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General Discussion => General Discussion Boards => Other General Discussion => Topic started by: HighLatency on August 28, 2012, 08:55:19 pm
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awesomecakes
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Disregard females, acquire currency*.
* Term is interchangeable with many other words such as: Study scores of 50, perfect ATAR, scholarships, cars and big houses.
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It is true, once you get 99.95, all the chicks come flying to you.
In the mean time, Romeo and Juliet should give you a healthy dosage of Lover's Paradise, or if you want something more refreshing, may I recommend you "50 Shades of Gray?"
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walk around with an acoustic guitar and mysterious face and strum it lightly from time to time.
no words needed
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Time to be friends with girls. As in, just friends. You'll get to know how to communicate better as you go along.
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Stop trying so hard and just be yourself, bro. If she doesn't like you for who you are, which includes the WHOLE package then she's not right for you.
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walk around with an acoustic guitar and mysterious face and strum it lightly from time to time.
no words needed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zsNMKMuhkHU
^ This is what I thought when you said "strum"
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You missed out on the ATARNotes Dating Site early april :P
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:D
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Do you know how hard it is to find a girl in this current age who likes chess and starcraft 2?
For the record, MHS has a Starcraft team and I know a few of the guys there are good with girls. The girls don't HAVE to enjoy the game to pass your test (maybe? XD)
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Do you know how hard it is to find a girl in this current age who likes chess and starcraft 2?
For the record, MHS has a Starcraft team and I know a few of the guys there are good with girls. The girls don't HAVE to enjoy the game to pass your test (maybe? XD)
I'm saying it doesn't have to be perfect.
And why am I not surprised you guys have a starcraft team lol. Anime club is cooler though xD
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Do you know how hard it is to find a girl in this current age who likes chess and starcraft 2?
For the record, MHS has a Starcraft team and I know a few of the guys there are good with girls. The girls don't HAVE to enjoy the game to pass your test (maybe? XD)
I'm saying it doesn't have to be perfect.
And why am I not surprised you guys have a starcraft team lol. Anime club is cooler though xD
Moot point. MHS has both starcraft AND anime club.
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:D
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Talk to girls as if they were your guy friends. Get to know how they work.
If there are many different types of guys in the world, the same applies to girls.
I like chess...but thats another story.
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Talk to girls as if they were your guy friends. Get to know how they work.
If there are many different types of guys in the world, the same applies to girls.
I like chess...but thats another story.
I challenge you to a chess battle? If I win, coffee? :), If you win, I'll buy you a coffee. You cannot lose!
I jest. Don't reply.
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dont do anything that isnt part of your personality. provided that you continually strive to be a better person, you wont have to try and you'll find a committed relationship on your doorstep. one other thing, don't go looking for a relationship, it'll just happen one day.. goodluck!
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Perhaps you may pick up many nerdy girls at chess tournaments.. jus' saying. (Provided you are good)
You may also want to come up with some quirky pick up lines like.. "Damn girl.. I loved the way you moved dat bishop"
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one other thing, don't go looking for a relationship,
This. Definately.
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Normal me => brooding psychopath
I THINK I FOUND YOUR PROBLEM
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one other thing, don't go looking for a relationship,
This. Definately.
Definitely
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When I'm sad I stop being sad and be awesome instead. True Story. Chin up, don't stress over it you'll find the 'one', one day :P
Honestly, be yourself. No point in trying to be something you're not. As you said you don't get as much exposure I reckon that you when you do go to these functions and what not you may be meeting the wrong girls which may skew your perception of them. So maybe you should try to interact with them more than what you are atm good place to start is at school, extracurricular activities, work but yeah parties are obviously the place where you will meet the most people.
Also so many people reading this topic... hahah :P
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Lyf tip from epl: Get out of the house more. It will do wonders for your social life.
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Lyf tip from epl: Get out of the house more. It will do wonders for your social life.
This man's word is like gold. Knowing him in real life, a whiff of his scent "brings the girls out." Better listen to those words wisely, Latency
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So my social troubles gather like 20 readers, whilst my vtac app. problems gets 0.
People ask me why a show like Big Brothers gets views, now I know.
