First of all, i know it might seem like people are going after you but you're the one who stuck your neck out on the block by making this topic
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This means that the guy wants to have an intimate relationship with the girl, take her out on dates, kiss/cuddle her etc. but the girl doesn't want that. She wants them to "just be friends" instead.
Whats wrong with that? Happens all the time, it's called
unrequited love. If it even is love in these cases anyway.
What is your opinion on this? Does "the friendzone" exist? Is it a form of rejection? Is it wrong for a girl to put a guy in "the friendzone"? Is it wrong for a guy to want to be more than just friends? Also, what sort of guys end up in "the friendzone" and why?
It's a stupid pop-culture term from a friends episode, it's something some dude made up and it's just persisted ever since. It's a warped conception of the very old idea and feeling on unrequited love. In the friendzone the idea is that its something wrong and you have to escape from it, that someone put you there or its someones fault. Under the normal view of unrequited love, the other person simply doesn't love you, end of story.
The whole concept is tinged with the idea that there is something wrong with either part of the love isn't reciprocated. That every woman or man must love you and if they don't and just want to be friends, well, you're in the friendzone buddy!
Girls dont put guys in the friendzone, guys dont even put themselves in the friendzone, it's not a conscious activity. You don't draw up a pile of names on cards and decide whether to chuck them into a boxed named "friendzone" to decide. It just happens, you dont like someone romantically for whatever reason, you can't force it. The other party is usually interested in still being friends though, they like you, just not in a romantic way. You don't have to be friends with them if you want, you could walk alway right there. I see nothing wrong with having more friends though.
Every guy (or girl) ends up with some unrequited love believe it or not, it's part of the human condition. I'd wager it even happens to the most attractive or desired celebrities out there.
I think the problem with the friendzone is this - One person likes the other but only as a friend, fine so far. The second person likes the first in a romantic way and wants to do romantic things. There is a fundamental mismatch here between the dynamics of the relationship. It'll cause constant friction, thats why i think people say they're in the friendzone or something like that. It's a result of their own internal psychological friction. There isn't many ways to resolve this either, i can sympathise that it can be painful.