when people "praise" you: "OH, but you work soooo hard!"... -_-

[Manny]

It's actually a good thing that you're working hard! Hard work always pays off, who cares about what they say. Good luck

[Fyrefly]

I admire people who work really hard and I do genuinely congratulate and compliment them when they do well.

Speaking honestly though, (please don't hate me for this) I don't place as much value on the academic achievements of people who dedicate all their time to study. If you don't have a job, you don't play sport, you don't socialise much... of course you're going to have heaps of time to study and get that A+. Obviously I'd never vocalise this and each to their own choices, but mentally I have a lot more respect for people who still perform exceptionally even when they've got all these other commitments too.

[simpak]

Yeah but sport isn't fun ):

[Yacoubb]

I think its incredibly annoying when people do this! When I achieved 100% on my first SAC for Further, every individual in my class started telling me that it was because the teacher loved me. Its definitely condescending and a way for them to satisfy their greed. I hate it! Thats why I don't tell anyone at school my exam/SAC marks!

[Fluttershy]

I think its incredibly annoying when people do this! When I achieved 100% on my first SAC for Further, every individual in my class started telling me that it was because the teacher loved me. Its definitely condescending and a way for them to satisfy their greed. I hate it! Thats why I don't tell anyone at school my exam/SAC marks!

That's really unpleasant

[thushan]

I think its incredibly annoying when people do this! When I achieved 100% on my first SAC for Further, every individual in my class started telling me that it was because the teacher loved me. Its definitely condescending and a way for them to satisfy their greed. I hate it! Thats why I don't tell anyone at school my exam/SAC marks!

Now,  if that isn't jealousy (by your classmates) I don't know what is.

[PB]

I admire people who work really hard and I do genuinely congratulate and compliment them when they do well.

Speaking honestly though, (please don't hate me for this) I don't place as much value on the academic achievements of people who dedicate all their time to study. If you don't have a job, you don't play sport, you don't socialise much... of course you're going to have heaps of time to study and get that A+. Obviously I'd never vocalise this and each to their own choices, but mentally I have a lot more respect for people who still perform exceptionally even when they've got all these other commitments too.

But you see Firefly,
     its because of the fact that people admire students who seemingly do no work and still ace their schooling which drives others to put up this facade of doing no work. I don't think its right that people who work hard should be put down or their achievements undermined.
In the rare occasion that I do beat my friends in SACs, they would downgrade it by claiming that I had to work 24/7 for it whereas they had sport, work etc.etc.   Why do they put so much emphasis on achieving success with no work?
     Afterall, not everyone can achieve what Appianway does without working hard; simply because they were not born with that gift. Championing intelligience is kind of the same thing that media does with beauty...girls are driven to depression over something that they are not born with. Likewise, in school, average students are driven to feel undervalued at the gift that they don't have.
I mean, if a student has to work hard to achieve those grades then let him/her be! You don't have to put them down or view him/her as sad or having no life for having to do what is neccesary to achieve his/her goals.

      I know for certain that if I were to take up work or what not, my grades would surely plummet...so yeh. There is definitely a conflict for me to appear socially acceptable and do what is neccessary for me to get into my career of choice. But then again, I guess it really is my responsibility to block them out. And I thank you guys for some of your advice - such as not sharing marks (it really works!)

[academicbulimia]

I think its incredibly annoying when people do this! When I achieved 100% on my first SAC for Further, every individual in my class started telling me that it was because the teacher loved me. Its definitely condescending and a way for them to satisfy their greed. I hate it! Thats why I don't tell anyone at school my exam/SAC marks!

Yeah this exact thing happens to me. I also get the occasional joking but still awkward 'I hate you for getting good scores" jab from people who talk all through class and literally do nothing. Good one guys 

[IndefatigableLover]

I think its incredibly annoying when people do this! When I achieved 100% on my first SAC for Further, every individual in my class started telling me that it was because the teacher loved me. Its definitely condescending and a way for them to satisfy their greed. I hate it! Thats why I don't tell anyone at school my exam/SAC marks!

Yeah I can see where you're coming from Yacoubb. Generally praises never got to me (I just flicked them to a side) but after being accepted into MHS/JMSS, the praises I got had that odd sense of 'hate' and 'jealousy' (teacher's included) which has led me to just not tell people at my scores any more :|

[Fyrefly]

Yeah but sport isn't fun ):

Lol! That was just an example... I just meant that it impresses me when people faced with multiple commitments are able to balance their time. I guess it's because it's something I'd like to improve about myself... for me I feel that my commitments are a trade-off and that my grades suffer given my choice to work and play sport and socialise and all that. People who seem to supercede that trade-off entirely and excel... they're pretty damn amazing.

[Yacoubb]

Now,  if that isn't jealousy (by your classmates) I don't know what is.

Saddest thing is some of them are actually my very close friends! But I just shrug it off and now say VH (very high) instead of my actual mark.

[pi]

Why even say your actual mark? I tend to say "I did alright, managed to pass haha" and move on, rarely asking what someone else got unless I've been asked first.

[simpak]

Yeah I usually ask people "how did you go" vaguely, and if they offer up a mark I will disclose my own so it doesn't seem like I'm being all yucky and snoopy without offering up my own private information...but I usually wouldn't walk up to people and be like "hey guys how did you go on the exam I got 200%" because that kind of invites that level of competitiveness/braggery/defensiveness from others.
Just an eg. and all I only got 200% that one time but you get what I'm saying.

[brenden]

I say "are you happy with your mark?", mostly so I can provide hi-fives if the answer is yes, and evaluate if someone might need to talk if the answer is no.

[Fyrefly]

     its because of the fact that people admire students who seemingly do no work and still ace their schooling which drives others to put up this facade of doing no work. I don't think its right that people who work hard should be put down or their achievements undermined.
In the rare occasion that I do beat my friends in SACs, they would downgrade it by claiming that I had to work 24/7 for it whereas they had sport, work etc.etc.   Why do they put so much emphasis on achieving success with no work?

I would never put down someone for working hard... that's not what I was trying to say...

• I think students who pretend they don't study but really do are victims of peer pressure and/or the social constructs of their environment, and I kind of feel sorry for them.
• I don't particularly admire lazy students who coast through... there usually comes a time for these people when raw talent no longer suffices.
• I admire people who work hard, whether or not they achieve high results. I'd pick someone hard-working over someone with raw talent yet no drive every single time.
• I greatly admire people who have multiple commitments, work hard to manage these commitments and succeed. To me, this represents hard work plus enviable time management skills.
  

I know for certain that if I were to take up work or what not, my grades would surely plummet...so yeh.

Same... if I work more hours, my grades go down. That's why I envy and respect people with leet time management skills whom can handle working lots of hours and still get good grades.