shit all to actually support lgbtqia rights (especially not in the US lol) and are just taking the moral high ground just because they can or because it's suddenly "trendy" to do so. As  said, call me cynical, but I find that frustrating. /rant
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: heids on June 27, 2015, 07:47:43 pm
OK, I'm going to make the hardest post I've ever made, by going against the flow of this thread.  Let me firstly say that to come out as a 'homophobe' is actually extremely difficult; I'm not being a hater, just trying to deal with my honest opinion (I have severe internal conflict over this issue).  Please... don't jump to conclusions or judge me too harshly.

As a Christian, I personally believe that homosexuality is wrong.  For someone like me who absolutely hates 'judging' anyone or saying anyone else is wrong, this is an extremely hard thing to believe.  It's a real struggle, but when I read the Bible, I can't help but believe that God made male and female, with two totally different complementary roles which also have symbolic meaning.  And that God thinks that homosexuality is evil.  (Yes, I did a huge project on this in school, where I thoroughly examined the opposite interpretations of Bible verses, I haven't randomly jumped to this conclusion).  Which I find very difficult to come to terms with, given that my society believes totally the opposite.  But since I believe that the Bible is true, I also believe this - again, not mindlessly, it is a struggle.

I didn't say this to try to prove my beliefs.  Just wanna show that those 'judgmental religious haters' don't ENJOY judging others, aren't all aged 50+, don't jump to conclusions without a real struggle, and do care about others.

I suppose I believe that humans are like sheep - like pi, I think that dp thing is totally superficial, because people will always follow the 'done thing', the trend, no matter what.  I 300% agree with his post. 
In everything, it's not the people that tag on to trends that I respect, but those with the guts to go against the flow (not out of stubborn, closed-mindedness though).  When society used to stigmatise gays, almost everyone did so; now society stigmatises those who don't support gay marriage, almost everyone will do so.  I'm really struggling to stick to my opinion no matter what everyone else thinks.

</rant> (far longer than intended), and I'm prepared to cop the flack. :-[
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 27, 2015, 08:07:21 pm
OK, I'm going to make the hardest post I've ever made, by going against the flow of this thread.  Let me firstly say that to come out as a 'homophobe' is actually extremely difficult; I'm not being a hater, just trying to deal with my honest opinion (I have severe internal conflict over this issue).  Please... don't jump to conclusions or judge me too harshly.

As a Christian, I personally believe that homosexuality is wrong.  For someone like me who absolutely hates 'judging' anyone or saying anyone else is wrong, this is an extremely hard thing to believe.  It's a real struggle, but when I read the Bible, I can't help but believe that God made male and female, with two totally different complementary roles which also have symbolic meaning.  And that God thinks that homosexuality is evil.  (Yes, I did a huge project on this in school, where I thoroughly examined the opposite interpretations of Bible verses, I haven't randomly jumped to this conclusion).  Which I find very difficult to come to terms with, given that my society believes totally the opposite.  But since I believe that the Bible is true, I also believe this - again, not mindlessly, it is a struggle.

I didn't say this to try to prove my beliefs.  Just wanna show that those 'judgmental religious haters' don't ENJOY judging others, aren't all aged 50+, don't jump to conclusions without a real struggle, and do care about others.

I suppose I believe that humans are like sheep - like pi, I think that dp thing is totally superficial, because people will always follow the 'done thing', the trend, no matter what.  I 300% agree with his post. 
In everything, it's not the people that tag on to trends that I respect, but those with the guts to go against the flow (not out of stubborn, closed-mindedness though).  When society used to stigmatise gays, almost everyone did so; now society stigmatises those who don't support gay marriage, almost everyone will do so.  I'm really struggling to stick to my opinion no matter what everyone else thinks.

</rant> (far longer than intended), and I'm prepared to cop the flack. :-[

Hey, I just really struggle to see how a person or god can see homosexuality as being evil. Lets just say a same sex couple had been in a loving relationship for 20 years and they had raised two children better then some same sex couples could. I really struggle to understand that if their relationship is not effecting others in any way, is not harming anyone and was built on pure love for each other that that would be considered as evil.

I'm sorry but it just makes me sad that my cousin who is 4 and is currently being brought up by two same sex parents would have to grow up in a word where his parents would be considered "wrong" or "evil".
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: brenden on June 27, 2015, 08:17:13 pm
OK, I'm going to make the hardest post I've ever made, by going against the flow of this thread.  Let me firstly say that to come out as a 'homophobe' is actually extremely difficult; I'm not being a hater, just trying to deal with my honest opinion (I have severe internal conflict over this issue).  Please... don't jump to conclusions or judge me too harshly.

As a Christian, I personally believe that homosexuality is wrong.  For someone like me who absolutely hates 'judging' anyone or saying anyone else is wrong, this is an extremely hard thing to believe.  It's a real struggle, but when I read the Bible, I can't help but believe that God made male and female, with two totally different complementary roles which also have symbolic meaning.  And that God thinks that homosexuality is evil.  (Yes, I did a huge project on this in school, where I thoroughly examined the opposite interpretations of Bible verses, I haven't randomly jumped to this conclusion).  Which I find very difficult to come to terms with, given that my society believes totally the opposite.  But since I believe that the Bible is true, I also believe this - again, not mindlessly, it is a struggle.

I didn't say this to try to prove my beliefs.  Just wanna show that those 'judgmental religious haters' don't ENJOY judging others, aren't all aged 50+, don't jump to conclusions without a real struggle, and do care about others.

I suppose I believe that humans are like sheep - like pi, I think that dp thing is totally superficial, because people will always follow the 'done thing', the trend, no matter what.  I 300% agree with his post. 
In everything, it's not the people that tag on to trends that I respect, but those with the guts to go against the flow (not out of stubborn, closed-mindedness though).  When society used to stigmatise gays, almost everyone did so; now society stigmatises those who don't support gay marriage, almost everyone will do so.  I'm really struggling to stick to my opinion no matter what everyone else thinks.

</rant> (far longer than intended), and I'm prepared to cop the flack. :-[
Well, I'll first say that I truly respect the bravery and honesty that comes behind making this post (despite quite comprehensively disagreeing with the content).

It's interesting to me that you're struggling with your beliefs (or at least, seem somewhat upset by them)... It seems like you feel as if it's quite a clear truth that homosexuality is wrong because you believe the Bible expresses that and, if the Bible expresses that, then it is a clear  truth. However, I think it's quite reasonable for a Christian to deny that this is the case - indeed, I think it's more reasonable for a Christian to deny this is the case. For, you can quite simply accept the Bible as an expression of historical or religious truth without believing that the Bible is comprehensively accurate. That is, the Bible is the "word of God", but who transcribed it? When we look at the translation of Kafka's Metamorphosis, we don't assume that the English version gives us the truth. Now, I'm sure you don't believe that God wrote the Bible in whatever realm he belongs in and then transferred it to Earth. Evidently, under the Christian perspective, it was written by men (or women) who were transcribing the word of God. Now, if this were the case, why wouldn't the Bible be subject to sociocultural trends the same as a Facebook display picture?

It's my belief that the Christian God, or at least how "he" (or she) is presented is omnibenevolent. Put simply, I find it more likely that an omnibenevolent God would tolerate homosexuality (which he obviously created, as there are homosexual traits in species other than humans that don't have free will) and whoever transcribed the Bible did so incorrectly, that the alternative case, which would be an omnibenevolent God that doesn't tolerate the homosexuality that he created who was accurately transcribed.

Essentially, your position relies upon the idea that whatever is said about God in the Bible must be true if the Bible is true, which I think is incorrect. I feel as if it's a tragedy that proper Christians* like yourself feel compelled towards one particular view of morality that could quite easily have been skewed by propagandists (it's pretty well established that religion has been utilised by the unsavoury as a method of social control). Wouldn't Christ advocate lack of judgment and holistic acceptance and compassion? This is why I feel like religious justifications against gay marriage are incoherent. At least for a Christian, who presumably takes the New Testament as the word of God (?)


*Christians who actually follow the word of Christ, as opposed to the compassionless racists and people who hate the homeless.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: faso on June 27, 2015, 08:22:41 pm
Put simply, I find it more likely that an omnibenevolent God would tolerate homosexuality (which he obviously created, as there are homosexual traits in species other than humans that don't have free will)
Example?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: MonsieurHulot on June 27, 2015, 08:27:39 pm
It's my belief that the Christian God, or at least how "he" (or she) is presented is omnibenevolent. Put simply, I find it more likely that an omnibenevolent God would tolerate homosexuality (which he obviously created, as there are homosexual traits in species other than humans that don't have free will) and whoever transcribed the Bible did so incorrectly, that the alternative case, which would be an omnibenevolent God that doesn't tolerate the homosexuality that he created who was accurately transcribed.

Essentially, your position relies upon the idea that whatever is said about God in the Bible must be true if the Bible is true, which I think is incorrect.

*Christians who actually follow the word of Christ, as opposed to the compassionless racists and people who hate the homeless.

But why would your beliefs be more authoritative than what all Christians believe to be the word of God?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: brenden on June 27, 2015, 08:31:37 pm
Example?
I had dolphins in mind upon writing the post, but a further Google search offered quite a lot more.

But why would your beliefs be more authoritative than what all Christians believe to be the word of God?
I spoke in the first person to ensure passivity and am choosing to [respectfully] ignore this question, because I don't think the ensuing stream of discussion will be productive or relevant :)
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Coffee on June 27, 2015, 08:35:36 pm
Let me firstly say that to come out as a 'homophobe' is actually extremely difficult
No it's not. You're not oppressed and you're not discriminated against for being homophobic.

For someone like me who absolutely hates 'judging' anyone or saying anyone else is wrong, this is an extremely hard thing to believe
Then don't believe it. Think for yourself. I'm assuming you've been conditioned to believe this due to a religious upbringing? Well challenge it. Don't take things for granted. The bible is not inherently correct; there's a lot of contradictory things in there and a lot of things that are considered sins we do today and no one questions it.

I can't help but believe that God made male and female, with two totally different complementary roles which also have symbolic meaning.
What about intersex? It's not so black and white.

Just because men and women have different complementary roles or rather 'fit' together doesn't mean it's the only option.

But since I believe that the Bible is true
Do you believe it's wrong to have sex with a woman who is menstruating? What about eating something mixed with meat and diary? Or eating pork? Dressing across gender lines or wearing more than one kind of cloth?*

*http://rationalwiki.org/wiki/List_of_actions_prohibited_by_the_Bible
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: keltingmeith on June 27, 2015, 08:56:19 pm
No it's not. You're not oppressed and you're not discriminated against for being homophobic.

Thank you for showing us why it *is* actually difficult. I'm not going to say that it is easy to live life if you identify as non-het cis, but a lot of people our age (i.e, our peers) try to be as supportive as possible for those who aren't, it's the older generations that make this more difficult. As such, amoungst our peers, it is harder to be homophobic than it is accepting.

Then don't believe it. Think for yourself. I'm assuming you've been conditioned to believe this due to a religious upbringing? Well challenge it. Don't take things for granted. The bible is not inherently correct; there's a lot of contradictory things in there and a lot of things that are considered sins we do today and no one questions it.

I see you haven't been to many youth groups, eh? Stuff like this *does* get questioned by people our age - daily, in fact. It is always being challenged - and just because you don't see it, doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Based on what was said, I honestly think that bangali is one of those people who has questioned it - and this is the conclusion she is currently at.



My own personal opinion on the matter is that whilst this is a step forward, it's also very sudden. It'll be interesting to see how the individual states respond to such a sudden loss in power. As for if this was the right decision or not? Equality in general is something I want to see, so let's hope this doesn't lead to another divide.