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Just be yourself. Girls will understand how you act and behave all the time so it's not use changing habits and having to sustain it in the long term.
I detest this method but reading romance books can sort of help you in how to act towards girls if these girls are your stereotypical types that like eating lovey-dovey novels. Although they may seem crap, it gives you an indication on what how girls react and in some cases (for me anyway) I got caught reading a romance novel and my female friend and I had a debate whether romance in novels can translate to real life. Needless to say, we discussed more about books itself and that helped bridge the gap between me and her (No romantic feelings for her what so ever)
And with being the nice you.. I guess that's a start since being friendzoned isn't really that bad (To me anyway) it helps you to talk to the opposite gender which you can translate those skills to other females who have the potential to be with you. Plus you can always ask them for help too since they're roughly the same age because finding the 'one' isn't solely restricted to high school. University* is also a good place to look at since it's a fresh start and there's more variety ;)
*With the uni one, I was at the bus stop at Monash Uni Clayton and while waiting, there was a Caucasian dude hitting on a International Chinese lady in Chinese. They eventually got in the same bus as me and went back to his place.
But don't worry about it now though.. focus on VCE because that's your future.
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Okay in my experience of being a reasonably non gargoyle looking girl, boys who are smart, have a good sense of humour, big ambitions, maybe speak another language and play an instrument or something. ARE SO SELF CONSCIOUS!
What is up with that!?
Is this the consequence of being treated like a nerd or sub human through high school or something? This has bugged me for a long time. WHY
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This convo has taken several weird turns (basement wtf why?). Please don't.
/locked
Will unlock when the weird shit has been cleaned up.
Unlocked. Please keep your strange fantasies to yourself in the future.
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This convo has taken several weird turns (basement wtf why?). Please don't.
/locked
Will unlock when the weird shit has been cleaned up.
Unlocked. Please keep your strange fantasies to yourself in the future.
we should have more mods like you. have my babies <3
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Okay in my experience of being a reasonably non gargoyle looking girl, boys who are smart, have a good sense of humour, big ambitions, maybe speak another language and play an instrument or something. ARE SO SELF CONSCIOUS!
What is up with that!?
Is this the consequence of being treated like a nerd or sub human through high school or something? This has bugged me for a long time. WHY
O.o, people at my school are the opposite, people who are smart generally are treated better, unless you are a absolute know-it-all prick. At which point you will probably be stoned to death.
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This convo has taken several weird turns (basement wtf why?). Please don't.
/locked
Will unlock when the weird shit has been cleaned up.
Unlocked. Please keep your strange fantasies to yourself in the future.
we should have more mods like you. have my babies <3
and straight back down the weird path....
Haha jokes :)
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whatever you do, don't listen to ANY of these amateurs, the only person on this website with ANY kind of dating prowess is paul and if you wish to pick up, you should solely adhere to his wise words of wisdom.
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whatever you do, don't listen to ANY of these amateurs
Wow, thats quite ....harsh.
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whatever you do, don't listen to ANY of these amateurs
Wow, thats quite ....harsh.
unfortunately the truth is harsh my friend :( . when it comes to dating, paul alone is king!
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Preparing for the thread to be ended soon now :'(
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whatever you do, don't listen to ANY of these amateurs
Wow, thats quite ....harsh.
unfortunately the truth is harsh my friend :( . when it comes to dating, paul alone is king!
Your opinion. And I will not blast you for it. I don't really care what you think anyway.
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So as a purely academic person (nerd) with interests such as fictional literature, chess and computer games (not Crap of Duty), I don't get as much exposure, to the opposite sex/same sex/any sex that you are attracted to, as other people.
Not to say I am a hermit and detest the concept of love, I just do not have time to really explore and when I do, I am completely baffled. I wouldn't call myself shy or unattractive (Not saying I'm shallow but I'm just saying if people think that's the problem) but the things I say and do sometimes are just unusual to the point people get kinda scared.
So I tried a couple of things at a few parties and other functions and this is what happened:
Normal me => brooding psychopath
Nice me => Friend-zoned faster than the speed of light.
Quiet me => same as above (I had this assumption people liked being listened to more)
Carefree me => Short-term, probably because I kept my distance
Dickhead me (last resort) => Is a dick (something made me think girls liked assholes if the guys at my school are anything to judge by).
