The Random Thoughts Thread

[K888]

Only my family could turn ordering food on Menulog into a long, heated argument.

[Calebark]

Only my family could turn ordering food on Menulog into a long, heated argument.

I disagree.

Source: my family

Sending thoughts and prayers

[peterpiper]

Sending thoughts and prayers

Reminds me of this:

@K88 of course, thoughts + prayers

[tashhhaaa]

ugh I feel like such a fuck up, I badly offended a friend with my stupid ass roasting jokes (which usually go down fine in real life but obviously they're more sensitive than I anticipated)

[peterpiper]

ugh I feel like such a fuck up, I badly offended a friend with my stupid ass roasting jokes (which usually go down fine in real life but obviously they're more sensitive than I anticipated)

anyway so then a couple of days later I texted them that I felt bad and they were like 'cool' (which probably means we are definitely not cool lol) so tHEN I said I was sorry and was only joking but they didn't reply and it's been almost a week which is the longest we haven't talked this whole time knowing each other

I'm prepared to let this friendship go (it was relatively new, we're not that close) but I don't want to be a bad person, should I call them to try and make amends or should I just do nothing??
I want to clear my conscience but I also kinda miss them lmao

not sure if it's worth it, I think the worst thing that could happen to me is a bruised ego if they don't answer or accept but still idk

I don't think there's anyone who would know best on what to do (or more qualified) than you. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I can't imagine what's going on down at your end, but I hope things start to clear away soon. There's nothing worse than feeling misunderstood. I don't know the specifics of your situation, but that's probably the best advice I can give you. If it were up to me, I'd try to give it a few days, before I try to clear myself with the hope of making amends. And if it doesn't work out, these things happen. We all make mistakes, and that's okay <3 sending digitalised love

[tashhhaaa]

I don't think there's anyone who would know best on what to do (or more qualified) than you. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I can't imagine what's going on down at your end, but I hope things start to clear away soon. There's nothing worse than feeling misunderstood. I don't know the specifics of your situation, but that's probably the best advice I can give you. If it were up to me, I'd try to give it a few days, before I try to clear myself with the hope of making amends. And if it doesn't work out, these things happen. We all make mistakes, and that's okay <3 sending digitalised love

thanks for your response <3
I'm trying to feel better by thinking it's their loss, like it's their fault they don't get I'm awesome??
and being how I am I can't really be friends with someone who gets offended easily? maybe it's time for me to take a look at my actions

socialisation sucks

[EEEEEEP]

ugh I feel like such a fuck up, I badly offended a friend with my stupid ass roasting jokes (which usually go down fine in real life but obviously they're more sensitive than I anticipated)

anyway so then a couple of days later I texted them that I felt bad and they were like 'cool' (which probably means we are definitely not cool lol) so tHEN I said I was sorry and was only joking but they didn't reply and it's been almost a week which is the longest we haven't talked this whole time knowing each other

I'm prepared to let this friendship go (it was relatively new, we're not that close) but I don't want to be a bad person, should I call them to try and make amends or should I just do nothing??
I want to clear my conscience but I also kinda miss them lmao

not sure if it's worth it, I think the worst thing that could happen to me is a bruised ego if they don't answer or accept but still idk

Give them a bit of them time and then send them an sincere apology =).

You aren't necessarily as bad person, it happens with banter sometimes.

[peterpiper]

socialisation sucks

It gets better, don't worry It's the journey not the discovery itself.

[zofromuxo]

ugh I feel like such a fuck up, I badly offended a friend with my stupid ass roasting jokes (which usually go down fine in real life but obviously they're more sensitive than I anticipated)

anyway so then a couple of days later I texted them that I felt bad and they were like 'cool' (which probably means we are definitely not cool lol) so tHEN I said I was sorry and was only joking but they didn't reply and it's been almost a week which is the longest we haven't talked this whole time knowing each other

I'm prepared to let this friendship go (it was relatively new, we're not that close) but I don't want to be a bad person, should I call them to try and make amends or should I just do nothing??
I want to clear my conscience but I also kinda miss them lmao

not sure if it's worth it, I think the worst thing that could happen to me is a bruised ego if they don't answer or accept but still idk

How badly did your friend react to it?
Also "cool" does not Always equal as not cool on text. But then again you would know them better then me.

I would call them or see them in person to apologise and just clear it up as opposed to texting as it reduces the chance of more miscommunication and misunderstanding to occur. As I suspect your friend just wants to put this past them and doesn't want to talk about it for their own reasons.

I wouldn't take it too personally, but I would attempt to understand restraint on roasting jokes especially. As a personal example, I always joke with my "close" friends on how living with mental illness is hard and make all kinds of jokes about it. But I don't do this with just friends because people have different sensitivities about it and I know with my close friends they get when I'm joking and being serious.
So my point is sometimes you have to tone it back and be wary about how everyone is about things. It isn't about being censorship and all that hogwash, it's about respecting others as well.
Sometime I make really edgy and "potentially" offensive ethnicity jokes with people I trust because they know I'm not a racist, but rather someone who likes a bit of dark humour. But I never make those jokes in front of people I don't trust or people who get offended easily.
Humour is humour, you either get it or don't.

"Those who are easily shocked should be shocked more often" Mae West.

[tashhhaaa]

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Not sure how they reacted but like I said I assume badly bc they never ignore my messages O.o I mean maybe they just cbf talking

And I totally agree with you I'm exactly the same. I didn't think what I said was that bad but I don't get offended easily

Thanks everyone for your posts, I feel better about it now
Oddly I don't care as much about the potential outcome as I did yesterday, I think I just needed to vent

[prickles]

How come in the shower when I sing I sound like a finalist for The Voice but when I'm just in my bedroom I sound like a dying walrus?

[tashhhaaa]

How come in the shower when I sing I sound like a finalist for The Voice but when I'm just in my bedroom I sound like a dying walrus?

there's a legit reason for this
it's because in the shower sound waves reflect differently off the surfaces in the bathroom/shower
Ceramic, glass etc don't absorb sound very well and the shower is an enclosed space. This means sound waves bounce around the shower, so your voice sounds louder/better

[zofromuxo]

Barefeet walking is well cool so far. A bit painful, but has some surprising reasons to do it. The rabbit hole goes deep down for this. So much research and discussion on it.

[sweetiepi]

Someone I know asked if I had a landline 'in case something important happens and I can't get hold of you and your phone's dead or something'. First time someone's asked me for this
(And no, I don't have one- I'm sorry if I don't answer my mobile within 2 minutes because I'm busy or something )

Barefeet walking is well cool so far. A bit painful, but has some surprising reasons to do it. The rabbit hole goes deep down for this. So much research and discussion on it.

Barefeet walking is the most comfortable walking possible. Case closed.

[Joseph41]

1972 (album) by Josh Rouse is simply incredible.