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conflict with parents for ANU
« on: December 07, 2009, 10:12:05 pm »
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How would I convince my parents to let me study at ANU?
They say they don't want me to go because of financial reasons.
Since, monash, melbourne, rmit and all the local universities also cost money unless you get a scholarship, I'm sure they mean the accomodation and living expense aspect.
Any suggestions?

and, if not, could you, ANU students, share your stories about going to ANU in terms of negotiations and stuff

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Re: conflict with parents for ANU
« Reply #1 on: December 07, 2009, 10:20:07 pm »
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im trying to do the exact same thing!, but above financial reasons, my parents also dont want me to leave on the basis of remaining a family

what ive said is that when im in Canberra i will get a job and help to pay the cost of accomodation, - as much as i possibly can.

good luck, i know ill need it
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Re: conflict with parents for ANU
« Reply #2 on: December 07, 2009, 10:26:53 pm »
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University is your own state close to home is essentially free. HECS is just a debt you accrue, there are no upfront fees. This is in contrast with going to a university interstate - you must pay for accommodation etc. If they can't support you (and you can't support yourself independently) then that is a good reason to not go interstate.

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« Reply #3 on: December 07, 2009, 10:47:38 pm »
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im trying to do the exact same thing!, but above financial reasons, my parents also dont want me to leave on the basis of remaining a family

what ive said is that when im in Canberra i will get a job and help to pay the cost of accomodation, - as much as i possibly can.

good luck, i know ill need it

I wouldn't be suprised if this is what my parents actually mean. Thanks for sharing.

University is your own state close to home is essentially free. HECS is just a debt you accrue, there are no upfront fees. This is in contrast with going to a university interstate - you must pay for accommodation etc. If they can't support you (and you can't support yourself independently) then that is a good reason to not go interstate.

I hadn't thought of this. Are there any sort of 'living' scholarships out there incase I don't find a job that can support me fully (I'm sure I will though) but no guarantees

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Re: conflict with parents for ANU
« Reply #4 on: December 07, 2009, 10:50:12 pm »
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There are some accommodation scholarships
http://accom.anu.edu.au/UAS/195.html

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Re: conflict with parents for ANU
« Reply #5 on: December 07, 2009, 10:54:01 pm »
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I hadn't thought of this. Are there any sort of 'living' scholarships out there incase I don't find a job that can support me fully (I'm sure I will though) but no guarantees
There would be accommodation scholarships (but someone like humph will know better), but as with these things they tend to be pretty difficult to get, generally requiring very high results. Out of curiosity, what ENTER are you expecting?

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« Reply #6 on: December 07, 2009, 10:55:20 pm »
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I suppose low 90's

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Re: conflict with parents for ANU
« Reply #7 on: December 07, 2009, 11:07:22 pm »
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Yeah accommodation scholarships are pretty hard to come by. A lot of interstate students pay their accommodation fees either by having a job or by centrelink/savings (which isn't really possible anymore because they got rid of the whole "work for 18 months" independent thing). So a job's probably the way to go. Part-time work isn't too hard to come by, but you'll need to be earning at least $300 a week to live on.
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Re: conflict with parents for ANU
« Reply #8 on: December 07, 2009, 11:24:55 pm »
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errr what?

"(which isn't really possible anymore because they got rid of the whole "work for 18 months" independent thing"

care to ellaborate?

I have never heard of this

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Re: conflict with parents for ANU
« Reply #9 on: December 07, 2009, 11:27:57 pm »
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errr what?

"(which isn't really possible anymore because they got rid of the whole "work for 18 months" independent thing"

care to ellaborate?

I have never heard of this

They're changing the law in regards to Youth Allowance, but I believe it won't be passed until Parliament resumes next year, so the 18 months work thing still applies.
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Re: conflict with parents for ANU
« Reply #10 on: December 07, 2009, 11:46:53 pm »
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which isn't really possible anymore because they got rid of the whole "work for 18 months" independent thing"

As far as I know they haven't approved the new legislation yet and won't be looking at it again till feb next year.

