Haha! This is also something I rather struggle with.
But I'll try explaining, see if it makes sense.
Just one thing to remember, because the further maths exam would use both terminology to confuse you (that's what I've experienced for the practice exams anyway). 1. Maximum flow = minimum cut.
2. The cut MUST separate SOURCE from SINK. If the cut just slaps the edges but it doesn't create a clear distinction between Source/Sink, then it would not work, nor will it be added.
3. Here's a bit hard to explain, so blame me if you don't get it: If the flow on one of the edges is against the flow from source to sink (eg: going from RIGHT to left), then it is not correct. If it's the simple version, it should be obvious as it flows backwards.
Or, how my teacher puts it:
If the source of the activity is LEFT of the cut, it is added.
If the source of activity is RIGHT of the cut, not added.