I do think we shouldn't be so outrightly spoken to those with different opinions to us, though - that really never solves anything. A healthy debate is one thing, a personal attack is another.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: heids on June 27, 2015, 09:14:02 pm
I don't know where to start - so many million points to address!  Please see though that I'm honestly trying to sort through my opinions, your constructive inputs are helping me guys.  (Though I disagree with you).  Can't spend much time on this though as I'm marking essays in the middle :P

It's interesting to me that you're struggling with your beliefs (or at least, seem somewhat upset by them)... It seems like you feel as if it's quite a clear truth that homosexuality is wrong because you believe the Bible expresses that and, if the Bible expresses that, then it is a clear  truth. However, I think it's quite reasonable for a Christian to deny that this is the case - indeed, I think it's more reasonable for a Christian to deny this is the case. For, you can quite simply accept the Bible as an expression of historical or religious truth without believing that the Bible is comprehensively accurate. That is, the Bible is the "word of God", but who transcribed it? When we look at the translation of Kafka's Metamorphosis, we don't assume that the English version gives us the truth. Now, I'm sure you don't believe that God wrote the Bible in whatever realm he belongs in and then transferred it to Earth. Evidently, under the Christian perspective, it was written by men (or women) who were transcribing the word of God. Now, if this were the case, why wouldn't the Bible be subject to sociocultural trends the same as a Facebook display picture?

Essentially, your position relies upon the idea that whatever is said about God in the Bible must be true if the Bible is true, which I think is incorrect. I feel as if it's a tragedy that proper Christians* like yourself feel compelled towards one particular view of morality that could quite easily have been skewed by propagandists (it's pretty well established that religion has been utilised by the unsavoury as a method of social control).
Simply can't address this now thoroughly, got essays to mark :(  I'll simply say, that of course I've thoroughly considered all that.  Being a Christian isn't just a matter of upbringing, conditioning, blind acceptance.  But anyway, I'll say that I do believe that the Bible was 'inspired' - written by humans while God directly influences their mind; naturally influenced by them, but ultimately controlled by God.

One note - I don't think Christianity was originally set up to control people, it definitely became that way though.

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It's my belief that the Christian God, or at least how "he" (or she) is presented is omnibenevolent. Put simply, I find it more likely that an omnibenevolent God would tolerate homosexuality (which he obviously created, as there are homosexual traits in species other than humans that don't have free will) and whoever transcribed the Bible did so incorrectly, that the alternative case, which would be an omnibenevolent God that doesn't tolerate the homosexuality that he created who was accurately transcribed.

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Wouldn't Christ advocate lack of judgment and holistic acceptance and compassion?
I believe - no. 

It depends on what you think God is all about.  It's easy to see God as a nice fuzzy being - as you say, 'omnibenevolent' - who wants everyone to be happy.  But, I will strongly say: that is NOT how the Bible presents God.  I think it shows that God created his own objective morality, with good and evil.  The Bible also says that humans' version of right and wrong is NOT the same as God's.  I think the point is holiness.  God is not 'tolerant'. 

An example: The church is told to throw out a man living with his dad's wife (stepmother).  Does that harm anyone, really?  No.  It's just presented as impure, unholy, evil, and they are told they MUST not tolerate it.  This is just one example.  Now I'm aware that this is one of the reasons lots of people aren't Christians - they can't come to terms with this.

Next, an interesting point - I was listening to a discussion once.  People were saying, gays have genetic wiring that way, chemicals in the brain that produce that attraction, so there's nothing wrong with it.  Just a bit later, they'd moved to a different topic, and said, 'Pedophiles have chemicals in their brain that cause those attractions to kids.  That's just wrong.  They've got to get over that.'  I came out wondering, why's one sort of chemical wrong, and another not?  If God made pedophiles, shouldn't he let them do what they want?  I suppose I see that God put in humans a proneness to 'sin', selfishness, rule-breaking etc., and he knows that most of the time they WILL do that.  What he wants is the few people who can stand out against how they were made, and actively struggle to choose him.  But you'll probably find that hard to understand, it's a mindset from reading the Bible a lot.



No it's not. You're not oppressed and you're not discriminated against for being homophobic.
If I had simply said, "I think homosexuality is evil', I WOULD be oppressed.

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Then don't believe it. Think for yourself. I'm assuming you've been conditioned to believe this due to a religious upbringing? Well challenge it. Don't take things for granted. The bible is not inherently correct; there's a lot of contradictory things in there and a lot of things that are considered sins we do today and no one questions it.
--> I have thought for myself
--> I've been conditioned, definitely; but, I've very openly questioned this.  Believing what I believe is hard.  Don't think that accepting what you were brought up with is the 'easy way out', honestly it would be easier to scrap it all and agree with what everyone else is saying.
--> I do believe that, in general, the Bible IS inherently correct.  Not out of blind faith, but careful thought.
--> Wrong, I question it.  For instance, sex before marriage; I guarantee that 99% of people round here would say that's fine.  I'm not trying to criticise anyone round here at all (PLEASE don't take anything that way), I'm just saying that I believe that God thinks it's sin.  Hence, I wouldn't ever do it.

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What about intersex? It's not so black and white.

Just because men and women have different complementary roles or rather 'fit' together doesn't mean it's the only option.
No, but in the Bible it's the only option; in the Bible, it is black and white.  (Note, I take this much further; you probably don't know anyone so anti-feminism as I am, like my choice not to go to uni this year was directly influenced by my view of gender roles.  I think gender roles and marriage in the Bible are so symbolic, God set up marriage as an entire-life commitment between one man and one woman, to represent the relationship between him and us).  There are some difficult exceptions to deal with, true.

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Do you believe it's wrong to have sex with a woman who is menstruating? What about eating something mixed with meat and diary? Or eating pork? Dressing across gender lines or wearing more than one kind of cloth?*
As always: old law vs. new law.  God instituted those for the nation Israel, to maintain their separateness and holiness and point forwards.  The Bible clearly shows that that has been superseded by new, different rules.

it is harder to be homophobic than it is accepting.
Truer than you can ever believe.  It HURTS.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on June 27, 2015, 09:22:56 pm
As a Christian, I personally believe that homosexuality is wrong.
I'm only quoting this part, because only quoting this will be entirely sufficient for my purposes.

I completely respect your right to genuinely- and deeply-held religious beliefs that hold that homosexuality is wrong. I happen to know a whole lot about (what you call) the OT, and I'm willing to engage in that debate. But for me, it's entirely beside the point. It's your belief, and you're entitled to it.

The issue is when you force those beliefs on other people. As a society, we have limited treating people adversely to when actual, direct harm is occasioned on other people through their conduct. I'm not going to go ad infinitum through examples to prove this point, because I think it's fairly self-evident.

Let me give you an example of what our current society hasn't outlawed, though. My religion holds that there are certain duties on all people, whether they are part of my religion or not. I would never seek to impose them on others through the law.

The bottom line is that whatever your belief on homosexuality is, one of the principles that our society holds is that we don't use the law to detract from someone's legal rights, or impose legal burdens on them, unless direct harm would otherwise be caused to other people. I don't think anyone can reasonably argue that harm is occasioned to others through gay marriages.

If you do not accept this principle, then it may come to that the majority, one day, may decide that people like you (as in, whichever one of the many groups that you can be characterised as part of) shouldn't be tolerated. Perhaps there will be laws restricting your rights to marry, to. Perhaps your land will be confiscated.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: mahler004 on June 27, 2015, 09:28:54 pm
Thank you for showing us why it *is* actually difficult. I'm not going to say that it is easy to live life if you identify as non-het cis, but a lot of people our age (i.e, our peers) try to be as supportive as possible for those who aren't, it's the older generations that make this more difficult. As such, amoungst our peers, it is harder to be homophobic than it is accepting.

I see you haven't been to many youth groups, eh? Stuff like this *does* get questioned by people our age - daily, in fact. It is always being challenged - and just because you don't see it, doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Based on what was said, I honestly think that bangali is one of those people who has questioned it - and this is the conclusion she is currently at.



My own personal opinion on the matter is that whilst this is a step forward, it's also very sudden. It'll be interesting to see how the individual states respond to such a sudden loss in power. As for if this was the right decision or not? Equality in general is something I want to see, so let's hope this doesn't lead to another divide.

I do think we shouldn't be so outrightly spoken to those with different opinions to us, though - that really never solves anything. A healthy debate is one thing, a personal attack is another.

I don't think it was a sudden decision, really. I follow US politics on and off (not nearly as closely as I used to) and it's clear that the Supreme Court has been laying the groundwork for this for a few years - particularly with the Perry decision (which did not overturn a lower court's decision prohibiting California's same sex marriage ban,) and their refusal to hear several similar cases in previous years (in effect, allowing the decision to stand.) It would be much, much more of an upheaval if they overturned the lower court decisions. This decision really wasn't surprising at all.

It's a whole other issue over actual enforcement of the decision - states will find creative ways to discourage same sex marriage. Some states at the moment are refusing to marry same sex couples (although this is based on a technicality, and will promptly be overturned,) some counties in Alabama are apparently refusing to marry anyone. States find creative ways to make abortion difficult, even though Roe v. Wade made abortion legal throughout the US.

Unlike Loving v. Virginia (which overturned bans on interracial marriage) the Supreme Court is following the public, not leading it - 60% of Americans support same sex marriage. It took decades after Loving for public support of interracial marriages to reach the same levels. On Friday, was twelve years, to the day, that the Supreme Court overturned laws making homosexuality illegal in several states. The trend was pretty clear - even without this Supreme Court ruling, 70% of Americans lived in jurisdictions where same sex marriage was legal.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Russ on June 27, 2015, 09:49:16 pm
Are there people genuinely saying that it is harder to be homophobic than not as if that should somehow engender sympathy. My mind is blown.

I agree with the idea that your opinions on gay marriage can be anything as long as they remain in the abstract. If you want to start making laws (or not making them) then the greater societal interests come first.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: MightyBeh on June 27, 2015, 09:54:08 pm
In everything, it's not the people that tag on to trends that I respect, but those with the guts to go against the flow (not out of stubborn, closed-mindedness though).
This 9001%. While I'm the total opposite of religious and a 'homophobe' (It's kind of silly we even use this word for it - unless you're genuinely scared of me?  ::) ), I totally respect you for this. Obviously I'm not against LBGTQIA+ rights or anything, since that'd be a little counter-intuitive, but I wouldn't call myself a supporter.

Sure, yeah - it's all well and good that everyone should be happy. But why are they so excited about marriage being extended to the general populace in the US when people are being murdered, raped and tortured everyday? It represents the awkward and knobbly system we as a global society have with dealing with things. "Hey, some guy got beheaded by ISIS" should not reasonably be less important than "yeah I can wear this ring now", but guess which one people are talking about. Yes it's cool that another ~1 in 10 people in the US are maybe a bit happier now, but the whole 'loving union' thing is kind of defeated if being legally married is a selling point in the first place.

Although maybe I'm not the best person to ask on the matter. I personally believe marriage is kind of silly on its own, regardless of who it is getting married. It has its roots in both secular and non-secular traditions (I believe?*) being mostly utilitarian in nature (like cross-family bonds, profit, etc.) and to have such a connotation and history applied to something that, in a lot of (English-speaking countries') cases, is totally different (you know, the whole love thing) is nearly laughable. I reckon there would be a whole lot less debate if someone went out and said "okay guys - maybe the reason people are mad is because we're messing with their things. Let's just make a new thing and call it something different. It can have the same benefits but we'll keep it out of churches and all those other places that have their own thing."**

Of course, that doesn't solve the problem. There's religious gays*** that probably want to get married at a church. There are people who will argue that having two different versions of the same thing is actually enabling the segregation and discrimination. There's also probably people that don't want to put the time and effort into the extra paperwork (tbh I'd probably fit into this group  ;) ). The point is that no matter what happens, not everyone's going to be happy.

Really, in a sentence, what I think should happen is essentially "everyone should forget about the bedroom politics for at least five minutes and deal with all the serious, Human Rights (yeah, those things) violations because those are pretty important, too."

*As always, correct me if I'm wrong. (Also link me to a/some legit article/s pls?)
**Alternatively, take the financial/other non-relationship benefits out of marriage.
***For the love of all that is delicious and marinated in the tears of my enemies, please acknowledge that when I say gay, I mean LBGTQIA+.