At this point I gave up because I wasn't cut out for this kind of thing (or perhaps I'm socially retarded) and went back to studying my ass off for end of years.
HOW DOES THIS WORK?
Any tips?
P.S And no I don't have a multiple personality disorder =/
Are you in year 12?
If yes, focus on VCE to boost your ATAR
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whatever you do, don't listen to ANY of these amateurs
Wow, thats quite ....harsh.
unfortunately the truth is harsh my friend :( . when it comes to dating, paul alone is king!
Your opinion. And I will not blast you for it. I don't really care what you think anyway.
if im not mistaken, this is an in joke regarding pauls frequent frapings... dont take it seriously nisha, its just a bit of fun :)
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whatever you do, don't listen to ANY of these amateurs
Wow, thats quite ....harsh.
unfortunately the truth is harsh my friend :( . when it comes to dating, paul alone is king!
Your opinion. And I will not blast you for it. I don't really care what you think anyway.
I think you might not have realised that he was joking...
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Not all girls are the same? some are socially awkward (like me) and I found my bf through mutual awkwardness
...our very first conversation was about Street Fighter and we even brought a laptop and a gaming stick to play it at a NYE party :X and we still be awkward and do things like build toy aeroplanes at Hargrave library
you will find someone one day who is a "brooding sociopath" like you and have brooding sociopath kids too!
and now ill just end this with a poem to wrap up what I have said
(http://i1.squidoocdn.com/resize/squidoo_images/590/draft_lens2257648module156139247photo_1326150604We_Are_All_Little_Weird.j)
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Just wait. There's heaps of time and it's about finding the right person. In a way,it's lucky that you're awkward because it means that once you meet someone you're compatible with, you'll know straight away! It means you don't waste time on the wrong people. My advice: don't hit on someone you don't really like or barely know (it's creepy) and it's cool to be friends first (friend zone isn't necessarily permanent).
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you will find someone one day who is a "brooding sociopath" like you and have brooding sociopath kids too!
Imagine the family gatherings!
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tl;dr x_x
Just have confidence, simple as that.
Be a little bit of a dick -> be more physical (so you don't get friend zoned) -> if you have the slight feeling that a girl is leading you on, ditch that ass.
Srsly, my philosophy (passed down from my father) is this:
Look good, feel good, smell good.
QED.
Protip: Don't assume all girls like the same stuff X_x I tried kissing a girl the same way I kiss TrueTears, but she didn't like it. Be creative, be spontaneous and most importantly, be happy.
If you're not happy with yourself, why would a girl want to be with you?
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Hahah, so I come to this thread to find that my name's already been thrown around, oh why?
Anyways, I think a lot of things that I've wanted to say have already been said, but there are a couple of things that I want to add.
Firstly, relationships and education are two completely separate things. Just having a girlfriend doesn't mean that your VCE will be affected and just because you're single doesn't mean you'll do any better. In my opinion anyway, you have to do what makes you feel comfortable and happy. Look at it this way, if you're in a relationship that makes you happy, you'll find that your life through year 12 is much better, just because you are happy.
Secondly, I think what you need to do (to the OP), is to just stop looking for a relationship. Those things come, what I mean is that, you never know when you meet the right girl. Don't do what I did for a period of time and go out there to meet and get to know girls just for the purpose of finding a girlfriend - it never works because you either get friendzoned, rejected or your relationship will be short term because it's not built upon a solid foundation. You have to really just chill and be open - that's the main thing - just remember it could be any girl.
Thirdly, the best thing you can do, in my opinion, is to just make yourself more attractive!! So that's the little things, get a nice haircut, shave, wear nice clothes and just all round try to actually look nice everyday, not only will it help with girls but it'll also help you feel more confident and confidence is a big factor if you're looking for a relationship. Then after that you can start to improve other things such as going to the gym, getting to know friends who will be able to introduce you to more girls...etc. Then you can look to changing your personality as well - of course, be a nice guy, but don't be too much of a nice guy, you have to have something that the girl you like will want, and she has to chase it, I don't know, just don't be clingy and don't be like her brother :P
I still think the predominant factor, however, is to not get caught up in finding a girlfriend, just let go and let the good things come to you. Everyone will find a girlfriend some day, even guys that you wouldn't expect to have girlfriends all will in some time. Just let it be and you will find happiness.
