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[yellowsone31]

I feel you! Just remember that at this time of the year most of us are just completely and totally exhausted.
I think I have reconciled to the fact that you can really only give everything that you have. Try not to think about what you have done wrong. Instead, accept that you may have made some mistakes and move on as quickly as you can.
I'm not just saying that, I understand that its all easier said than done. However, its exactly what I've been trying to do. Leave that past where its meant to be... BEHIND YOU

Take care - xx

[Biceps]

My parents are not that understanding, unfortunately.

Just today, my mum told me not to come home again unless I get four 50s this year. Obviously, I'm not going to be disowned or evicted of my house, but it's the thought that counts.


That's the first time my parents told me that I have to study medicine.

I actually just remembered this happening for the first since it happened while I was reading through this thread.

I always thought that I consciously made the decision that I would like to study medicine, by myself. Now, I'm questioning this...

Was it my parents' instillation of the idea that I have to study medicine that caused me to want to, or was it a decision I reached on my own accord?

The only reason you are feeling stressed at all is your parents' desire for you to do well. I personally just ignore what my parents say (i didn't even tell my parents about my midyears even though i got an A+ and a B+).
Parents are an obstacle to doing well in VCE.
Don't procrastinate, study hard, and you shouldn't have a problem.

[Greatness]

Don't procrastinate, study hard, and you shouldn't have a problem.

Easier said than done
Personally, I had some pressure on me from family too but I always told them to 'back the fuck down'. I think you need to believe in yourself more, set goals that are realistic and achievable. Once you get your aims set then you need to take action, never back down, don't let yourself down. You need to tell yourself, this is for you and only you, no one else. You are in control. Don't worry about 'what if I don't get this score or that score, what if I don't get into my course' focus on the present, on how and what you will do to get there. When/if that 'what if' time comes then you can reevaluate, these days there are so many pathways into getting into courses and professions that you don't need to worry too much. Sure it may take a further 5 years or what not, but if it's really what you want to do you'll do it won't you?
Another thing that I've noticed, I think you spend too much time on AN. It's all well and good if you're on here for the right reasons i.e. getting help, helping others but to me it seems like you spend much, much too much time on here. Perhaps if you cut down the amount of time you spend on AN/browsing the net then you could enjoy yourself more by watching tv/sport or do a hobby and maybe get some extra study in. Just a thought
TL;DR: Back yourself, it's on you it always will be. Don't worry about what other people say, let them judge you. Only your opinion of yourself matters. Put in the effort and you will eventually be rewarded, maybe not at the end of this year but you will gain valuable knowledge and experiences which you can use to your advantage and one day finally reach your desires and ambitions. Remember: There are no failures only learning experiences and only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.
Best of luck, you can do it!

[Truck]

Seriously, befriend people who are likely to get 50-70 for their ATAR's.

Puts everything into perspective.

[Biceps]

Seriously, befriend people who are likely to get 50-70 for their ATAR's.

Puts everything into perspective.

Lol bad idea trust me. I always hang around with the ones likely to get 95+ when I need motivation. it works because I feel like I need to study harder to be at there level (they probably feel the same haha)

[paulsterio]

The only reason people stress out with VCE and life in general is because they take a bleak view.

What you have to remember is that it's not the end of the world if you don't get into the course you want to get into now, there are plenty of ways to get there later. Not only that, but there are heaps of careers which you might be interested in as well, have a look at those - you might be satisfied working in those fields. You need to find ways in order to fully insure yourself against anything that can happen in VCE. It's just like driving a car, once you have insurance, you feel safer and more confident on the road - less nervous.

In order to do well, you need to separate yourself from what you want. Instead of seeing VCE as a giant monster and roadblock to where you want to go, you have to see it as a game - as a sport - where you are challenging and pushing yourself to the limit, to push yourself further than what you've been able to achieve before, and then push one more step beyond that. The more you see it as a roadblock, the more you will approach VCE defensively.

For me, I always saw VCE as a challenge to do as well as I could for the fun of it, to prove myself, for my own pride and to just show myself that I'm really up there with the best. That's because even though I wanted to do Medicine, I had other backup options. I knew that I would do a Bachelor of Science and then try for graduate entry, if not then I'll do Education and become a teacher after that, a career which I am more than content with having. Thus, having myself fully insured, I just went into VCE having fun and doing for the challenge, like an athlete trying to beat his personal best.

[LOLs99]

Please do not worry as I was once like this before. I never gave up something in my life. I will just go for it even though i know i might not be able to get it. At least u try, u don't know what happen if u don't try. Persistance is your main source to succeed in VCE & life. I know you can do it Cheers up!

[Truck]

Seriously, befriend people who are likely to get 50-70 for their ATAR's.

Puts everything into perspective.

