Step 1: Distract yourself from the perceived threat.This is honestly the best step by step guide on this. It is both simple and effective.
Step 2: Take a few deep breaths and relax.
Step 3: Employ some rational self-talk and reverse psychology.
(a) Identify what is happening in your brain i.e. that thought blocking agents are
scrambling your brain. Accept that this is a normal response when exposed to
stress, and that the response can be controlled and modified.
(b) Acknowledge your personal situation as it stands.
(c) Acknowledge the fact that panicking is only going to make you perform to a
lower standard than otherwise possible, and stop panicking.
Step 4: Complete an easy question/task Once your confidence has improved, tackle the larger/challenging tasks.
X was rude.
So what?
I felt disrespected.
So what?
I don’t like being disrespected.
So what?
What if everyone stops respecting me?
So what?
I will be alone and loathed.
So what?
I don’t want to be alone.
So what?
I have an irrational fear of loneliness.
So what?
It’s irrational.
So what?
So nothing. I’m good.
So what?
So nothing.
“Technique 15: Monitor your stress”
-The idea of a stress profile, where everyone has 3 different zones
1. Zone of Nothing
2. Peak Stress Profile
3. Zone of Breakdown
(Essentially like the Yerson-Dodson Law)
1. Zone of Nothing
Traits associated with this is being unmotivated, apathetic, lethargic and/or lazy
: You can get out of this by having a set goal and purpose
: If you have one, then evaluate why it isn’t motivating you
-Is it because the goal is long-term and you have no short-term goal?
-Is the goal achieved already?
-Is the goal still relevant?
These questions and more can help you reflect and hopefully help you decide why you’re in this zone.
*Note: Sometimes we just procrastinate and that is fine. But if it is prolonged then it becomes an issue. We aren’t machines that could work on 100% output.
2. Peak Stress Profile
-Traits associated with this motivated, focused and productive
-You need to spend most of your time here.
3. Zone of Breakdown
-Traits associated with this include Nervousness, Flustered, Difficulty to Focus, Inability to Think Straight, Moody & Tired, Emotional, Irritated, Tense, Increased Sweat, Clammy and Cold, Sleeplessness, Loss of Appetite, Butterflies, Shakes and Nausea.
-If any or more is present then you are above peak stress profile.
*Note: Yes, some of these symptoms can be associated to other things like Puberty and being on your Period. But if none of those factors are present then yes you are reaching breakdown.