Let me firstly say that to come out as a 'homophobe' is actually extremely difficult
No it's not. You're not oppressed and you're not discriminated against for being homophobic.
I'd come out to Hitler before I told people I was homophobic*. Oppression is defined as 'prolonged cruel or unjust treatment or exercise of authority' so I'd pretty comfortably say that right now being against homosexuality won't get you oppressed, but it will in the future (you know, since oppression is long term). People are certainly discriminated** against because of it.

That being said, I'm still pretty uncomfortable with the thought of coming out the Hitler so I hope we can safely say that card's off the table.

*That is, if Hitler came to 2015 - not if I was in 1942. Thankfully I'm not that dumb.
**definition, (wikipedia): Discrimination is treatment or consideration of, or making a distinction in favour of or against, a person or thing based on the group, class, or category to which that person or thing belongs rather than on individual merit.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: heids on June 27, 2015, 10:05:02 pm
I will preface this with: this is a more way-out post than my others, I'm really sorry (and not trying to evangelise!!!) but trying to sort stuff out in my own mind.  Don't take anything personally.

I completely respect your right to genuinely- and deeply-held religious beliefs that hold that homosexuality is wrong. I happen to know a whole lot about (what you call) the OT, and I'm willing to engage in that debate. But for me, it's entirely beside the point. It's your belief, and you're entitled to it.

The issue is when you force those beliefs on other people. As a society, we have limited treating people adversely to when actual, direct harm is occasioned on other people through their conduct. I'm not going to go ad infinitum through examples to prove this point, because I think it's fairly self-evident.

Let me give you an example of what our current society hasn't outlawed, though. My religion holds that there are certain duties on all people, whether they are part of my religion or not. I would never seek to impose them on others through the law.

The bottom line is that whatever your belief on homosexuality is, one of the principles that our society holds is that we don't use the law to detract from someone's legal rights, or impose legal burdens on them, unless direct harm would otherwise be caused to other people. I don't think anyone can reasonably argue that harm is occasioned to others through gay marriages.
Yep, I realised afterwards that I'd forgotten to deal with whether I think gay marriage should be legalised: if we had a gay marriage referendum, I wouldn't vote.  Church vs. state, if the nation wants gay marriage, that's up to them, though it'll make it even harder for me.

So, I'm not going to try to force my beliefs on others; I'm never going to go up to a gay and say, 'You're evil, you're wrong, you will go to hell'.  Like, God doesn't.  He pretty much says with absolutely everything - I've warned you again and again, but I'm not going to stop you.  It's your choice.  But he also basically says, in the end you'll cop it.  So, I can't do the whole 'it's right for you' thing.  You're entitled to believe what you want to believe, but I believe that you are wrong and you will eventually 'cop it', to put it very harshly.

I believe that the God of the Bible is the one God who exists.  Hence, I have to believe that anyone who doesn't believe in him is wrong.  It's impossible that we're both right.  (Please, I'm not arguing about WHO is right, just saying that only one of us can be).  If I believe that everything is right, then I don't REALLY believe that my God exists, because he says that other religions/non-religions aren't right.  If you get me?  The 'everyone's right' mindset automatically says that no religion truly exists, which I can't cope with.

So, while this is unbelievably hard to say, I've got to say that if I end up totally believing that homosexuality is wrong (a point I'm struggling with), then I'll have to believe it's wrong - for everyone.  But again, it's your choice what you do, I'll never try and change that.  But basically I'm saying that, yes, because I believe in an 'intolerant' God, I also have to be 'intolerant'.  (Don't take that the wrong way).

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If you do not accept this principle, then it may come to that the majority, one day, may decide that people like you (as in, whichever one of the many groups that you can be characterised as part of) shouldn't be tolerated. Perhaps there will be laws restricting your rights to marry, to. Perhaps your land will be confiscated.
I'm aware; that's what happened to Christians, originally, and to the Reformers and Bible translators; that's what happens to anyone who holds a viewpoint totally opposite to society.  I'm expecting growing opposition to Christians.

Are there people genuinely saying that it is harder to be homophobic than not as if that should somehow engender sympathy.
Not trying to get sympathy; just stating it's a fact that going against the flow is difficult.  What do I have to gain out of being homophobic?  Nothing; I don't feel more self-righteous from it; it's not fun or easy.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on June 27, 2015, 10:11:46 pm
Yep, I realised afterwards that I'd forgotten to deal with whether I think gay marriage should be legalised: if we had a gay marriage referendum, I wouldn't vote.  Church vs. state, if the nation wants gay marriage, that's up to them, though it'll make it even harder for me.
So there's no issue. You have genuinely held religious beliefs, but you recognise that you can't impose them on others. Anything beyond that is utterly irrelevant for me.

I'm aware; that's what happened to Christians, originally, and to the Reformers and Bible translators; that's what happens to anyone who holds a viewpoint totally opposite to society.  I'm expecting growing opposition to Christians.
That's fair enough, but of course you have to recognise that it has been Christians who have been doing most of the oppressing for the past millennia. And on top of that, that being reduced from 'predominant religious status' to 'just another minority belief that people treat with contempt' doesn't really qualify for my sympathies. Especially when it has been Christians behind most of the racism towards other religions, not irreligious people.


Regarding the ruling: It was quite clear that Kennedy would provide the 5th vote for requiring same-sex marriages (and write the opinion). I'd have actually rated it a higher chance that one of the four liberal judges (e.g. Ginsburg, who is one of the biggest advocates for gender equality in the US, has criticised Roe v. Wade for actually "stopping momentum on the side of change", while Breyer is generally a pragmatist) would take the position that it's too soon.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: heids on June 27, 2015, 10:19:15 pm
it has been Christians who have been doing most of the oppressing for the past millennia
Indeed, and that's what I meant by the Bible translators/reformers being oppressed - it was the Christians who did that.  How 'Christians' have behaved (I sometimes struggle to call myself a Christian with that history) is utterly horrible and unacceptable.  (Interestingly, the Bible teaches that being oppressed is a GOOD thing for Christians).



Going to bed about now, and won't be round the forum tomorrow at all.  Will be interesting to see how this has developed by Monday.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Kanon on June 27, 2015, 10:58:31 pm
As a pretty committed Christian, my question is now what about gay divorce? Is that double sin? Does that then cancel out (-1 * -1 = +1)?  :P

But seriously, my views and beliefs about homosexuality are just that, my views. It's a combination of my personal, unverifiable and untestable beliefs so I don't really understand why people would try and superimpose their beliefs over anyone elses. But at the same time I think there's a real danger in allowing a country's legal system to be a substitute for your own morality system.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: sjayne on June 28, 2015, 12:05:39 am
I can't even read all of this.

I just wanted to say that it hurts me when someone says they are homophobic, which has to be far greater than whatever 'pain' they experience. Who a person loves is their own business, it has nothing to do with anybody else and it isn't causing them any harm. If you don't believe that gay marriage should be legal then you don't believe in equality. And while everyone is entitled to their own opinion when those opinions infringe on the rights of others, that's when there is a problem.


Not trying to get sympathy; just stating it's a fact that going against the flow is difficult.  What do I have to gain out of being homophobic?  Nothing; I don't feel more self-righteous from it; it's not fun or easy.

Then you should be able to understand that identifying as anything other than heterosexual isn't easy either. Nobody would willingly make themselves vulnerable to oppression or abuse. I don't think the argument should be about whether it is right or wrong for two people to marry, but how to protect the people who are in less than ideal circumstances because of their sexuality or gender identity.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: slothpomba on June 28, 2015, 12:12:56 am
As much as I'd be in support of a change, I don't have a strong feeling that the current government will be following suit at the moment. After the next federal election, however, I could envisage such a change happening. In my opinion, it's simply a matter of time at this point.

It really depends on the structure the vote takes.  Will it be a conscience vote or a matter of party policy?

Under a conscience vote, each member can vote according to his own personal beliefs. Under party policy (this is how most politics is done) every member in the party must vote a certain way.

I believe a conscience vote is vastly inferior, it must be a matter of party policy. So far, The Greens are the only major party to do this.

Under a conscience vote, you don't know who you're going to get. You could vote for Labor (or Liberals) because you think they're pro marriage equality but your local MP could be the biggest, anti-gay biggot out there. They are represented to display the will of their electorate and voters. Under a conscience vote, they only represent themselves as a single person.

Marriage is or ought to be a civil right. Like all civil rights, it should not be up to conscience or whim. There was a time where black and white people couldn't marry in many places, imagine if this was voted along the bigoted consciences of the time. Many of these things were only solved with court action or binding votes.

Right now, the only party with a binding policy of this nature is the Greens. Vote Greens and you can be sure each member will vote for marriage equality. The ALP (Labor Party) national conference is coming up. It will be decided whether to make it a matter of conscience or a binding party vote, so, watch this space.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: slothpomba on June 28, 2015, 12:47:01 am
I think what is sometimes sorely missed in debates is recognition that people have different base facts.

It's a fact from which you derive a lot of other things from. Say you believe peanuts are horrible as a true fact about the world and i believe they're amazing. We then go on to argue about whether snickers is good. We will never agree because as a fundamental part of your view, you believe a certain fact about peanuts to be true.

When people argue about things like religion, people fail to recognise the debates may not go anywhere useful because people hold different base assumptions about reality. For some people the bible is or isn't the word of God and they believe that as a true fact. Many other things spring from this. People who disagree about the nature of what is reality will have trouble ever agreeing. It is fairly useless in this respect to try tell someone how they ought to practice their religion or change their minds on a basic fact.

It's fairly uncontroversial that the bible prohibits homosexual acts, especially so male homosexual acts (with female counterparts rarely, if ever, mentioned). Marriage is a bit more fuzzy. The bible was composed for a small group of people who shared a rich cultural framework. Many things left unsaid or unclarified were probably none the less prohibited in this society.  Where the crux really lies is what people do with that and various controversies over interpretations (should Christians still obey the Old testament, etc).

It's quite clear though, if you do not like gay marriage, do not get gay married. We live in an age of civil, secular laws. The old days of laws and religion being intertwined formally died long ago. In a secular state, religion should not be a deciding factor (and neither should atheism). Marriage is (or ought to be) a civil right, what we have right now is a discrimination between classes of people and that is not right.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Russ on June 28, 2015, 09:57:39 am
Not trying to get sympathy; just stating it's a fact that going against the flow is difficult.  What do I have to gain out of being homophobic?  Nothing; I don't feel more self-righteous from it; it's not fun or easy.

I just struggle to understand why it's important you tell people it's difficult for you to think homosexuality is evil. Logically it would be to explain your internal struggle for the purposes of rationalisation or creating sympathy.

In any case, the only acceptable response to a statement like that is 'good, I'm glad it's difficult'. Maybe that should be a clue or something, in terms of the evolution of your views?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Deshouka on June 28, 2015, 01:40:19 pm

I've warned you again and again, but I'm not going to stop you.  It's your choice.  But he also basically says, in the end you'll cop it.  So, I can't do the whole 'it's right for you' thing.  You're entitled to believe what you want to believe, but I believe that you are wrong and you will eventually 'cop it', to put it very harshly.


I always thought my teacher was being disrespectful and narrow-minded when she slipped in some religious banter in class. Now I understand why...
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Yacoubb on June 28, 2015, 05:07:56 pm
In regards to this topic, I feel that many people immediately label those anti-gay marriage as bigots... But everyone is entitled to an opinion. It would be remiss to say that people are using religion as their POV support, but everyone is entitled to an opinion. My religion says that homosexuality is wrong, and I am against it. However, I have friends who are gay & I have never treated then any differently. Ellen DeGeneres is a perfect example of an amazing human being who is gay - but I have multiple reasons for why I don't believe in it. Same time though, a lot of pro gay marriage supporters who claim that religious people bash same-sex marriage which is sacred to them, make extremely disgusting bashing at religion (something sacred to me). It all comes down to the fact that everyone just needs to respect and acknowledge the opinions of others.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: zyzz101 on June 28, 2015, 05:24:30 pm
I feel that pretty much every religious text was wriiten to satisfy the needs of the society at THAT time. If, any religious book was written again in 2015, it would be totally different
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: lzxnl on June 28, 2015, 05:54:36 pm
I haven't read through the pages of discussion here so I'm going to clearly state my views on gay marriage and you can all bash me or whatever you feel is appropriate.

