atar-dating 'discussion'?!

[acinod]

Personally I see three important traits associated with making relationships.
They are: looks, intelligence and kindness/loyalty/all that kind of emotional stuff.
ATAR doesn't really determine intelligence because you may be unlucky or just lazy but secretly intelligent.
Obviously, these traits will have different priorities for each and every individual.

However the big question is...
Which of these traits do you rank as least important?

Would you prefer an ugly, stupid or evil partner?

[Camo]

Personally I see three important traits associated with making relationships.
They are: looks, intelligence and kindness/loyalty/all that kind of emotional stuff.
ATAR doesn't really determine intelligence because you may be unlucky or just lazy but secretly intelligent.
Obviously, these traits will have different priorities for each and every individual.

However the big question is...
Which of these traits do you rank as least important?

Would you prefer an ugly, stupid or evil partner?

Well I can tell you now, having an evil partner makes it more fun.

[Reckoner]

Personally I see three important traits associated with making relationships.
They are: looks, intelligence and kindness/loyalty/all that kind of emotional stuff.
ATAR doesn't really determine intelligence because you may be unlucky or just lazy but secretly intelligent.
Obviously, these traits will have different priorities for each and every individual.

However the big question is...
Which of these traits do you rank as least important?

Would you prefer an ugly, stupid or evil partner?

I'd have to say evil; everything would be much more interesting.

[fuzzylogic]

Personally I see three important traits associated with making relationships.
They are: looks, intelligence and kindness/loyalty/all that kind of emotional stuff.
ATAR doesn't really determine intelligence because you may be unlucky or just lazy but secretly intelligent.
Obviously, these traits will have different priorities for each and every individual.

However the big question is...
Which of these traits do you rank as least important?

Would you prefer an ugly, stupid or evil partner?

Ugly....there's nothing a little surgery can't fix~

[aes_999]

While being ugly can deter someone to
potentially 'date' prospective partners,
once you get past the 'face', it's the inside
that's the most important.

But yeah, I totally understand that looks
are the major factor when first deciding to
date someone.

[Greatness]

Intelligence is definitely attractive the only time the opposite is true, is if you're trying to pull some moves

[Reckoner]

the only time the opposite is true, is if you're trying to pull some moves

Said like the great Swarley himself 

[SDPHD]

Now, are we talking 'date' - the social interaction or 'date' - the dried fruit?

[sodapop]

Personally I see three important traits associated with making relationships.
They are: looks, intelligence and kindness/loyalty/all that kind of emotional stuff.
ATAR doesn't really determine intelligence because you may be unlucky or just lazy but secretly intelligent.
Obviously, these traits will have different priorities for each and every individual.

However the big question is...
Which of these traits do you rank as least important?

Would you prefer an ugly, stupid or evil partner?

Definitely ugly above the two others.

I'd say looks would be the least important trait amongst all that you've listed, but then again, unless they're an exceptionally good person ...you've still got to consider things genetically, if you get my drift...  Maybe that's thinking too far ahead.

Personally, I notice that I'm attracted to guys with traits that I personally value, or aspire to. Intelligence, kindness, and having a good sense of humour probably being the main and most important ones. Also, strangely, charisma as well. I'm definitely attracted to outgoing, friendly people....I guess it's coz I'm shy myself, and I despise it (being shy).

But while I agree that a relationship free from competition is best formed when the two have strengths in different fields, there has to be some level of common interests. Do you guys think the old "opposites attract" adage is true?

[86]

Do you guys think the old "opposites attract" adage is true?

Of course, but that alone only takes you so far. That's where the other traits mentioned (personality etc) take over.

Think of a sequential twin turbo system in a car. /nerdout

[Mech]

Heh, funny story is that I have had the complete opposite. My ex-girlfriend was very competitive about VCE; she was determined to beat me at English because she wants to be an author. I was very nonchalant about Year 12 and just saw it as a means to an ends (getting into my desired course). Getting a fantastic mark is dandy and all, but it was not the major thing on my mind. With that being said, I still ended up with a 93.95 which beat my ex-girlfriend. Whilst chatting over coffee, she asked me how I went. I told her I did quite well considering I did not expect to get even close to a 90.00 and that I should get into the course I want. She said this was great and seemed somewhat upset I had beaten here. I assure her of her score (I think it was 88 or 89) and that it is plenty for the course she wishes to enter. We chat briefly afterwards before she says she has to go. Okay, she just seems disappointed she did not beat me.