Btw, what I've said applies to finding long term relationships. If you're like some other kids I know and you want pretty much short term girlfriends (date for a couple of months, break up, get with someone else, repeat...etc.) - then you're just going to have to get to know as many as possible :P
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Yo dude - relationships are strange, fickle things huh?
Best I can say is just be yourself, no need to LOOK for a relationship. It can be very very very difficult especially when this persists, coz you might start thinking that you are just inherently unattractive and no one will ever find you special, and that you will literally, seriously, be forever alone. Don't think that way if you are. It's debilitating to your confidence...and it's so easy to think that way even though it's simply not true.
You have plenty of time, you're not even a uni student yet. Take it from me, i'm 18, never had a girlfriend myself, never gotten close to going out with any girl - no girl has ever liked me. But I'm taking it in my stride. Try get preoccupied with other stuff, like uni etc., that's what I do. Hopefully the right person comes along one day.
And it's so much easier being yourself. If I've learnt anything, girls like guys who are real, genuine. Not actors. Not fakes.
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Take it from me, i'm 18, never had a girlfriend myself, never gotten close to going out with any girl - no girl has ever liked me.
I can bet my bottom dollar this is not true!
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Take it from me, i'm 18, never had a girlfriend myself, never gotten close to going out with any girl - no girl has ever liked me.
I can bet my bottom dollar this is not true!
Oh no no no i'm actually being legit here - it's true.
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Take it from me, i'm 18, never had a girlfriend myself, never gotten close to going out with any girl - no girl has ever liked me.
I can bet my bottom dollar this is not true!
Hey, Thush, I liked you when we had our chemistry pick up lines going on:)
BAM.
As friends.
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Take it from me, i'm 18, never had a girlfriend myself, never gotten close to going out with any girl - no girl has ever liked me. But I'm taking it in my stride.
you realise the entire female curry population born from 1991-1994 are after you.. right?
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Take it from me, i'm 18, never had a girlfriend myself, never gotten close to going out with any girl - no girl has ever liked me. But I'm taking it in my stride.
you realise the entire female curry population born from 1991-1994 are after you.. right?
You realise that I'm very good at calling BS? :P Nice try. Pull the other one will ya? :P
Unless, of course, you were directing that at Paulsterio.
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Take it from me, i'm 18, never had a girlfriend myself, never gotten close to going out with any girl - no girl has ever liked me.
I can bet my bottom dollar this is not true!
Hey, Thush, I liked you when we had our chemistry pick up lines going on:)
BAM.
As friends.
Hahaha nice one there LOL!
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Not all girls are the same? some are socially awkward (like me) and I found my bf through mutual awkwardness
...our very first conversation was about Street Fighter and we even brought a laptop and a gaming stick to play it at a NYE party :X and we still be awkward and do things like build toy aeroplanes at Hargrave library
you will find someone one day who is a "brooding sociopath" like you and have brooding sociopath kids too!
and now ill just end this with a poem to wrap up what I have said
(http://i1.squidoocdn.com/resize/squidoo_images/590/draft_lens2257648module156139247photo_1326150604We_Are_All_Little_Weird.j)
I think I prefer the term Republican now :d
And congrats that you found each other :)
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Sorry to disappoint you, but that quote has been misattributed to Dr. Seuss. The real version was spoken by Robert Fulghum in True Love (1998) which goes like this:
"You want my opinion? We're all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness -- and call it love -- true love."
Even look for yourself:
http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Dr._Seuss
Scroll down to near the bottom of the page until you see a big red box that reads "Misattributed".
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Sorry to disappoint you, but that quote has been misattributed to Dr. Seuss. The real version was spoken by Robert Fulghum in True Love (1998) which goes like this:
"You want my opinion? We're all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness -- and call it love -- true love."