I personally don't like the idea of gay marriage. I personally cringe inside whenever I see pictures of guys kissing or girls kissing. It's just how my mind works. However, I only dislike the notion of homosexuality. I don't actually look down on homosexuals; I just see them as different to me and if they want to be gay, so be it. As long as I don't feel discomfort around gays, I don't care about their gender orientation. This does, however, mean that I'm unable to support the pro-gay movement, and to be honest I am pretty sick of seeing all these rainbows on my Facebook timeline (it's getting a tad repetitive now...). I'm just saying I'm not supporting it; I'm not opposing it either. I'm sitting on the fence for this debate as while I understand gays should have their love recognised legally, it nevertheless makes me personally feel uncomfortable.

Also, recently I thought of a similar issue. If homosexuality is fine, I'm interested to see how people view the taboo of incest now. I mean, I've always felt the problem was due to genetics and potentially deformities in the offspring. However, given that homosexuals would adopt children, if an incest couple didn't have any kids naturally, I don't see what the issue would be, and by the argument used for homosexuals, incest couples should also be permitted. Just the results of a little bit of mental wandering.

Thoughts guys on any of the above?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: sjayne on June 28, 2015, 07:00:49 pm
I don't think any of you realise how upsetting these comments actually are to hear.

People say that they have nothing wrong with the LGBTQIA+ (whatever the acronym is now) but then try and justify how they don't support gay marriage and compare homosexuality to incest? Seriously? All of our life we are asked if we have a boyfriend or girlfriend yet. We see heterosexual relationships portrayed in movies, on tv and in books. You walk down the street and see straight couples kissing and holding hands. Imagine for a second how that would feel when you know you would never be happy in a relationship like that. You want to but you can't and everyone around you is telling you that you should be.

This does, however, mean that I'm unable to support the pro-gay movement, and to be honest I am pretty sick of seeing all these rainbows on my Facebook timeline (it's getting a tad repetitive now...)

And the reason that there are things like pride parades and even the whole rainbow profile pictures on facebook at the moment, is to let people know that they are supported. Because it's difficult. Honestly, I can tell you that it's like getting a hug from all of my facebook friends and them saying that they don't think there is anything wrong with me. Because there isn't.

Religion needs to be taken out of this. Those who are against gay marriage are basically pushing their beliefs on other people. Marriage has nothing to do with religion anymore. I don't care whether you like it or not but the fact is, gay people are here. Denying anyone basic rights isn't going to prevent that and it's just going to cause harm.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: MonsieurHulot on June 28, 2015, 07:31:01 pm
Also, recently I thought of a similar issue. If homosexuality is fine, I'm interested to see how people view the taboo of incest now. I mean, I've always felt the problem was due to genetics and potentially deformities in the offspring. However, given that homosexuals would adopt children, if an incest couple didn't have any kids naturally, I don't see what the issue would be, and by the argument used for homosexuals, incest couples should also be permitted. Just the results of a little bit of mental wandering.

Thoughts guys on any of the above?

I think that you raise an interesting point. Traditionally, the concept of marriage has been inextricably linked with procreation and family. It's a religious creation essentially designed to further to human species. Sex outside of marriage is forbidden, and any sex within marriage should be for the sole purpose of procreation, according to the Bible.
Allowing gay people to marriage essentially changes the definition of marriage, as between any two adults who love each other. Obviously, this reflects the changing of views over time; people have sex outside of marriage all the time and contraception is widely used, between married and non-married couples.

Incest couples (with the likelihood of deformed offspring) don't really fit the traditional view of marriage as a way to encourage procreation. However, with the changing of the concept of marriage to only focus on the love between two people, an incestuous couple could legitimately claim to be allowed to get married. I wouldn't be at all surprised to see this within the next decade, at most.


Religion needs to be taken out of this. Those who are against gay marriage are basically pushing their beliefs on other people. Marriage has nothing to do with religion anymore. I don't care whether you like it or not but the fact is, gay people are here. Denying anyone basic rights isn't going to prevent that and it's just going to cause harm.
 

You could change every instance of "gay" to "incest" and you'd have an argument for legalising incest marriage that's just as convincing as for gay marriage.

To be honest, if you think about that it's not as offensive at is may first seem. The parallels are pretty strong. Incestuous couples have been around for recorded history, and, just like homosexual couples were and in some places still are, are taboo.

I'm all for gay marriage, but I think that people need to think about the consequences of changing the base that marriage has traditionally rested upon. Would you be against allowing a brother and sister couple to marry?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 28, 2015, 07:45:33 pm


Also, recently I thought of a similar issue. If homosexuality is fine, I'm interested to see how people view the taboo of incest now. I mean, I've always felt the problem was due to genetics and potentially deformities in the offspring. However, given that homosexuals would adopt children, if an incest couple didn't have any kids naturally, I don't see what the issue would be, and by the argument used for homosexuals, incest couples should also be permitted. Just the results of a little bit of mental wandering.

Thoughts guys on any of the above?

Okay, I do not understand how a person can relate homosexuality to incest, I just cant and I personally find it very offensive. However on your ground of an incest couple not having any kids (which is very unlikely and prevents many of the problems relating to incest and why it is illegal in the first place) I will give you a reason just to ponder.

With incest you can opt to find someone who is not related to you to have sex/and or a relationship with (it is a choice). When you are gay, you are attracted to your own gender and you cannot just opt out of having sex/and or a relationship with a member of the same sex and start having one with a member of the opposite sex, that would be asking you to be something that you are not. Therefor you are relating an orientation to a choice and that is not valid.

Also I would just like to remind you that without arguing all of the negative factors that incest imposes and just picking and choosing the ones that best suits you, you are not putting up a valid argument for relating incest to homosexuality. You have to consider all aspects of the issue.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: sjayne on June 28, 2015, 07:48:50 pm
I'm all for gay marriage, but I think that people need to think about the consequences of changing the base that marriage has traditionally rested upon. Would you be against allowing a brother and sister couple to marry?

Yes. Incest is completely different to gay marriage. I think my opinion would change if it were perhaps second cousins or maybe cousins but brother and sister? That's wrong. And you'd have to work our where the lines are between abuse/emotional abuse and two people who love each other and want to marry. Because say one sibling was taken advantage of when they were younger or 'groomed' by an older sibling- that would be wrong. If two people wanted to get married and then found out they were siblings? That's different.

These things shouldn't even be compared.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: nino quincampoix on June 28, 2015, 07:50:17 pm
I feel that pretty much every religious text was wriiten to satisfy the needs of the society at THAT time. If, any religious book was written again in 2015, it would be totally different

Organised religion just complicates things! (But do what you want in your own home so long as it affects no one else.) And yes, these texts, in a sense, can be viewed as outdated and as having little accord with modern life. They are not entirely obsolete, though.

And the reason that there are things like pride parades and even the whole rainbow profile pictures on facebook at the moment, is to let people know that they are supported.

I feel that things like the above encourage "passive action." Changing a picture on FB does not equate to real change. It is superficial and is steeped in contradiction. To me it says, "I think I want to support this movement...but, I'm not going to do much about it." It quickly becomes tacky and weakens the overall idea that the movement had intended to signify. Remember "je suis Charlie?" They had that slogan on coffee mugs. Yeah: coffee mugs.



I feel that if anything at all is to happen (e.g., constitutional amendment), a vote needs to be held. Just as it is mandatory in elections, everyone should be obligated to vote - that way, we can have a thorough and accurate representation of where the population stands on the issue. Everyone would be entitled to their own opinions, everyone would have an equal voice, and no politician could politicise the issue, which is simply morally and ethically egregious. We are a democracy after all.

My feeling is that if a change was to be made to the constitution to enable same sex couples to wed, then a very strict wording must be employed so as to prevent exploitation of the novel amendment. People will pursue any means to gain an advantage in this life, and if a legal document permits such behaviour, we would have people entering into all sorts of marriage arrangements (let your mind fill in the blanks...) for tax avoidance purposes, welfare, etc. Hence, whatever change is to be made must be considered with great thought. No changing of Facebook pictures will ever amount to anything significant in the way of change that betters society.

Peace.

P.S. I normally do not weigh in on these things, which is why I presented no view of my own on the matter.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: mahler004 on June 28, 2015, 08:00:56 pm
I feel that if anything at all is to happen (e.g., constitutional amendment), a vote needs to be held. Just as it is mandatory in elections, everyone should be obligated to vote - that way, we can have a thorough and accurate representation of where the population stands on the issue. Everyone would be entitled to their own opinions, everyone would have an equal voice, and no politician could politicise the issue, which is simply morally and ethically egregious. We are a democracy after all.

My feeling is that if a change was to be made to the constitution to enable same sex couples to wed, then a very strict wording must be employed so as to prevent exploitation of the novel amendment. People will pursue any means to gain an advantage in this life, and if a legal document permits such behaviour, we would have people entering into all sorts of marriage arrangements for tax avoidance purposes, welfare, etc. Hence, whatever change is to be made must be considered with great thought. No changing of Facebook pictures will ever amount to anything significant in the way of change that betters society.

Peace.

P.S. I normally do not weigh in on these things, which is why I presented no view of my own on the matter.

Parliament is clearly given the power to legislate over matters relating to marriage in the Constitution (Section 51). This is why the ACT's same sex marriage law was overturned last year - it conflicted with federal legislation (Marriage Act.)1 If Parliament wants to legislate SSM into law, all it takes is passing some legislation, as with anything else. It doesn't require a constitutional change. Although the pro-same sex marriage side would likely win (65-70% of Australians support same sex marriage) it the campaign would throw up some pretty disgusting bigotry - as what happened in Ireland, California. Calling for a plebiscite (or worse, a constitutional amendment) is just a politician's ploy to dodge confronting the issue. This issue is inherently political.

Nobody thinks that by changing their Facebook picture they'll radically transform society - but it's a harmless way of expressing solidarity with LGBTIQ+ individuals that they know. Tony Abbott won't change his opinion on SSM as a result of this, but plenty of younger LGBITQ+ individuals - particularly those still in the closet feel socially isolated, confused and alone. Seeing your Facebook newsfeed become a rainbow tells them that no, you're not alone, and yes, society does support you.

1. Yes, lurking lawyers, I know that the ACT's relationship with the Commonwealth is quite different to that between the Commonwealth and the states :).

Yes. Incest is completely different to gay marriage. I think my opinion would change if it were perhaps second cousins or maybe cousins but brother and sister? That's wrong. And you'd have to work our where the lines are between abuse/emotional abuse and two people who love each other and want to marry. Because say one sibling was taken advantage of when they were younger or 'groomed' by an older sibling- that would be wrong. If two people wanted to get married and then found out they were siblings? That's different.

These things shouldn't even be compared.

Indeed. Power imbalance. Also worth pointing out that plenty of societies throughout history (including Western ones, surprisingly recently) have accepted same sex relationships, but the incest taboo is one of the most universal known in anthropology.

It's also worth pointing out that, in many ways, it's remarkable that we're even having a conversation about same sex marriage. Homosexuality was illegal in Tasmania and Queensland up until the 1990s (although not enforced,) and illegal and enforced in several US states until 2003. Recognition that homosexuals (and their relationships) deserve full, civil rights has happened remarkably quickly.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Yacoubb on June 28, 2015, 08:05:10 pm
I don't appreciate when people immediately say people who are against the legislation of same-sex marriage are homophobic. That is one stupid assumption & honestly I find that offensive. There needs to be a point where people are actually saying things and acknowledging that everyone has an opinion ~ that is for people who are both FOR and AGAINST same sex marriage.

