Burning out

[walkec]

Okay, so not that I am burning out but I need to just get this off my chest.
Tonight I had parent teacher interviews. My first interview was for my 3/4 and my teacher brought up the topic of not burning out, which I completely understand because she's been teaching VCE for a long time and I value her opinion because of her experience.

But then at all my other interviews, my mum brings up the topic of burning out to all my teachers. I asked her inbetween interviews to not bring it up and she said that that's not my duty not to, because she wants what's best for me, she doesn't think I know how to balance my life etc. I told her that she needs to trust I can manage and look after myself. I'm so pissed off at her. Mainly because my brother did year 12 last year and my parents trusted him to study, maintain a social life, part time job, etc. he got an Atar of 99.85. I don't feel any pressure to be him because we are at different schools and he is now studying commerce and I want to study health promotion, so we are like two complete opposites. But I just hate it how mum is babying me and not trusting that I can manage myself. She says I need to exercise more, thinking that I don't exercise because I'm studying. Um, I think my own mother forgot that I can't because I have a permanently frayed medial ligament which cannot be repaired at all. I'm so pissed off at her. That damn injury isn't my fault.

So now I feel like s**t because I want to value her opinion but she doesn't know what it's like. She didn't even finish high school, let alone go to uni. She needs to trust me and I want her to trust me. Any ideas??

Oh also, forgot to add that when my brother was in year 11 and 12, he had no responsibility at home. Mum and Dad would do everything for him and made me do more. Mum and Dad said that I'd get time off over year 11 and 12 like he did. But no, my brother still gets out of all responsibility at home when he's only at uni 2 days a week and its expected I do all of his chores because that's the way it was last year. Is f**king stupid i know, but I want it to be fair and at the moment it's not.

[brenden]

Aaahh, I feel your pain man. My Dad was similar. He didn't finish high school and I know that's what he wanted for me (to finish, I mean), but sometimes he was just really off. Like "you don't want to end up like me" as motivation, when that's just angering. And asking if I should be studying when I was chilling, or asking if I should be chilling when I was studying. It wasn't all bad, though. He took my chores sometimes so I could study. I think you have to evaluate the chances you have of educating your mum with an assertive discussion. If you have a sliver for a chance, lay it out for her. I know writing a letter can help for some people. If you don't stand a chance, just accept your mum for who she is and what she does and move on.