Lol bad idea trust me. I always hang around with the ones likely to get 95+ when I need motivation. it works because I feel like I need to study harder to be at there level (they probably feel the same haha)

Exactly! He's forcing himself to work too hard and putting all this unnecessary pressure on himself... if he spends some time with people who are aiming much lower it should alleviate some of that pressure .

[Biceps]

The only reason people stress out with VCE and life in general is because they take a bleak view.

What you have to remember is that it's not the end of the world if you don't get into the course you want to get into now, there are plenty of ways to get there later. Not only that, but there are heaps of careers which you might be interested in as well, have a look at those - you might be satisfied working in those fields. You need to find ways in order to fully insure yourself against anything that can happen in VCE. It's just like driving a car, once you have insurance, you feel safer and more confident on the road - less nervous.

In order to do well, you need to separate yourself from what you want. Instead of seeing VCE as a giant monster and roadblock to where you want to go, you have to see it as a game - as a sport - where you are challenging and pushing yourself to the limit, to push yourself further than what you've been able to achieve before, and then push one more step beyond that. The more you see it as a roadblock, the more you will approach VCE defensively.

For me, I always saw VCE as a challenge to do as well as I could for the fun of it, to prove myself, for my own pride and to just show myself that I'm really up there with the best. That's because even though I wanted to do Medicine, I had other backup options. I knew that I would do a Bachelor of Science and then try for graduate entry, if not then I'll do Education and become a teacher after that, a career which I am more than content with having. Thus, having myself fully insured, I just went into VCE having fun and doing for the challenge, like an athlete trying to beat his personal best.

No joke that is my exact take on VCE atm. i am even contemplating subjects like geology, and biomedical engineering if the worste case scenario happens

[paulsterio]

No joke that is my exact take on VCE atm. i am even contemplating subjects like geology, and biomedical engineering if the worste case scenario happens

Exactly, as long as you know that there's insurance for you, you can afford to go out there and relax a little!

[Celeste98]

My parents are not that understanding, unfortunately.

Just today, my mum told me not to come home again unless I get four 50s this year. Obviously, I'm not going to be disowned or evicted of my house, but it's the thought that counts.

That's the sort of pressure I've been under for as long as I can remember. )

Sorry to hear re this, so unfair your parents giving you so much pressure! You are already trying your best! Ask them to sit for VCE and see if they can score 50s themselves!

Seems that they have unfinished dreams and expect you to finish it for them....I feel for you....

What about Paramedical/ radiographer....are you interested in these?

Plenty of rest ok! Have a great weekend!

[AllAboutTheLGs]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RVmG_d3HKBA

[Zidane]

i know how you feel man. i was sick when we got our mid years so i had to get them the next day, but for some reason the teacher who was in charge of handing them out was away during the morning, so i had to chase him after school. on the way home i opened the envelop and looked at my results, and i was speechless and devastated by my results, i got home and closed my room and simply just poured out my heart. i know some people tell you its 'crying is for girls' but trust me being fueled by sadness and grief is not good. i didn't know what to do i was completely lost and felt useless, but i PM some members on AN for advice and tips and what could be done to improve and change my results ect... but it took me 3 days to release all that sadness. i still remember it vividly, the thoughts that were flying through my head "im worthless" "i can't do it" "im not good enough" , but instead of thinking negatively i used it as a motive or something that drives me to achieve what i couldn't achieve last semester. every time im slacking of or procrastinating i remember how i felt when i got those results, and made a promise to my self " i will never ever let that happen ever again". Do you know what im doing now?? i cant do nothing other than study, i cant watch T.V (not that i watch it lol) PS3, FB, Youtube, you name it all i do is study and think about the future ATAR, UNI courses stuff like that.  But i reward my self and take 1:30 hours just to muck around and do whatever i want.

Now i know im not one to give advice haha , as i always seem to ask others for it , but i hope these words help in someway.
Good luck man 

[TheFedExpress]

Seriously, befriend people who are likely to get 50-70 for their ATAR's.

Puts everything into perspective.

Exactly, it's The Big Fish Little Pond Effect, heaps of articles in Psych Journals about this

Here's one:
http://www.self.ox.ac.uk/documents/SeatonMarshCraven.pdf

[Eriny]

I would recommend getting a hobby. Seriously, just do something for the sake of enjoyment without having to worry about grades or comparing yourself to others. Find something you can take satisfaction in just doing it and being in the moment (google the term 'Flow' - its a great feeling).

It sounds like you have some sense of what you are interested in and what you want to do (though you aren't 100% sure). Have a look at other things too. If you like English, why not study that? If you're interested in commerce, why not work on your Maths? It's too early in your life to say 'I can't, you should be thinking about 'I want'. In a way, your wish for comfortable life is a modest one, there are heaps of pathways there. Why not explore some more and play with different possibilities?