Schoolies and Curry parents

[aishuwa1995]

Lankan parents are less strict? Go to hell!

We talking Sinhalese or Tamil here?? 

This is going by what I've seen from a few friends. 

Haha I'm Sinhalese.

Haha fair enough mate, I guess strictness might be geographically dependant 

how is it a geographical thing? It depends on the parents cos I have north Indian friends with really chill parents and some with pretty strict parents. I'm south Indian and my parents are strict as hell but some of my south Indian friends have really chill parents   
All my Lankan friends have pretty strict parents too so...

[ShortBlackChick]

I'd like to have a small rant here. Y'all naive youngsters expect to have 'freedom after VCE' right? WRONG. There is no such thing. I finished exams, had my 18th Birthday,(had a party as well, alcohol? What's that?) got my P's expected to be able to drive around- LOLZ my parents were hesitant to let me drive out to the station 2kms away to drop my brother off to go to school. Freedom? Had a Birthday Party about a half an hours drive away, my Dad wanted to drive me there and I was like fuck no. Drove to the Party at 8, got a call at 10.30 saying they wanted me to come home. TEN FUCKING THIRTY. Not even when I was under 18 did I ever leave a party at 10.30. Ok so yeah, this was just a couple of weeks after I got my license and turned 18 etc. and ok honestly, yeah they have relaxed on me, like I can leave parties at around 12.30 or 1 or so now. But if you're expecting to be able to go clubbing and shit, LOL you'll be lucky if you're in the city at 12 at night max.

Its probably worse if you're a girl and the eldest, like me. Like when your parents were growing up back in the motherland, which sane, non-promiscuous young women stayed out later than like 7 at night? I can imagine the young (probably perverted men, fobs will always be fobs yaknow) had a bit of leeway with that, but still, clubbing for them was probably like going to the nearest food stall hangout thingy with those gazillion lights on them at night.

Have a day when you're normally back at home by 6.30 having finished a lecture at 6? I had a school reunion on such day, which i told my parents about, I get a call at 7 from my dad asking me where i am. Yo bro, firstly, i'm at my school reunion, secondly, i'm only half an hour late from the normal schedule!

Ok, so yeah, I kinda have it better than some people that I know, I mean the only things I'm sorta prohibited from is going clubbing, driving to places more than an hour away (like the other side of the city from my SE Suburbs hood,) sleeping over at peoples' houses that my parents dont know (ie. non-curries,) and drinking alcohol (which I dont really mind about seeing I like to drive more than I like to drink.) As long as I tell my parents whats happening and let them know in advance they are usually ok with whatever plans I have, provided I'm back home by 1 at the maximum.

But my point is, dont expect to have freedom right after finishing Yr12. It takes time and you have to wait a bit till your parents get used to the idea of you being an adult and trust you enough to let you out of the house more often. They may complain that you're not at home enough, but as long as they trust you on being honest about where you're going, they should be ok with most of what you do. Thats the key to ensuring you get the most freedom- keep them in the loop about what's happening. And dont smuggle a guy/girl  (depending on which way you sway) into your room until you're married to them.

^Thats my tl;dr, dont read anything above it.

EDIT: Actually, dont read any of it, its just some unsolicited advice.

[Mr Keshy]

Lankan parents are less strict? Go to hell!

We talking Sinhalese or Tamil here?? 

This is going by what I've seen from a few friends. 

Haha I'm Sinhalese.

Haha fair enough mate, I guess strictness might be geographically dependant 

how is it a geographical thing? It depends on the parents cos I have north Indian friends with really chill parents and some with pretty strict parents. I'm south Indian and my parents are strict as hell but some of my south Indian friends have really chill parents   
All my Lankan friends have pretty strict parents too so...

I wasn't being serious :/

[aishuwa1995]

Lankan parents are less strict? Go to hell!

We talking Sinhalese or Tamil here?? 

This is going by what I've seen from a few friends. 

Haha I'm Sinhalese.

Haha fair enough mate, I guess strictness might be geographically dependant 

how is it a geographical thing? It depends on the parents cos I have north Indian friends with really chill parents and some with pretty strict parents. I'm south Indian and my parents are strict as hell but some of my south Indian friends have really chill parents   
All my Lankan friends have pretty strict parents too so...

I wasn't being serious :/

Oh awks   

Nice essay Kazdawg..I'm sure many curries can relate 

[Mr Keshy]

I'd like to have a small rant here. Y'all naive youngsters expect to have 'freedom after VCE' right? WRONG. There is no such thing. I finished exams, had my 18th Birthday,(had a party as well, alcohol? What's that?) got my P's expected to be able to drive around- LOLZ my parents were hesitant to let me drive out to the station 2kms away to drop my brother off to go to school. Freedom? Had a Birthday Party about a half an hours drive away, my Dad wanted to drive me there and I was like fuck no. Drove to the Party at 8, got a call at 10.30 saying they wanted me to come home. TEN FUCKING THIRTY. Not even when I was under 18 did I ever leave a party at 10.30. Ok so yeah, this was just a couple of weeks after I got my license and turned 18 etc. and ok honestly, yeah they have relaxed on me, like I can leave parties at around 12.30 or 1 or so now. But if you're expecting to be able to go clubbing and shit, LOL you'll be lucky if you're in the city at 12 at night max.