If someone thinks it's disgusting and putrid, someone who is passionate can't slam them and say it's fine and not disgusting. The notion of freedom is COMPLETELY compromised when someone says "I don't want gay marriage", and everyone jumps on the attack. That means that people are either for gay marriage or bigots, homophobic, religious fanatics.... that's not on, seriously!
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: nino quincampoix on June 28, 2015, 08:12:04 pm
Parliament is clearly given the power to legislate over matters relating to marriage in the Constitution (Section 51). This is why the ACT's same sex marriage law was overturned last year - it conflicted with federal legislation (Marriage Act.)1 If Parliament wants to legislate SSM into law, all it takes is passing some legislation, as with anything else. It doesn't require a constitutional change. Although the pro-same sex marriage side would likely win (65-70% of Australians support same sex marriage) it the campaign would throw up some pretty disgusting bigotry - as what happened in Ireland, California. Calling for a plebiscite (or worse, a constitutional amendment) is just a politician's ploy to dodge confronting the issue. This issue is inherently political.

While I respect what you say and the grounds you present in support of what you have said, I doubt that an MP can accurately represent his or her electorate with a single vote (not in/in favour), hence my suggestion of a general vote. Fair point about the constitution v. legislation though.

Edit: what I should have said was that when you last voted for your local member, none too few of the candidates expressed their views on same sex marriage at the time of voting (from what I recall, this was the case in my electorate at least), so how could they possibly make a decision with everyone in mind? Not possible. I say this because what we are discussing is an important and charged societal issue, which needs to be resolved as best as possible. I don't want to be hearing the same discussion in 5 years' time because we didn't get it right the first time.

Nobody thinks that by changing their Facebook picture they'll radically transform society - but it's a harmless way of expressing solidarity with LGBTIQ+ individuals that they know. Tony Abbott won't change his opinion on SSM as a result of this, but plenty of younger LGBITQ+ individuals - particularly those still in the closet feel socially isolated, confused and alone. Seeing your Facebook newsfeed become a rainbow tells them that no, you're not alone, and yes, society does support you.

Again, I largely agree with what you are saying, especially the bolded part. I'm just not a convert, especially after the commercialisation of the "je suis Charlie" thing. Plus never underestimate the naďveté of some people out there (you never know who's changing their profile picture thinking that it'll actually do something substantial)!
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: pi on June 28, 2015, 08:25:53 pm
If someone thinks it's disgusting and putrid, someone who is passionate can't slam them and say it's fine and not disgusting. The notion of freedom is COMPLETELY compromised when someone says "I don't want gay marriage", and everyone jumps on the attack. That means that people are either for gay marriage or bigots, homophobic, religious fanatics.... that's not on, seriously!

There was once a time not too long ago when if someone said "I want gay marriage", everyone would jump on the attack. Similarly for the rights of Aboriginals, or to stop slavery, or in support for interracial marriage, etc. etc.

Society eventually moves towards what is right for these social issues, it's a shame that some people can't accept that by being stuck in their archaic views of how everyone should be.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Thu Thu Train on June 28, 2015, 08:27:12 pm
Same sex marriage is legal in the US and terrorist attacks happen in France and Tunisia. Coincidence? I THINK NOT.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Yacoubb on June 28, 2015, 08:31:33 pm
There was once a time not too long ago when if someone said "I want gay marriage", everyone would jump on the attack. Similarly for the rights of Aboriginals, or to stop slavery, or in support for interracial marriage, etc. etc.

Society eventually moves towards what is right for these social issues, it's a shame that some people can't accept that by being stuck in their archaic views of how everyone should be.

And that's what I mean -everyone immediately thinks that being anti-same sex marriage has to do with archaic views. My views are somewhat based on what my faith teaches, but more so because of my own reasons and beliefs that don't revolve only on what my faith tells.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: sjayne on June 28, 2015, 08:34:05 pm
I don't appreciate when people immediately say people who are against the legislation of same-sex marriage are homophobic. That is one stupid assumption & honestly I find that offensive. There needs to be a point where people are actually saying things and acknowledging that everyone has an opinion ~ that is for people who are both FOR and AGAINST same sex marriage.

I don't care if you find that offensive. I find it offensive that people think I don't deserve the right to marry.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Yacoubb on June 28, 2015, 08:35:55 pm
I don't care if you find that offensive. I find it offensive that you don't think I deserve the right to marry.

That's totally fine! Difference in opinion is what makes this world go around.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: pi on June 28, 2015, 08:36:23 pm
And that's what I mean -everyone immediately thinks that being anti-same sex marriage has to do with archaic views. My views are somewhat based on what my faith teaches, but more so because of my own reasons and beliefs that don't revolve only on what my faith tells.

I'd argue that religion is archaic :P But I guess that's a debate for another day.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: nino quincampoix on June 28, 2015, 08:39:35 pm
I'd argue that religion is archaic :P But I guess that's a debate for another day.

While it may (or may not) be archaic, the practise of religion as an individual may very well have its merits. But those merits end when a life becomes blindly dictated by a piece of text, be it religious or irreligious for that matter.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 28, 2015, 08:42:07 pm
I'd argue that religion is archaic :P But I guess that's a debate for another day.

Now that is a big can of worms.  ;D
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Thu Thu Train on June 28, 2015, 08:45:15 pm
I don't understand how it affects anyones lives except gay people if they can get married....

How does it affect any of you PERSONALLY?

One person was basically "Oh no it grosses me out"... Wtf? Are you 12?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: sjayne on June 28, 2015, 08:50:15 pm
;D

You quoted me!!! My life feels complete now  ;D ;D

I don't understand how it affects anyones lives except gay people if they can get married....

How does it affect any of you PERSONALLY?

Thank you!
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: mahler004 on June 28, 2015, 08:51:11 pm
There was once a time not too long ago when if someone said "I want gay marriage", everyone would jump on the attack. Similarly for the rights of Aboriginals, or to stop slavery, or in support for interracial marriage, etc. etc.

Society eventually moves towards what is right for these social issues, it's a shame that some people can't accept that by being stuck in their archaic views of how everyone should be.

A more broad point - nobody is going to come and arrest you for being opposed to same sex marriage - or even outright homophobia. What you don't have is the right to have other people accept your views. This is not an abstract issue for LGBTIQ+ individuals. Some of them get, understandably, agitated when you advocate for denying them equal rights.

To put it more bluntly - you can say what you want, but you have to wear it.

While I respect what you say and the grounds you present in support of what you have said, I doubt that an MP can accurately represent his or her electorate with a single vote (not in/in favour), hence my suggestion of a general vote. Fair point about the constitution v. legislation though.

Edit: what I should have said was that when you last voted for your local member, none too few of the candidates expressed their views on same sex marriage at the time of voting (from what I recall, this was the case in my electorate at least), so how could they possibly make a decision with everyone in mind? Not possible. I say this because what we are discussing is an important and charged societal issue, which needs to be resolved as best as possible. I don't want to be hearing the same discussion in 5 years' time because we didn't get it right the first time.

Again, I largely agree with what you are saying, especially the bolded part. I'm just not a convert, especially after the commercialisation of the "je suis Charlie" thing. Plus never underestimate the naďveté of some people out there (you never know who's changing their profile picture thinking that it'll actually do something substantial)!

I think this will be an 'agree to disagree' thing.

The individual voting for a representative in a representative democracy is inherently making a compromise. Few people will vote purely based on a single issue - it'll be weighing up several issues and then choosing a candidate (or, much of the time, a party) that they agree with the most. It's the job of the politicians to act on behalf of their constituents, although they can never represent all of them. Sometimes - you need to make an unpopular decision (although supporting SSM is hardly unpopular).

I kind of got a bit wordy there, but I guess my point is - in our system, it's the job of parliamentarians to make contentious - even unpopular - decisions. They have the power to do it, and they should do it.

(On a tangent - I'm pretty skeptical of it, as most of the people calling for a plebiscite or a referendum are opposed to SSM - not saying that you are, personally).

As for Charlie - yeah, I pretty much agree. I guess I see it as pretty harmless (rainbow display pictures) - if not a little beneficial, so I can't really work myself up over it.

Same sex marriage is legal in the US and terrorist attacks happen in France and Tunisia. Coincidence? I THINK NOT.

http://www.tylervigen.com/spurious-correlations
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: pi on June 28, 2015, 08:53:56 pm
While it may (or may not) be archaic, the practise of religion as an individual may very well have its merits. But those merits end when a life becomes blindly dictated by a piece of text, be it religious or irreligious for that matter.

I wholeheartedly agree. Whilst religion may have it's merits (bringing people together for a common "good", etc etc.), it needs to adapt, or the interpretation of its texts and teachings needs to adapt and modernise. It's simply nonsensical to me for someone living in the modern day to follow teachings/writings from hundreds of years ago. You wouldn't use everything (or most things) from a medical textbook from the 1800s to learn how to treat people, why would you use everything (or most things) from a book written hundreds of years ago to learn how to live?

It's my understanding somewhat rudimentary understanding that God was created as a concept (and I'm talking way before Jesus and his homies) to explain the unknown. What is known and what is unknown is constantly changing, as we continually know more and create questions that we don't know the answers too. Hence, God as a concept should be continually changing. Hence, interpretations of God's teachings from long ago should too.

I have no idea how to relate this back to gay marriage, so I won't even try, but just my view on whatever I just gave my view on.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Mieow on June 28, 2015, 08:57:09 pm
- "I cannot do that because of my religion"
- "You cannot do that because of my religion" ×
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 28, 2015, 08:57:27 pm
You quoted me!!! My life feels complete now  ;D ;D

Haha, glad to know I could make a difference. ;D After all, you did give me a quote to live my academic life by.  ;D 
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 28, 2015, 08:59:25 pm
- "I cannot do that because of my religion"
- "You cannot do that because of my religion" ×

Now this is how it should be! 100%
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: nino quincampoix on June 28, 2015, 09:00:47 pm
The individual voting for a representative in a representative democracy is inherently making a compromise. Few people will vote purely based on a single issue - it'll be weighing up several issues and then choosing a candidate (or, much of the time, a party) that they agree with the most. It's the job of the politicians to act on behalf of their constituents, although they can never represent all of them. Sometimes - you need to make an unpopular decision (although supporting SSM is hardly unpopular).

On point! But what I worry about is that this is an issue that gives me the impression that it will continue to resurface and cloud political debate for years to come (so long as it remains in the state in which we currently find it). A simple yes/no vote should resolve it for a few generations at least. Sure this is not exactly in keeping with democracy, although shouldn't it make everybody a little happier/less disputatious?!
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: pi on June 28, 2015, 09:01:07 pm
- "I cannot do that because of my religion"
- "You cannot do that because of my religion" ×

Best post in this thread, where is the damned +1 button!?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Thu Thu Train on June 28, 2015, 09:04:09 pm
- "I cannot do that because of my religion"
- "You cannot do that because of my religion" ×

10/10
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: mahler004 on June 28, 2015, 09:07:11 pm
On point! But what I worry about is that this is an issue that gives me the impression that it will continue to resurface and cloud political debate for years to come (so long as it remains in the state in which we currently find it). A simple yes/no vote should resolve it for a few generations at least. Sure this is not exactly in keeping with democracy, although shouldn't it make everybody a little happier/less disputatious?!

In most other countries/US states the issue seems to disappear pretty promptly. Just as you'll catch few people arguing against no-fault divorce or interracial marriage here today, once the issue is settled, it seems to go away (although, of course, Australia is not the Netherlands, or even the US). Even now, the language among those opposed to SSM in Australia has started to shift from 'it'll happen over my dead body' to tact acceptance. Compare Tony Abbott - 'who cares' to 'I'm the only person in my family who still supports the traditional definition of marriage' in a few years.

I also think it's interesting to look at the age distribution of support/opposition for SSM. Support for SSM skews young (80%) even though there's a majority in all age groups (old poll).
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: sjayne on June 28, 2015, 09:11:30 pm
- "I cannot do that because of my religion"
- "You cannot do that because of my religion" ×

While I think this  has good meaning, I'd like to mention that sexuality isn't a choice and that this should be more like:
I can't be anything other than the sexuality I identify as. 
Because some Christians are gay.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: faso on June 28, 2015, 09:20:27 pm
While I think this  has good meaning, I'd like to mention that sexuality isn't a choice and that this should be more like:
I can't be anything other than the sexuality I identify as. 
Because some Christians are gay.
You cannot be a Christian and be gay. The bible clearly condemns homosexuality you cant simply pick and choose what suits you from your religion its either you take it as a whole or you dont at all.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: nino quincampoix on June 28, 2015, 09:23:39 pm
In most other countries/US states the issue seems to disappear pretty promptly. Just as you'll catch few people arguing against no-fault divorce or interracial marriage here today, once the issue is settled, it seems to go away (although, of course, Australia is not the Netherlands, or even the US). Even now, the language among those opposed to SSM in Australia has started to shift from 'it'll happen over my dead body' to tact acceptance. Compare Tony Abbott - 'who cares' to 'I'm the only person in my family who still supports the traditional definition of marriage' in a few years.