I get home to find she has unfriended me on Facebook, wont reply to my texts and apparently told one of my friends she does not want to talk to me any more. I pestered my friend a little to get more information why - had I been rude? - and she told me that it was purely because she was jealous of my score. Then, a few days later, another ex girlfriend (yes, I have a few) asked the same question. I tell her my ATAR and that I am happy. She tells me that is great and then tells me she, too, only got an 89. Tells me all her personal reasons for not getting a mark like mine and what not.

My question is, why do these young girls feel the need to compete with their ex boyfriend?

[xdecay]

My question is, why do these young girls feel the need to compete with their ex boyfriend?

it's not just the girls - a couple of my ex's and 'almost-boyfriends' were uber competitive with me throughout year 12. they denigrated my subjects and in the end, i still beat them although all of them were marked down (one wasn't due to perfect score) which finally shut them up. i have a feeling that for some reason, they have the tendency to become sanctimonious and sell themselves in front of me to in a way, prove that they were the 'winners' of the break up or something. ah, politics.

and as for what your ex has done, that's just too far. you're better off not having her status on your newsfeed anyway.

as for answering the thread -i don't get why guys would ever feel intimidated to go out with someone with a high atar. from my understanding:
high atar = intelligence (well, there's a correlation) = makes good decisions = has good taste = if you two are going out = you're quality.
so going out with someone with a high atar = awesome.

[Panicmode]

My ex-girlfriend broke up with me because I got a higher ATAR than her.

We were in the middle of Chadstone, having a coffee together after a movie and some shopping (by which I mean 2 hours of, "Really? Are you sure? I'm not sure I like it.. hmmm.... but it does match my hair") when she brings up the subject of ATAR proudly telling me she got a 97.9 . I congratulate her and we kiss and I tell her how well she's done and how all her hard work payed off. She then asked me and I dodge the question (cause I knew she wouldn't be happy that I beat her) and said I'm happy with it and it's enough to get into my course. She pesters me and insists on a concrete score so I finally tell her and she chucks this big hissy in the middle of Chadstone and tells me how I was bragging about my score and stringing her along to make her feel bad about her score. She practically slapped me in the middle of Chadstone and she storms off and we break up.... hmmm...


So yeah, some people do care about their partner's ATAR.

[xdecay]

My ex-girlfriend broke up with me because I got a higher ATAR than her.

We were in the middle of Chadstone, having a coffee together after a movie and some shopping (by which I mean 2 hours of, "Really? Are you sure? I'm not sure I like it.. hmmm.... but it does match my hair") when she brings up the subject of ATAR proudly telling me she got a 97.9 . I congratulate her and we kiss and I tell her how well she's done and how all her hard work payed off. She then asked me and I dodge the question (cause I knew she wouldn't be happy that I beat her) and said I'm happy with it and it's enough to get into my course. She pesters me and insists on a concrete score so I finally tell her and she chucks this big hissy in the middle of Chadstone and tells me how I was bragging about my score and stringing her along to make her feel bad about her score. She practically slapped me in the middle of Chadstone and she storms off and we break up.... hmmm...


So yeah, some people do care about their partner's ATAR.

i'm sorry but what a bitch. between two people, someone's ought to obtain a higher atar than the other person. no hissy fits should be involved. i bet if it was her who got higher she would've been pleased with herself and would expect you to congratulate her or whatnot. fucking double standards. people these days. also, no matter how much you love clothes you don't just drag your boyfriend knowing full well that he doesn't enjoy it.

lol sorry this rant has also been triggered by past experiences involving unreasonable girls who unjustifiably treat their partners like shit. /endanger

[paulsterio]

i find it funny how xdecay got 97.90, hmmm......i wonder if xdecay is the gf in question

but anyways, it's only a 0.35 difference between Panicmode and her, as if that's a big deal! 0.35...really?!