So for now I believe the old rules still apply, which kind of sucks for 2009ers because it you decide to take a year of next year to work they could change it within that year.

Correct me if I'm wrong please :)
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Re: conflict with parents for ANU
« Reply #11 on: December 08, 2009, 12:50:46 am »
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if they have some savings and you are willing to repay them the debts, write a statement about repaying them some time in the future.. from my experience they will probably forget about it, but i believe it is still worthwhile to pay them back once you are employed...

but i have this feeling that they might also be worrying about other factors.. like your safety and well-being

mm..you could also try to prove your maturity and individuality by doing as much housework as possible now, talk as if you are a person who is capable of making your own decisions, tell them how worthy your choice is, and how pro ANU is, supress any anger.. don't show it.. and don't argue with them nomatter how stubborn they are(tell them its on your preference already) until they nolonger say NO, hehe

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that's just what i would do if i were in your shoes...just 4 ur reference

How would I convince my parents to let me study at ANU?
They say they don't want me to go because of financial reasons.
Since, monash, melbourne, rmit and all the local universities also cost money unless you get a scholarship, I'm sure they mean the accomodation and living expense aspect.
Any suggestions?

and, if not, could you, ANU students, share your stories about going to ANU in terms of negotiations and stuff
well the limit can turn into a threshold..

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Re: conflict with parents for ANU
« Reply #12 on: December 08, 2009, 01:05:08 am »
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If it's primarily a financial matter then it might not really be an option for them.

There are plenty of great Uni's here so I don't see ANU as a huge benefit unless you have something specific in mnd.

What course were you hoping on pursuing?

Sometimes you can get something in your head and get really stubborn about it (I know i can anyway).

Best thing is to get informed so that you can make the right decision.

*Find out the benefits of taking your desired course there and measure them up against the Victorian Uni's
*Find out what it's likely to cost you:
1) Accommodation. Look at the options - renting close to Uni, in the 'sticks', share-housing etc
2) Bills for phones/net/gas etc
3) Food
4) spending money
5) Cost of trips back home on holidays
*Likely modes of travel (Canberra doesn't have trains, only buses. So if you're living far out it could cost you valuable study time travelling)
*Will you get a job? What are the job opportunities there?

There's heaps more, moving out of home is a big deal.. esp to another state. My advice is to get educated about it and if you're still interested show your parents all the research you've done. That'll prove to them that you've taken the initiative and can only be positive.

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Re: conflict with parents for ANU
« Reply #13 on: December 08, 2009, 12:41:02 pm »
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I guess just explain to them why you want to go and tell them about your plans once you're there (get a job, etc.)

Also, if money is an issue, you can save either by going self-catered or living off-campus.

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Re: conflict with parents for ANU
« Reply #14 on: December 08, 2009, 01:12:21 pm »
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Best thing is to get informed so that you can make the right decision.

*Find out the benefits of taking your desired course there and measure them up against the Victorian Uni's
*Find out what it's likely to cost you:
1) Accommodation. Look at the options - renting close to Uni, in the 'sticks', share-housing etc
2) Bills for phones/net/gas etc
3) Food
4) spending money
5) Cost of trips back home on holidays
*Likely modes of travel (Canberra doesn't have trains, only buses. So if you're living far out it could cost you valuable study time travelling)
*Will you get a job? What are the job opportunities there?

There's heaps more, moving out of home is a big deal.. esp to another state. My advice is to get educated about it and if you're still interested show your parents all the research you've done. That'll prove to them that you've taken the initiative and can only be positive.


There is no way I would move out of home to study at a uni interstate! Study itself isn't opening a textbook and learning stuff in 5 minutes. You have to: get a job, find a place to live,   bills, cleaning. The average degree will demand you put in 20 hours per week (that's adding up all your subjects) in order to get decent marks.

You should just experience 1 year of uni before making that many decisions. I didn't move out of home and I still found uni demanding.
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