That's an interesting and highly relevant parallel you draw. Let's hope you're right!
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: keltingmeith on June 28, 2015, 09:25:29 pm
You cannot be a Christian and be gay. The bible clearly condemns homosexuality you cant simply pick and choose what suits you from your religion its either you take it as a whole or you dont at all.
Actually, one's faith is their own choice.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: mahler004 on June 28, 2015, 09:31:30 pm
That's an interesting and highly relevant parallel you draw. Let's hope you're right!

It's also interesting to note that it took until the mid-90s for interracial marriage to become supported by a majority of Americans (Loving v. Virginia, which legalised interracial marriage was decided in 1967). 

Same sex marriage received majority support in 2010, and the court decision was made last week. Here, the Supreme Court appeared to follow the public, instead of leading it.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: faso on June 28, 2015, 09:33:50 pm
Actually, one's faith is their own choice.
Actually, by definition a Christian is  someone who professes belief in the teachings of Jesus Christ. 
If you deep down believe being a homosexual is a sin and you still are you are classified as a Christian because you acknowledge that being a homosexual is wrong. However,  if you believe that being a homosexual in Christianity is okay then you are directly going against teachings of Jesus and therefore you're not a Christian.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Thu Thu Train on June 28, 2015, 09:35:10 pm
You cannot be a Christian and be gay. The bible clearly condemns homosexuality you cant simply pick and choose what suits you from your religion its either you take it as a whole or you dont at all.
Hahahaha its cute you think they don't pick and choose.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Clockwork on June 28, 2015, 09:37:29 pm
(Apologises for side tracking the current discussion)

There's already been some states and counties not wanting to follow through with the SCOTUS' (Supreme Court of the United States) ruling. Louisiana has for example, claimed they will not issue any marriage licenses to same-sex couples for 25 days (25 days is the amount of time the losing side can ask the SCOTUS to reconsider their ruling).

There are also some places not issuing marriage licenses to anyone (straight or gay). This will interesting as the SCOTUS ruling stated that marriage is a constitutional right under the equal protection clause and due process clause.

For those interested in reading the SCOTUS' ruling, http://www.supremecourt.gov/opinions/14pdf/14-556_3204.pdf which also contains the dissents. I found Justice Scalia's dissent the most interesting to read in how it was written and the reasoning behind his vote.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 28, 2015, 09:37:53 pm
You cannot be a Christian and be gay. The bible clearly condemns homosexuality you cant simply pick and choose what suits you from your religion its either you take it as a whole or you dont at all.

Well... the bible condemns many other things but you don't see all Christians abiding by them.

A list:
Eating a cheeseburger or anything that mixes meat and dairy (Exodus 23:19)
Eating fat (Leviticus 3:17)
Eating pork (Leviticus 11:7-8)
Waiting too long before consuming sacrifices (Leviticus 19:5-8)
Eating aquatic creatures lacking fins or scales (Deuteronomy 14:9-10)

The forth one is extremely applicable.

I will now proceed to ask all christian if they have consumed any cheeseburgers lately.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: faso on June 28, 2015, 09:38:27 pm
Well... the bible condemns many other things but you don't see all Christians abiding by them.

A list:
Eating a cheeseburger or anything that mixes meat and dairy (Exodus 23:19)
Eating fat (Leviticus 3:17)
Eating pork (Leviticus 11:7-8)
Waiting too long before consuming sacrifices (Leviticus 19:5-8)
Eating aquatic creatures lacking fins or scales (Deuteronomy 14:9-10)

The forth one is extremely applicable.
Committing a sin and believing something isnt a sin are two different things.
My religion does not allow me to certain things. Although i do them i know its wrong and can be forgiven as god is the most merciful. However, saying something isnt a sin when it is thats when you are in deep shit.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 28, 2015, 09:44:25 pm
Committing a sin and believing something isnt a sin are two different things.
My religion does not allow me to certain things. Although i do i know its wrong and can be forgiven as god is the most merciful. However, saying something isnt a sin when it is thats when you are in deep shit.

Ok, so what if I am a gay Christian. I know I am sining however I recognize that if I do not recognize that I am gay I will live the rest of my life unhappy and depressed. So I then remember that because god is so loving he will want me to live a happy life and I know that since he is most merciful I can be forgiven. Can I then be a gay Christian?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: chasej on June 28, 2015, 09:45:41 pm
Sure, yeah - it's all well and good that everyone should be happy. But why are they so excited about marriage being extended to the general populace in the US when people are being murdered, raped and tortured everyday? It represents the awkward and knobbly system we as a global society have with dealing with things. "Hey, some guy got beheaded by ISIS" should not reasonably be less important than "yeah I can wear this ring now", but guess which one people are talking about. Yes it's cool that another ~1 in 10 people in the US are maybe a bit happier now, but the whole 'loving union' thing is kind of defeated if being legally married is a selling point in the first place.

People can do more than one thing at once. ISIS gets plenty of attention, in fact people have a bizarre obsession with them as they haven't really done anything that shocking when you contrast them with places like Saudi Arabia or Iran (that's a whole different point though).

So, while this is unbelievably hard to say, I've got to say that if I end up totally believing that homosexuality is wrong (a point I'm struggling with), then I'll have to believe it's wrong - for everyone.  But again, it's your choice what you do, I'll never try and change that.  But basically I'm saying that, yes, because I believe in an 'intolerant' God, I also have to be 'intolerant'.  (Don't take that the wrong way).

I'm not sure about the new testament. But I know to say the old testament prohibits people being homosexual is absurd. The Old Testament prohibits homosexual acts.

I think a further absurdity is the idea that sinning would take you to a 'hell', because if G-d puts people through eternal damnation He is not benevolent.

You cannot be a Christian and be gay. The bible clearly condemns homosexuality you cant simply pick and choose what suits you from your religion its either you take it as a whole or you dont at all.

see above.

Committing a sin and believing something isnt a sin are two different things.
My religion does not allow me to certain things. Although i do them i know its wrong and can be forgiven as god is the most merciful. However, saying something isnt a sin when it is thats when you are in deep shit.

what a crazy way to look at the world. you can do whatever you want as long as you recognise it is bad? no principles at all - it's just making it up as you go along, acting first and fitting your beliefs in later.

--
My opinion:
I don't think the state should regulate marriage at all. Marriage should be governed by religious institutions and civil unions/de facto relationships governed by the state. It's blatantly unfair that marriage is based off of secular or Christian definitions (the two main sides of the debate in Australia) which in turn restricts other cultures in Australia from preserving their own practices, it's anti multi-cultural.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: keltingmeith on June 28, 2015, 09:46:39 pm
Committing a sin and believing something isnt a sin are two different things.
My religion does not allow me to certain things. Although i do them i know its wrong and can be forgiven as god is the most merciful. However, saying something isnt a sin when it is thats when you are in deep shit.
The whole point of having a faith is that it's yours - it's not about picking and choosing, it's about believing something and following through. Nowadays, most Christians have their own faith - that doesn't make them "wrong", or even not Christians. It just means they have a belief that they follow that is different to the traditional.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: slothpomba on June 28, 2015, 09:47:46 pm
I feel that pretty much every religious text was wriiten to satisfy the needs of the society at THAT time. If, any religious book was written again in 2015, it would be totally different

This is your opinion but it's totally irrelevant to the debate. You may think that as a (non-religious?) person but so what? The vast majority of religious people believe their text to one degree of intensity or another is to satisfy the eternal needs of humanity. If it's created by God and God is perfect, surely so is the book.

This is typical of why these debates go nowhere. Non-religious people (who often know very little about religion) telling religious people how they ought to view their very own deeply held beliefs.

Sex outside of marriage is forbidden, and any sex within marriage should be for the sole purpose of procreation, according to the Bible.

This is a stereotypical catholic view, even then it's acknowledged sex can be for pleasure between a couple. Clearly someone missed all the erotic poetry in the songs of Solomon..

Spoiler
Songs of Solomon - 5

I slept but my heart was awake.
    Listen! My beloved is knocking:
“Open to me, my sister, my darling,
    my dove, my flawless one.
My head is drenched with dew,
    my hair with the dampness of the night.”

I have taken off my robe—
    must I put it on again?
I have washed my feet—
    must I soil them again?

My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening;
    my heart began to pound for him.
 
I arose to open for my beloved,
    and my hands dripped with myrrh,
my fingers with flowing myrrh,
    on the handles of the bolt.

Song of Songs 1

She

12
While the king was at his table,
    my perfume spread its fragrance.
13
My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh
    resting between my breasts.
14
My beloved is to me a cluster of henna blossoms
    from the vineyards of En Gedi.

He

15
How beautiful you are, my darling!
    Oh, how beautiful!
    Your eyes are doves.

She

16
How handsome you are, my beloved!
    Oh, how charming!
    And our bed is verdant.

He

17
The beams of our house are cedars;
    our rafters are firs.

Quote
Incest couples (with the likelihood of deformed offspring) don't really fit the traditional view of marriage as a way to encourage procreation. However, with the changing of the concept of marriage to only focus on the love between two people, an incestuous couple could legitimately claim to be allowed to get married. I wouldn't be at all surprised to see this within the next decade, at most.

I don't see this happening. Change doesn't happen without action and there's no real history of an incest rights movement, community or brutal oppression.

As far as we know something like 1/10 people are LGBTQI+. 1 out of every 10 people is really enough to build a mass movement in political theory terms. I'd wager the number of people who are actively practicing an incestuous lifestyle would not even be 1/1000 or 10,000. I do not see people suddenly becoming more incestuous either, just like more people won't become gay as a result of the change in attitude towards gay marriage.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: mahler004 on June 28, 2015, 09:50:47 pm
(Apologises for side tracking the current discussion)

There's already been some states and counties not wanting to follow through with the SCOTUS' (Supreme Court of the United States) ruling. Louisiana has for example, claimed they will not issue any marriage licenses to same-sex couples for 25 days (25 days is the amount of time the losing side can ask the SCOTUS to reconsider their ruling).

There are also some places not issuing marriage licenses to anyone (straight or gay). This will interesting as the SCOTUS ruling stated that marriage is a constitutional right under the equal protection clause and due process clause.

For those interested in reading the SCOTUS' ruling, http://www.supremecourt.gov/opinions/14pdf/14-556_3204.pdf which also contains the dissents. I found Justice Scalia's dissent the most interesting to read in how it was written and the reasoning behind his vote.

It does raise an interesting point about the Supreme Court's power - they don't have an army, and they can't enforce their decisions. Indeed, there's actually been a few times in history when the executive branch (President) outright disobeyed a Supreme Court decision (generally in wartime). Likewise, more conservative states will try and throw up barriers to same sex marriage (similar to how they throw up barriers to abortion, despite Roe v. Wade.) There are already a few 'religious freedom' laws in the works allowing civil employees (county clarks and the like) to refuse to marry same sex couples.

Well... the bible condemns many other things but you don't see all Christians abiding by them.

A list:
Eating a cheeseburger or anything that mixes meat and dairy (Exodus 23:19)
Eating fat (Leviticus 3:17)
Eating pork (Leviticus 11:7-8)
Waiting too long before consuming sacrifices (Leviticus 19:5-8)
Eating aquatic creatures lacking fins or scales (Deuteronomy 14:9-10)

The forth one is extremely applicable.

I will now proceed to ask all christian if they have consumed any cheeseburgers lately.

(Not a Christian). People will argue that, with Jesus, the Old Testament laws were set aside. So that's why Christians don't keep kosher (your first three and five) or conduct sacrifices.

Homosexuality, in contrast, is explicitly condemned by Paul.

