I need advice: family problem

[brenden]

I know it's been said already but I wouldn't fully support your mother. Not out of spite, but out of love. She has plenty of life and learning experiences ahead of her, and this should be one of them.

[grannysmith]

Woah? Runescape? All I got out of it was knowing what a yew tree was.

[Fyrefly]

I can't post anonymous here, so I'll just say that I can relate to your situation a lot.

I'm not sure if this is the answer you're expecting, but I think for now, while you're living under her roof, you're just going to have to put up with it. I also think you're going to have to cut your losses with that $30k. I don't think you'll see a cent of it.

As for the long-term though, the best thing you can do for her and for yourself is to cut her off financially. She will hate you for it, but you love her and it's the best thing you can do. It's a harsh analogy, but she's like an addict; you have to help your mum help herself. You'll need to be tough enough to withstand the emotional blackmail that will follow. Your car should be in your name, and you should have your own bank account. If you have a job, never discuss how many hours you're working, how much money you're earning, or how much money you've saved. Don't give her any more money.

I'm not sure how your step-dad plays into this, but you'll need to be ready to catch the pieces in regards to your siblings. You may need to support your siblings, but you should find ways of doing so that do not equate to you giving your mum money. Personally, with me and my siblings, I used to give them lunch money (I told them they had to spend it all or else give me the change), take them out for dinner heaps, and take them clothes shopping whenever I noticed they was outgrowing their current wardrobes.

[lala1911]

irrelevant, but $150k staking is beastly, only managed to scrape a few K myself lol. , and I am certain I have staked you, not sure how much it was for, few hundred mill maybe.

Idk if there is actually anything you can do though. If it was me, if I had the opportunity, I'd just take the two cars and the other items and sell them and get whatever is left. Do your parents need two cars? Can't they survive with two cars worth like $4000 or something? Also, how do they have access to your money? Haven't you locked it up in a personal account?

If it was me - sell the cars, get back the money, move out.

[tonychet2]

I can't post anonymous here, so I'll just say that I can relate to your situation a lot.

I'm not sure if this is the answer you're expecting, but I think for now, while you're living under her roof, you're just going to have to put up with it. I also think you're going to have to cut your losses with that $30k. I don't think you'll see a cent of it.

As for the long-term though, the best thing you can do for her and for yourself is to cut her off financially. She will hate you for it, but you love her and it's the best thing you can do. It's a harsh analogy, but she's like an addict; you have to help your mum help herself. You'll need to be tough enough to withstand the emotional blackmail that will follow. Your car should be in your name, and you should have your own bank account. If you have a job, never discuss how many hours you're working, how much money you're earning, or how much money you've saved. Don't give her any more money.

I'm not sure how your step-dad plays into this, but you'll need to be ready to catch the pieces in regards to your siblings. You may need to support your siblings, but you should find ways of doing so that do not equate to you giving your mum money. Personally, with me and my siblings, I used to give them lunch money (I told them they had to spend it all or else give me the change), take them out for dinner heaps, and take them clothes shopping whenever I noticed they was outgrowing their current wardrobes.

wow, this is what I exactly needed! I think you hit the nail on the head

Thanks alot for taking your time to write that! I'm transferring this onto a word document so I can access this any time

Also, my mum is like the power-house in our household, my stepdad really feels sorry for me but there's nothing he can do - if he suggests anyhting my mum would just have a long argument with him telling him off basically, my stepdad just gives into whatever my mum says all the time he has basically no say in anything either...

[tonychet2]

irrelevant, but $150k staking is beastly, only managed to scrape a few K myself lol. , and I am certain I have staked you, not sure how much it was for, few hundred mill maybe.

Idk if there is actually anything you can do though. If it was me, if I had the opportunity, I'd just take the two cars and the other items and sell them and get whatever is left. Do your parents need two cars? Can't they survive with two cars worth like $4000 or something? Also, how do they have access to your money? Haven't you locked it up in a personal account?

If it was me - sell the cars, get back the money, move out.

I'm not after the money, I don't really care whether I get it or not, I just want to be secure and happy lol,
but yeah, I didn't have a paypal as I was under 18 and it all went straight into her bank - my bank is empty at $0, also the cars being under her name  doesn't help lol

[Fyrefly]

wow, this is what I exactly needed! I think you hit the nail on the head

Thanks alot for taking your time to write that! I'm transferring this onto a word document so I can access this any time

Also, my mum is like the power-house in our household, my stepdad really feels sorry for me but there's nothing he can do - if he suggests anyhting my mum would just have a long argument with him telling him off basically, my stepdad just gives into whatever my mum says all the time he has basically no say in anything either...

I'm glad to think I've helped a little
I feel like at this point I should come up with some sort of pragmatic quote, ha ha.

[taiga]

It's pretty unfortunate that she is in the mindset that you are able to provide for her on the basis of you making money from an online game. You're far too young for having that kind of expectation held onto you, I doubt she'd have that mindset if you were an average year 12. I honestly think you will have to revert to being a 'normal' kid her eyes so she begins to lose that expectation and dependence on you.

Off topic, 150K through RS is insane. Back in 2006 when I was 12/13 when mils were $5 USD ea I used to think I was ballin out of control with my lifetime earnings of like $450 bucks haha.

[thushan]

I'm glad to think I've helped a little
I feel like at this point I should come up with some sort of pragmatic quote, ha ha.

That advice also applies to me