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minigoals for miniturtle
sweetiepi:
You've got this mini! :))
Also with the sleeping by x time- if I've been going to bed late, I'd go to sleep 10-30mins earlier than the night before (depending on if I need to quickly adjust or not) and so on each night until I hit the target time, otherwise diving from a 3am sleeptime to a 11pm sleeptime is pretty rough on me- don't know if this'll 100 work for you, but here's a suggestion for achieving that! <3
(Maybe yours and Poet's journals will inspire me to eat more- I need to kick the 'not eating' habit too <3 )
Bri MT:
--- Quote from: insanipi on December 07, 2018, 08:45:13 pm ---You've got this mini! :))
Also with the sleeping by x time- if I've been going to bed late, I'd go to sleep 10-30mins earlier than the night before (depending on if I need to quickly adjust or not) and so on each night until I hit the target time, otherwise diving from a 3am sleeptime to a 11pm sleeptime is pretty rough on me- don't know if this'll 100 work for you, but here's a suggestion for achieving that! <3
(Maybe yours and Poet's journals will inspire me to eat more- I need to kick the 'not eating' habit too <3 )
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Thankyou!!
& I appreciate the advice :)
I've been waking up around 6-7ish which I'm hoping will help me get back to a healthier pattern quicker (hence the somewhat ambitious goal); I'll definitely keep the idea of adjusting by small increments in mind - it sounds very sensible:)
Best of luck for making progress <3 I've found others' journals helpful to me & I do hope the same effect aids you :)
Bri MT:
For the purposes of accountability I think weekly is a decent approach so here goes:
My focuses for the week were:
- eat 3 nutritious meals a day
- go to sleep by 11pm
I mostly suceeded.
The eating goal I've found fairly easy (support from s_a_p & insanpi has helped), but sleeping has been a bit more challenging.
Thing is, I can set aside time to eat prep the food, eat, clean up - goal accomplished
I can have decent sleep hygiene, go to bed - nothing. An hour later. Nothing still. I hadn't really figured out a pattern for when I could fall asleep, even though I reliably wake up around 6. It's pretty frustrating. I was doing alright for the first part of the week though, so that's something.
The approach for this subforum seems to be searing honesty and openess so let's see how I go.
not positive vibes, feel free not to read or to delay reading to a less emotionally intense day
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I'm alright now which is good - as in the past something like this would've taken much longer for me to recover from - but this has made me realise that although focusing on "general long term wellbeing" is nice & beneficial, I should also work on my short-term responses to emotional upheaval. Not entirely sure how I'll do that yet, but it's something I'll keep thing about.
Right now, I'm tired, feeling a bit drained, and better than ok.
Given my limited success this week, I'm going to try again with sleep. This time, more methodically.
next week's minigoals
- record the time at which I'm attempting to fall asleep
- shift each night forwards by at least 15 minutes (not required if I sleep by 9)
- start prepping dinner by 6 or within 30 minutes of getting home - whichever is earlier
PhoenixxFire:
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--- Quote from: miniturtle on December 14, 2018, 08:17:40 pm ---The latter part of Wednesday was not fantastic & my mental state deteriorated pretty quicky. Sleep deprivation certainly didn't help. By then, I'd realised that eating dinner earlier = significantly easier to fall asleep earlier (so that's something to work on for next week I think).
I ended up needing to choose between a) having a proper dinner and b) having dinner at a not-ridiculous hour -> sleep. I chose sleep. Unfortunately, sleep did not choose me. I tried to sleep at about 9 (super e a r l y), and maybe entered a restful state 10ish.
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Have you tried freezing meals or prepping them and putting them in the fridge so that you just have to heat them/cook them? Some of your inability to sleep could be due to you worrying that you're not sleeping - I wouldn't have a clue how to go about fixing that, but it's something to be aware of.
--- Quote from: miniturtle on December 14, 2018, 08:17:40 pm ---- removed -
I'm alright now which is good - as in the past something like this would've taken much longer for me to recover from - but this has made me realise that although focusing on "general long term wellbeing" is nice & beneficial, I should also work on my short-term responses to emotional upheaval. Not entirely sure how I'll do that yet, but it's something I'll keep thing about.
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This might seem a bit counterproductive, but I've found that short-term, any sort of distraction helps - particularly a distraction that lets you do something with your hands without having to concentrate too much (e.g. colouring, oragami, knitting etc.). It's a bit harder at first to remember to do something, but if you find something that you can do then it sorta gets to the point where you can recognise that you need to do something to calm down and you have something to do. The reason I prefer things that you don't have to concentrate on is that it allows you to think through whatever you're worrying about but it's somehow different to worrying whilst doing nothing haha. Don't know if this is at all useful, but it's certainly worked better for me than just trying to relax or meditate etc. :)
Bri MT:
--- Quote from: PhoenixxFire on December 15, 2018, 08:51:13 am ---spoilered because reply to spoilerHave you tried freezing meals or prepping them and putting them in the fridge so that you just have to heat them/cook them? Some of your inability to sleep could be due to you worrying that you're not sleeping - I wouldn't have a clue how to go about fixing that, but it's something to be aware of.
This might seem a bit counterproductive, but I've found that short-term, any sort of distraction helps - particularly a distraction that lets you do something with your hands without having to concentrate too much (e.g. colouring, oragami, knitting etc.). It's a bit harder at first to remember to do something, but if you find something that you can do then it sorta gets to the point where you can recognise that you need to do something to calm down and you have something to do. The reason I prefer things that you don't have to concentrate on is that it allows you to think through whatever you're worrying about but it's somehow different to worrying whilst doing nothing haha. Don't know if this is at all useful, but it's certainly worked better for me than just trying to relax or meditate etc. :)
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re: PF's spoiler
Some good advice there :)
I'd fallen out of the habit of doing food prep in advance but it would be a good idea to go back to that.
I have some macramé from when a coursemate ran an art for mental health workshop so I might go back to working on that to build the habit in
Definitely takes time for me to build strong enough habits that I remember them when I need to, but I do think that this is a useful idea. :)
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