Hi guys wall of text quoting Paul from two pages ago:
But seriously though, all this reminds me of Romeo and Juliet, if two people like eachother, does it really matter what family they're from, what nationality they are or what culture they follow? Not to mention even more ridiculous things like religion
I get what you're saying and I partially agree: I have a cousin ( was Lutheran) who was met with disapproval from his Catholic girlfriend’s parents ( who were, incidentally, also marriage counsellors) and they still don’t like him, even though he converted to Catholicism, purely because of his Protestant upbringing.I don’t think anyone should oppose their marriage on religious grounds (even before he became Catholic.)
I think my viewpoint allows me to understand why this happens, though. The way I see it, religion is a culture in itself, and in turn, culture is shaped by belief; you can’t render either as ridiculous or irrelevant, because personal conviction, whether secular, religious ,or otherwise, build the very grounding of a person’s identity. Of course, though, this all tends to get a tad messy. So nationality, culture, religion and family /do/ matter a little in matchmaking, in that, they have to be /somewhat/ compatible. What needs to happen though is more acceptance of cultural divisions. ( All while we’re intertwined in this inexplicable mess we call the Human Race. I guess it’s kind of fun, huh?)
The truth is, just because someone's of a different "type" to us doesn't mean that we're not compatible because at the end of the day, we're all human, we all (more or less) have similar values, being raised in Australia and having been educated here.
I think you’ve oversimplified the issue here. We’re all kind of formed around the microcosm we’re brought up in - it shapes the way we think, feel and generally conceptualise the world, right? Basically your social context is what makes you, you. I totally agree that we all share a common set of values that are, for the most part, the same in our idealisation of how society should function. Yet even based on these common assumptions, the perspectives based on these backgrounds can differ dramatically. For example, a person brought up in a secular environment would find a relationship difficult with someone with a strongly theistic perspective, (albeit not impossible, I’ve seen it work) – not only because of their different beliefs but because of the completely different society they immerse themselves in. Sure they might have a lot in common with each other, including Being Raised in Australia, Being Educated Here and the general state of Being Human, but these paradigms vary SO SO SO MUCH!!!! Although they can be appreciated and valued and understood by another person, some of these views do not equate, y’know, being binarily opposed and all, even in spite of sharing common humanity and so forth. I think that’s what parents must worry about, anyway, especially if you belong to a specific cultural or religious group. On the other hand one’s worldview can be analogous to a person of a different background. John Green ( who, besides being an amazing YA novelist, is a Christian,) said on his vlog that he sometimes feels he has more in common with liberal Muslims than Conservative Christians. (I agree with this sentiment!) However, you do understand what I mean in that you can’t generalise things like that. Cultural divisions suck but I kind of understand how/why they exist. My Mum’s like “If you don’t marry a Lutheran, marry an Anglican”. Hmm. Wow. An Anglican. - _- That’s lashing out a bit.
Sorry Mum, gonna marry a liberal Muslim. ^_^
So yeah, just putting that into my own context, but terms of a Curry family, I’d imagine it would be a similar deal, except not so much religion but understanding of different cultures, right?
Btw not targeting you specifically Paul - your post is kind of just the springboard of my ideas, which may or may not still be relevant to this thread.
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