I need some help on this topic
Others only see our true identity when we are confident with ourselves.
I'm actually doing Whose Reality? as my context, but I'll give you some ideas:
* who is to determine, when we are 'confident'? This trait is so subjective, that it is not quantitatively measurable. Naturally, when someone is confident, they are thought of as extrovert, carefree, loud, assertive, secure personalities. But that does not mean that the 'introvert' - someone who is stereotyped as being quiet and solemn - is not confident. What then, is confidence? It is the ability to feel happy, proud and satisfied with oneself. Thus, others can see our true identity when we accept ourselves.
* what actually is our true identity? Sometimes we might insist that who we truly are is demonstrated by how we act and what we believe in. We believe, so strongly, that this is our absolute charisma and personality. How do we know, however, that we have not brainwashed ourselves? As opposed to being influenced by the media and other external sources, we have accessorized ourselves into something that is foreign; we are responsible for our own undoing. External sources, like peers and parents, may be influential in determining who we are, but we are the ones who actively change ourselves so that we match up to society's expectations. Because we are conforming, society is then eager to accept that this is our true identity. Those who are different are usually shunned (take Michael Leunig the cartoonist as an example here).
* sometimes we subconsciously change our true identity - it's not always a conscious process. People with anorexia or bulimia are not aware of the true state of their bodies; they see something else when they look in the mirror. So, they worry, and this worry then results in them being unaware that they are not consuming as much food as the normal person. Their body shape is not their 'true' body shape, with curves, fat and muscle. Instead, it is a fake body: all bones. Their low self-esteem and regard for their body means that others cannot see their true appearance.