Its probably worse if you're a girl and the eldest, like me. Like when your parents were growing up back in the motherland, which sane, non-promiscuous young women stayed out later than like 7 at night? I can imagine the young (probably perverted men, fobs will always be fobs yaknow) had a bit of leeway with that, but still, clubbing for them was probably like going to the nearest food stall hangout thingy with those gazillion lights on them at night.

Have a day when you're normally back at home by 6.30 having finished a lecture at 6? I had a school reunion on such day, which i told my parents about, I get a call at 7 from my dad asking me where i am. Yo bro, firstly, i'm at my school reunion, secondly, i'm only half an hour late from the normal schedule!

Ok, so yeah, I kinda have it better than some people that I know, I mean the only things I'm sorta prohibited from is going clubbing, driving to places more than an hour away (like the other side of the city from my SE Suburbs hood,) sleeping over at peoples' houses that my parents dont know (ie. non-curries,) and drinking alcohol (which I dont really mind about seeing I like to drive more than I like to drink.) As long as I tell my parents whats happening and let them know in advance they are usually ok with whatever plans I have, provided I'm back home by 1 at the maximum.

But my point is, dont expect to have freedom right after finishing Yr12. It takes time and you have to wait a bit till your parents get used to the idea of you being an adult and trust you enough to let you out of the house more often. They may complain that you're not at home enough, but as long as they trust you on being honest about where you're going, they should be ok with most of what you do. Thats the key to ensuring you get the most freedom- keep them in the loop about what's happening. And dont smuggle a guy/girl  (depending on which way you sway) into your room until you're married to them.

^Thats my tl;dr, dont read anything above it.

EDIT: Actually, dont read any of it, its just some unsolicited advice.

My parents came here in 95, the year I was born, so at that point, like you said, they were completely new to this western culture. I'm quite amazed at the stuff they let me do even today... They let me go to an under 18's music concert, it wasn't that great and I imagine, quite a great risk in my parents view. They even let me go to my formal after party, which I left after 30 minutes because I wasn't very comfortable..

The problem I see is a clash in culture... A lot of kids here leave home at around 18, drink, party, go clubbing or whatever, so some of us might expect to be allowed to do these things at 18 too (I'm not a fan of any of those things anyway).

When my parents were that age, this sort of life was non existant in their society.. and that's the one fact many of us, I think, fail to understand or just choose to ignore and hate. They've never done those things in their life, so they would be hesitant to let their child out when they'd have little to no clue about what's happening.. and they're being asked to let their child out, possibly late into the dark.. And considering some of the things you hear in the news, I think they have every right to stop you from going..

The thing (among many) that's great about my parents is their empathy towards me.. They know that I can't, not go out, be restricted from drinking and so on, so I know that I'll have a bit more freedom when I turn 18. They feel that from 0-18, we're not considered in dependant and as such, they will feel responsible for the failure that may result.  hey know that VCE is a very important stepping stone in our life, and they want to limit any possible deviation from it.. (same reason they don't want us to be in a relationship)

What kids hate is parents making their children live the way they lived, which is just wrong.

Bottom line is that it's the trust you and your parents have in your relationship. My parents have full trust in me, I tell them everything that happens, and they're happy this way..

Don't think any of the stuff I wrote make grammatical sense, because I think faster than I type 


Great read by the way Kazdawg 

[Mr Keshy]

Oh awks   

The seriousness of this thread is starting to intimidating me haha

[Truck]

And considering some of the things you hear in the news, I think they have every right to stop you from going..

Everything you said is valid and makes sense except for this. The news only reports bad things that happen, if you go out at night 99.99% of the time you're not going to get stabbed or assaulted unless you start something with a drunk person. There's similar risks in just walking onto the streets during the day time.

[paulsterio]

And you're absolutely right, it only happens 0.01% of the time, but as we all know, parents can be over protective...etc.

[Mr Keshy]

And considering some of the things you hear in the news, I think they have every right to stop you from going..

Everything you said is valid and makes sense except for this. The news only reports bad things that happen, if you go out at night 99.99% of the time you're not going to get stabbed or assaulted unless you start something with a drunk person. There's similar risks in just walking onto the streets during the day time.

I can understand where you're coming from. However, my point is that the misbehaviour is the only behaviour that is portrayed by the media and that, unfortunately, is the limit of exposure that our parents get with regards to these activities. And that is what ultimately shapes their views and opinions because not much else can..

You get where I'm coming from?

[Truck]

And considering some of the things you hear in the news, I think they have every right to stop you from going..

Everything you said is valid and makes sense except for this. The news only reports bad things that happen, if you go out at night 99.99% of the time you're not going to get stabbed or assaulted unless you start something with a drunk person. There's similar risks in just walking onto the streets during the day time.

I can understand where you're coming from. However, my point is that the misbehaviour is the only behaviour that is portrayed by the media and that, unfortunately, is the limit of exposure that our parents get with regards to these activities. And that is what ultimately shapes their views and opinions because not much else can..

You get where I'm coming from?

Oh okay, yeah I understand why some people would think that, I thought you were trying to justify that position by saying that it's correct to think so BECAUSE there is so much perceived crime in the night time etc etc. In that case, I retract my statement, solid post .

[Mr Keshy]

I was enjoying this thread

Was one thing I could relate to  haha 

Bump!

[aishuwa1995]

I was enjoying this thread

Was one thing I could relate to  haha 

Bump!

LOL! Curry parents are awesome at times too