This is your opinion but it's totally irrelevant to the debate. You may think that as a (non-religious?) person but so what? The vast majority of religious people believe their text to one degree of intensity or another is to satisfy the eternal needs of humanity. If it's created by God and God is perfect, surely so is the book.

This is typical of why these debates go nowhere. Non-religious people (who often know very little about religion) telling religious people how they ought to view their very own deeply held beliefs.

Agreed - and this is why serious discussion shouldn't happen on a message board, and why I'm a hypocrite.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: sjayne on June 28, 2015, 09:53:16 pm
Well I'm just gonna say this outright, but this whole discussion has made me not want to use this site anymore.  ???
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: chasej on June 28, 2015, 09:54:30 pm
Well I'm just gonna say this outright, but this while discussion has made me not want to use this site anymore.  ???

Why? :/
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: sjayne on June 28, 2015, 10:02:22 pm
Why? :/

Well, over the past years this forum has been my inspiration, I've looked up to a lot of people on here and I still do. However this thread has made me feel really uncomfortable and I can only imagine what any gay young teen on this site would feel like reading it. Nobody seems to really be open to anyone else's opinion and it's just unhelpful.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Russ on June 28, 2015, 10:08:14 pm
Well I'm just gonna say this outright, but this whole discussion has made me not want to use this site anymore.  ???

Life involves a lot of things that are not particularly pleasant. Regardless of career or direction, you'll encounter incompetence, idiocy etc. Unfortunately, it's not much comfort to be on the 'right' side of the divide if it makes you miserable in the process. I strongly believe you should do only what makes you happy (or be egotistical enough to not care) and if you feel like you'd rather not engage in this discussion for your personal happiness then that's totally fine. Incidentally, you can message me if you'd like to talk about it, I may have some relevant life experiences.

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You can have a reasonably constructive discussion about the role of same sex marriage in society, since I do genuinely believe there is an interesting perspective as to social definitions and so forth. Having said that XKCD is (as ever) relevant to some of the comments in the last few pages:
(https://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/free_speech.png)
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Cogglesnatch Cuttlefish on June 28, 2015, 10:09:10 pm
I wholeheartedly agree. Whilst religion may have it's merits (bringing people together for a common "good", etc etc.), it needs to adapt, or the interpretation of its texts and teachings needs to adapt and modernise. It's simply nonsensical to me for someone living in the modern day to follow teachings/writings from hundreds of years ago. You wouldn't use everything (or most things) from a medical textbook from the 1800s to learn how to treat people, why would you use everything (or most things) from a book written hundreds of years ago to learn how to live?

It's my understanding somewhat rudimentary understanding that God was created as a concept (and I'm talking way before Jesus and his homies) to explain the unknown. What is known and what is unknown is constantly changing, as we continually know more and create questions that we don't know the answers too. Hence, God as a concept should be continually changing. Hence, interpretations of God's teachings from long ago should too.

I have no idea how to relate this back to gay marriage, so I won't even try, but just my view on whatever I just gave my view on.
Although i hate to digress :P (sorry if i'm interrupting!), you bring up an interesting point. But it seems as though your view is based on the premise that religion and the concept of 'God' was developed by mankind which would of course deem religion archaic if that was the case. Let's look at the religion of Islam for example. Muslims believe that religion was sent by God in order to be adopted as a way of life by mankind in the form of a book (The Quran) believed to be the unaltered word of God. How can they prove that the Quran is in fact the word of God? Well, muslims point to the fact that it contains verses alluding to modern scientific phenomena (the water cycle and embryology are examples off the top of my head). And in the year 500 or thereabouts, such things were virtually unheard of. So it is inconceivable really that somebody actually knew of these things that long ago when modern science has just recently begun discovering these things. Some sort of divine presence is the only explanation really. Anyway, this is quite a broad topic (and this is not a thread about religion). Check this out it's pretty interesting http://www.whyislam.org/submission/the-holy-quran/the-quran-and-modern-science-3/
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: faso on June 28, 2015, 10:12:36 pm
Ok, so what if I am a gay Christian. I know I am sining however I recognize that if I do not recognize that I am gay I will live the rest of my life unhappy and depressed. So I then remember that because god is so loving he will want me to live a happy life and I know that since he is most merciful I can be forgiven. Can I then be a gay Christian?
Most merciful that does not mean he forgives every sin. If you are a Christian and believe you are gay your struggles to fight your homosexual desires  will not go un rewarded and maybe a test of faith. To end this you cannot be gay and Christian ITS IMPOSSIBLE.

For eulerfan
If they have there own faith they're not Christians genius call them whatever you want if you don't follow christs teachings your note a Christian lol. CHristian derives from Jesus last name if you haven't noticed.


For Mahler
No you can't you are still committing a sin and are responsible for it. It's just accepting it as a sin rather than denying it is a sin are two different stories.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Clockwork on June 28, 2015, 10:17:03 pm
It does raise an interesting point about the Supreme Court's power - they don't have an army, and they can't enforce their decisions. Indeed, there's actually been a few times in history when the executive branch (President) outright disobeyed a Supreme Court decision (generally in wartime). Likewise, more conservative states will try and throw up barriers to same sex marriage (similar to how they throw up barriers to abortion, despite Roe v. Wade.) There are already a few 'religious freedom' laws in the works allowing civil employees (county clarks and the like) to refuse to marry same sex couples.

I've been thinking about this outcome for a while and I won't be surprised if it comes down to a big Federal v States showdown. Too bad certain states won't just accept the decision and move on.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 28, 2015, 10:18:09 pm
Most merciful that does not mean he forgives every sin. If you are a Christian and believe you are gay your struggles to fight your homosexual desires  will not go un rewarded and maybe a test of faith. To end this you cannot be gay and Christian ITS IMPOSSIBLE.

For eulerfan
If they have there own faith they're not Christians genius call them whatever you want if you don't follow christs teachings your note a Christian lol. CHristian derives from Jesus last name if you haven't noticed.


For Mahler
No you can't you are still committing a sin and are responsible for it. It's just accepting it as a sin rather than denying it is a sin are two different stories.

I really just struggle to see the parts where it outlines the sins that god can be lenient on. Like where does god rule the line on sins he can be iffy on? I legitimately thought all sins were equal as they were all prohibited. I just don't think that under the conditions you're applying that if a christian has not followed ever part of the bible to the T that they could be considered as a true christian.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: faso on June 28, 2015, 10:22:09 pm
I really just struggle to see the parts where it outlines the sins that god can be lenient on. Like where does god rule the line on sins he can be iffy on? I legitimately thought all sins were equal as they were all prohibited.
They're are major sins and minor sins. Adultery is a major sin, swearing is a minor sin. Not all sins are to the same degree. This is the same for Jews and for muslims.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: lzxnl on June 28, 2015, 10:24:03 pm
So I go out to dinner and it looks like there have been lots of posts on this. I'll start by defending what I had to say earlier.

I don't think any of you realise how upsetting these comments actually are to hear.

People say that they have nothing wrong with the LGBTQIA+ (whatever the acronym is now) but then try and justify how they don't support gay marriage and compare homosexuality to incest? Seriously? All of our life we are asked if we have a boyfriend or girlfriend yet. We see heterosexual relationships portrayed in movies, on tv and in books. You walk down the street and see straight couples kissing and holding hands. Imagine for a second how that would feel when you know you would never be happy in a relationship like that. You want to but you can't and everyone around you is telling you that you should be.

And the reason that there are things like pride parades and even the whole rainbow profile pictures on facebook at the moment, is to let people know that they are supported. Because it's difficult. Honestly, I can tell you that it's like getting a hug from all of my facebook friends and them saying that they don't think there is anything wrong with me. Because there isn't.

Religion needs to be taken out of this. Those who are against gay marriage are basically pushing their beliefs on other people. Marriage has nothing to do with religion anymore. I don't care whether you like it or not but the fact is, gay people are here. Denying anyone basic rights isn't going to prevent that and it's just going to cause harm.

When I mean I don't want to see these rainbow dps anymore, it's because it looks as if people are just jumping onto the bandwagon now. It's debatable whether or not the people displaying rainbow images are doing so because they genuinely support gay marriage or because it's cool to do so. This is quite a common occurrence on Facebook and it honestly sickens me. My hatred of these rainbow images has nothing to do with opposition towards the movement. As I said in my post, I'm neither for nor against it.

Okay, I do not understand how a person can relate homosexuality to incest, I just cant and I personally find it very offensive. However on your ground of an incest couple not having any kids (which is very unlikely and prevents many of the problems relating to incest and why it is illegal in the first place) I will give you a reason just to ponder.

With incest you can opt to find someone who is not related to you to have sex/and or a relationship with (it is a choice). When you are gay, you are attracted to your own gender and you cannot just opt out of having sex/and or a relationship with a member of the same sex and start having one with a member of the opposite sex, that would be asking you to be something that you are not. Therefor you are relating an orientation to a choice and that is not valid.

Also I would just like to remind you that without arguing all of the negative factors that incest imposes and just picking and choosing the ones that best suits you, you are not putting up a valid argument for relating incest to homosexuality. You have to consider all aspects of the issue.

Sure, you have every right to feel offended at my analogy and I was conscious that my post may elicit such a response. However, assuming that the people in consideration only fall in love with one person at a time, how do you distinguish love bordering on romantic between two siblings and love between two men or two women? If one person develops a romantic attraction towards their sibling, they cannot simply 'choose' to not love them. Nor is it a choice for them to love their own sibling that way; most people, given a conscious choice, would probably choose to not harbour those sorts of feelings for their siblings to avoid clashes with social norms. Therefore, I cannot agree with your first objection.

With regards to picking and choosing, I would like you to list any other negative factors related to incest itself (I will clarify this point below when I address another point), and not something like power imbalance which is totally different.

Yes. Incest is completely different to gay marriage. I think my opinion would change if it were perhaps second cousins or maybe cousins but brother and sister? That's wrong. And you'd have to work our where the lines are between abuse/emotional abuse and two people who love each other and want to marry. Because say one sibling was taken advantage of when they were younger or 'groomed' by an older sibling- that would be wrong. If two people wanted to get married and then found out they were siblings? That's different.

These things shouldn't even be compared.

Here, I believe you have misconstrued my point. I am discussing incest as a concept, not the specific scenario where one family member abuses their position of power in the family for their own selfish desires. Incest is not restricted to the case where an elder brother persuades his innocent little sister that fulfilling his desires is ok. It is, in general, when two closely genetically related people engage in a sexual relationship. There is nothing in that which relates to how this relationship came about. The moral perverseness of the grooming instance you brought up does not arise from incest; rather, it arises from an abuse of power.

I would like you to clarify why you think these two should not be compared. A century ago, homosexuality was viewed as abhorrent; now, incest is still viewed as atrocious. The recent pro-gay movement has served to broaden the public's tolerance of different sexual preferences. My question is, why can we not broaden the public's tolerance of sexual preferences further? In suggesting this, I am implicitly agreeing with the fundamental assumption that underpins the pro-gay movement; that everyone has a right for their love to be recognised. Therefore, I do not see why my comparison is so repulsive.

Well, over the past years this forum has been my inspiration, I've looked up to a lot of people on here and I still do. However this thread has made me feel really uncomfortable and I can only imagine what any gay young teen on this site would feel like reading it. Nobody seems to really be open to anyone else's opinion and it's just unhelpful.

I apologise if I am in any way responsible for your disillusionment. I am only wishing to encourage more intelligent debate about issues related to homosexuality and have never denounced any gay person on the basis of their sexual orientation. However, I strongly agree with Russ here and believe that although debate about that which is dear to you may be uncomfortable, as long as such discussion is conducted in a civilised and polite manner. After all, do you not want to make your opinions about homosexuality heard in the hope of reducing misunderstandings and bigotry?

As for the previous discussion on sins in religion, I don't get how you can knowingly commit a sin and then expect to get forgiven for it. This might be due to my relative ignorance regarding religion, but it seems to me Christianity would rather people not knowingly go against its teachings expecting to get away with it.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 28, 2015, 10:26:14 pm
 
They're are major sins and minor sins. Adultery is a major sin, swearing is a minor sin. Not all sins are to the same degree. This is the same for Jews and for muslims.