Even look for yourself:
http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Dr._Seuss
Scroll down to near the bottom of the page until you see a big red box that reads "Misattributed".
here have a medal
(http://www.chocolatetradingco.com/pictures/products/8/7/0/.870/~iDbcQmcp/chocolate-medal.jpg)
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Thirdly, the best thing you can do, in my opinion, is to just make yourself more attractive!! So that's the little things, get a nice haircut, shave, wear nice clothes and just all round try to actually look nice everyday, not only will it help with girls but it'll also help you feel more confident and confidence is a big factor if you're looking for a relationship.
Enwiabe and I are rarely ever, ever, ever seen outside of trackies.
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Hey, Thush, I liked you when we had our chemistry pick up lines going on:)
BAM.
As friends.
LOL so unintentionally/unnecessarily cruel and hilarious?
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Any girl that I've managed to get anywhere with is a result of me chatting them up through the topic of Chess (srs).
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I'm good at chess (not trying to sound arrogant, but the best in my school) except only guys play it. Considering that about 2/3rds of my school are females, I am quite disappointed.
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Go see the musical Chess which is playing at the Exhibition Centre in Melbourne at the moment. You love chess. Girls love musicals. PERFECT!
But in all seriousness. I've only ever had one girlfriend because I myself have never LOOKED for a relationship. I never minded being single because I, like most people, am a little bit strange and didn't feel compatible with. My first relationship was with a girl who was my friend first, and it was because she was just a little bit strange too that I felt we were compatible. We were together all of Year 12, and I highly doubt it affected my grades at all. If you find someone in Year 12, take that opportunity because you may regret it for the rest of your life if you don't.
Unfortunately, as is life, we have gone our separate ways, but I have not found anybody else who I'd feel comfortable in a relationship with. I have not found anybody who I have had remote interest in establishing a relationship with... and I associate with a lot of females seeing as I'm doing Arts at Deakin! (Plus I also do amateur theatre which helps). Just wait; you'll find a person you're compatible with, trust me!
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Thirdly, the best thing you can do, in my opinion, is to just make yourself more attractive!! So that's the little things, get a nice haircut, shave, wear nice clothes and just all round try to actually look nice everyday, not only will it help with girls but it'll also help you feel more confident and confidence is a big factor if you're looking for a relationship.
Enwiabe and I are rarely ever, ever, ever seen outside of trackies.
:'(
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Wait until uni - you'll find a lot of people never dated in high school at all once you get there, and for some reason in first year particularly hormones are flying around everywhere.
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no girl has ever liked me
I have literally never doubted anything more in my life.
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no girl has ever liked me
I have literally never doubted anything more in my life.
Haha, thanks for the compliment. But I'm being legit LOL. Nah, I guess I'll just wait and see, but if the worst comes to the worst...well I am curry so my parents could always arrange me :P
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no girl has ever liked me
I have literally never doubted anything more in my life.
Haha, thanks for the compliment. But I'm being legit LOL. Nah, I guess I'll just wait and see, but if the worst comes to the worst...well I am curry so my parents could always arrange me :P
You are okay with an arranged marriage? :o
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no girl has ever liked me
I have literally never doubted anything more in my life.
Haha, thanks for the compliment. But I'm being legit LOL. Nah, I guess I'll just wait and see, but if the worst comes to the worst...well I am curry so my parents could always arrange me :P
You are okay with an arranged marriage? :o
I think the :P gives the answer to that qn. I was joking before, I'm not a fan of arranged marriages.
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Wait until uni - you'll find a lot of people never dated in high school at all once you get there, and for some reason in first year particularly hormones are flying around everywhere.
While I'm still in year 11, I think there is really something to be said about being in a new environment, and the exposure to new people. I went through year 7-9 (I know they were the younger years but hear me out) with my best friends having various boyfriends and boys interested in them, and me-nothing. I moved schools and in year 10 suddenly had a number of boys interested in me, two fought over me...I think if you go into a change of scenery confidently that makes the world of difference :)
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the key to not being friendzoned is to say things that "just friends" wouldnt do, eg; she insults you be like "oh you hurt my feelings KISS IT BETTER !!" even if you straight away follow up with a LOL JOKES that little notion in the back of their mind stays there and yeah thats the key to it, if youre both interested eventually you will realise if not then meh you made a friend