Cool, I did not know that! Ok so I have another question, sorry I am full of them tonight. If it is seemingly so easy or not much of a big deal to break a minor sin, why do they even exist?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: keltingmeith on June 28, 2015, 10:31:45 pm
Most merciful that does not mean he forgives every sin. If you are a Christian and believe you are gay your struggles to fight your homosexual desires  will not go un rewarded and maybe a test of faith. To end this you cannot be gay and Christian ITS IMPOSSIBLE.

For eulerfan
If they have there own faith they're not Christians genius call them whatever you want if you don't follow christs teachings your note a Christian lol. CHristian derives from Jesus last name if you haven't noticed.


For Mahler
No you can't you are still committing a sin and are responsible for it. It's just accepting it as a sin rather than denying it is a sin are two different stories.

It's blatantly obvious you're not going to even consider what I'm saying, so there's not much point in continuing this discussion. I will say this, though: there are lots of denominations of Christianity, there is certainly more than one way to be Christian. Also, I have never heard of this major/minor sin stuff - since you very clearly see that the Bible is the be all and end all, surely you can point me to the passage that mentions them?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: faso on June 28, 2015, 10:34:29 pm

Cool, I did not know that! Ok so I have another question, sorry I am full of them tonight. If it is seemingly so easy or not much of a big deal to break a minor sin, why do they even exist?
No thank you answering your questions strengthens my faith!
Small sins are not a small deal but they just aren't as big as a big sin if that makes sense .
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: pi on June 28, 2015, 10:34:46 pm
Let's do the world a favour and drop "incest" from this debate. Homosexuality is a sexual orientation, incest is not. Apples and oranges, Batman and Shrek, happiness and VCE physics. Not comparable.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 28, 2015, 10:39:28 pm
Let's do the world a favour and drop "incest" from this debate. Homosexuality is a sexual orientation, incest is not. Apples and oranges, Batman and Shrek, happiness and VCE physics. Not comparable.

Yes I am sorry lzxni but I don't really wish to continue the debate about incest. I will stick to gay marriage.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: keltingmeith on June 28, 2015, 10:40:38 pm
happiness and VCE physics.

Personally, I think we can extend this past VCE - but that's just me and my opinion.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: faso on June 28, 2015, 10:45:20 pm
It's blatantly obvious you're not going to even consider what I'm saying, so there's not much point in continuing this discussion. I will say this, though: there are lots of denominations of Christianity, there is certainly more than one way to be Christian. Also, I have never heard of this major/minor sin stuff - since you very clearly see that the Bible is the be all and end all, surely you can point me to the passage that mentions them?
Severity of ins are described by the severity of the consequence iI'm not 100 percent sure if there's a passage saying difference between major or minor sins but there is. I could ask my Christian friend cause I'm no t a Christian i just like to study different holy scriptures.
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Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Thu Thu Train on June 28, 2015, 10:45:33 pm
What if two brothers are gay and love each other?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: faso on June 28, 2015, 10:46:39 pm
What if two brothers are gay and love each other?
Lol
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: ~V on June 28, 2015, 10:50:33 pm
What if two brothers are gay and love each other?
Two gay brothers, omg, this is like youtubers Aaron Rhodes and Austin Rhodes.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: sjayne on June 28, 2015, 10:52:17 pm
I am only wishing to encourage more intelligent debate ...  After all, do you not want to make your opinions about homosexuality heard in the hope of reducing misunderstandings and bigotry?

There's no point. You're not going to listen.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 28, 2015, 10:53:20 pm
No thank you answering your questions strengthens my faith!
Small sins are not a small deal but they just aren't as big as a big sin if that makes sense .

I'm glad that your faith is strengthened because mine just isn't. To me I view religion as something that you cannot pick and choose, either you are in or out. It annoys me when religious people can chose to ignore a sin that benefits them but can hold another sin in such high moral value that effects others. The way I view it? Yours and many others opinions are hurting others and that is what makes them DIFFERENT to mine and others that support gay marriage. The fact that two loving people would be denied marriage just because someone thinks that homosexuality is a "big" sin is just wrong. In fact is still have never been given a reason to why a person against gay marriage would consider it to effect them personally. Being gay is not a choice, no one would chose to have this level of hate aimed at them but yet some people cannot except it for the fact it is NOT A CHOICE. In closing you have your opinion and I have mine but it is when an opinion starts to discriminate or hurt others that is crosses the line.

Rant over. Good night people  :)
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: faso on June 28, 2015, 11:03:48 pm
There's no point. You're not going to listen.
Lol you need to put your feelings aside then maybe you can get your point across
I'm glad that your faith is strengthened because mine just isn't. To me I view religion as something that you cannot pick and choose, either you are in or out. It annoys me when religious people can chose to ignore a sin that benefits them but can hold another sin in such high moral value that effects others. The way I view it? Yours and many others opinions are hurting others and that is what makes them DIFFERENT to mine and others that support gay marriage. The fact that two loving people would be denied marriage just because someone thinks that homosexuality is a "big" sin is just wrong. In fact is still have never been given a reason to why a person against gay marriage would consider it to effect them personally. Being gay is not a choice, no one would chose to have this level of hate aimed at them but yet some people cannot except it for the fact it is NOT A CHOICE. In closing you have your opinion and I have mine but it is when an opinion starts to discriminate or hurt others that is crosses the line.

Rant over. Good night people  :)
I agree that you cannot pick and choose. It infuriates me actually.
And I never once said anything about my views lol. I never said I'm against gay marriage(not saying that I am or i I am not).  Lol my point was you can't be gay and Christian having said that I really couldn't give f*** what gay people do as long as they don't interfere with my beliefs. But if i was to vote if vote against gay marriage.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: sjayne on June 28, 2015, 11:15:04 pm
Lol you need to put your feelings aside then maybe you can get your point across

I agree that you cannot pick and choose. It infuriates me actually.
And I never once said anything about my views lol. I never said I'm against gay marriage(not saying that I am or i I am not).  Lol my point was you can't be gay and Christian having said that I really couldn't give f*** what gay people do as long as they don't interfere with my beliefs. But if i was to vote if vote against gay marriage.

Well my feelings are valid thank you very much.

Just a q- Why would you vote against gay marriage if you don't care what gay people do?
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Jay.C on June 28, 2015, 11:18:30 pm
Lol you need to put your feelings aside then maybe you can get your point acrossI agree that you cannot pick and choose. It infuriates me actually.
And I never once said anything about my views lol. I never said I'm against gay marriage(not saying that I am or i I am not).  Lol my point was you can't be gay and Christian having said that I really couldn't give f*** what gay people do as long as they don't interfere with my beliefs. But if i was to vote if vote against gay marriage.

Yeah lol sorry wasn't aiming it at you originally, just anyone that try's to impose their harmful views on others. However now you have said you'd vote against gay marriage my previous statement now applies to you.  I would also like to address that when I was revering to "picking and choosing" I was referring to choosing which sins you disobey.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: faso on June 28, 2015, 11:29:45 pm
Yeah lol sorry wasn't aiming it at you originally, just anyone that try's to impose their harmful views on others. However now you have said you'd vote against gay marriage my previous statement now applies to you.  I would also like to address that when I was revering to "picking and choosing" I was referring to choosing which sins you disobey.
See above
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: chasej on June 28, 2015, 11:32:55 pm
Good question.i once saw two guys hooking up at Melbourne Central by far the most disturbing things I've ever seen in my whole life I immediately went back down the elevator. Legalising gay marriage would make that seem more normal  and that would occur more often. I'd vote against solely because of that reason. They should leave that shit in the bedroom.

So you want to stop people living their lives fully because it makes you feel icky?

You mustn't be very good at browsing the internet too.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: sjayne on June 28, 2015, 11:33:24 pm
And he says he's not homophobic
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: chasej on June 28, 2015, 11:34:32 pm
And he says he's not homophobic

I tried PM'ing you a reply btw, but PM's don't work on the forums right now for some reason :/
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on June 28, 2015, 11:53:14 pm
It really depends on the structure the vote takes.  Will it be a conscience vote or a matter of party policy?

Under a conscience vote, each member can vote according to his own personal beliefs. Under party policy (this is how most politics is done) every member in the party must vote a certain way.

I believe a conscience vote is vastly inferior, it must be a matter of party policy. So far, The Greens are the only major party to do this.

Under a conscience vote, you don't know who you're going to get. You could vote for Labor (or Liberals) because you think they're pro marriage equality but your local MP could be the biggest, anti-gay biggot out there. They are represented to display the will of their electorate and voters. Under a conscience vote, they only represent themselves as a single person.

Marriage is or ought to be a civil right. Like all civil rights, it should not be up to conscience or whim. There was a time where black and white people couldn't marry in many places, imagine if this was voted along the bigoted consciences of the time. Many of these things were only solved with court action or binding votes.

Right now, the only party with a binding policy of this nature is the Greens. Vote Greens and you can be sure each member will vote for marriage equality. The ALP (Labor Party) national conference is coming up. It will be decided whether to make it a matter of conscience or a binding party vote, so, watch this space.
Before I get to the philosophical/legal, we need to iron out the political.

First, it is utterly wrong to equivocate the ALP and the Liberals here. For starters, same-sex marriage is ALP policy. Banning same-sex marriage is Liberal policy. It is not true to say that it is not a matter of 'party policy' -- simply that the whip will not be enforced. This is actually how all votes are done in most countries.

Now what of the practical, you say? 50/55 Labor MPs will vote in favour of same-sex marriage. A further 3 are still undecided. Only 2 are against.

Compare this with the Libs: Only 12/90 have declared their personal support. 58 are against. There are 20 votes at play.

While as a matter of my conscience I support a binding vote, I realise that pragmatically it would have the counter effect. If Labor binds its 5 remaining holdout MPs, the Liberals will have an excuse not to have their own conscience vote. And their 12 votes in favour will not count.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: Professor Polonsky on June 29, 2015, 12:20:25 am
I guess one preliminary thing that I wanted to address is the common use of the well-known acronyms (e.g., common in this thread, LGBTIQA+). Generally, these have to do with diversity in sex, gender, and sexual orientation. While doubtlessly same-sex marriage shows that we have a far greater understanding of those issues, many people within those groups -- particularly outside of the first three letters -- have perhaps far greater issues facing them than marriage equality. Just food for thought.

Almost all law, by the most elementary definition, discriminates. It imposes rights (or obligations) on some, but not on others. For a marriage related example: Only certain, accredited celebrants can marry two people. Others don't have the right (and the obligations that attach to it) to do so. However, it is clear that there is a very good reason for having a register of civil celebrants, and not have just anyone perform marriages. It's a position of civic responsibility.

Of course, discrimination is far worse when you are treating someone differently on the basis of an intrinsic characteristic. It's why we recognise that generally, any discrimination based on them is wrong.

Just looking at discrimination on the right to marry, on that basis of sexual orientation, there simply isn't a logical reason to do so. While you may personally find homosexuality wrong, our society doesn't lend those judgments any credence unless direct harm to another person can be proven. Otherwise, we'll feel merited in removing people's rights based on immutable characteristics, such as their sexual orientation (but also race, religion etc) because we find it morally wrong. People used to find it morally wrong that women vote, for example. And people found it wrong that Jews can own property.

The tl;dr, I suppose, is that you have to come up with an argument better than "ewwww!" or "tradition and history!" or "my religion!" for opposing same-sex marriage. Opponents have been unable to do so, which is why the US Supreme Court struck down laws banning same-sex marriages as unconstitutional.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: nino quincampoix on June 29, 2015, 12:56:55 am
?? Please tell me you're trolling  ??

Regardless of troll potential, everyone gets their own opinion.
Title: Re: Gay marriage
Post by: heids on June 29, 2015, 09:04:38 am
Want to apologise if I hurt anyone.  My today's resolution: never post a thing about religion on AN, ever.  When I come back and read my posts afterwards, I waste half the morning facepalming.  (Nonetheless, expressing how I felt and reading responses has been really helpful to me guys).