The people you are replying to are also doing PhDs. It's quite possible that the process varies between universities. I don't think it's necessary to get so worked up about it.
I think you may have misunderstood my point. Recognising that things are not the same across the board was what I was arguing in favour of.
I was in no way invalidating their experiences as inaccurate - rather, I was arguing that the process does, in fact, vary between universities, faculties and people, and that my experience and the experience of others in my faculty and university ought not to be invalidated. Mostly, though, because I think it's unfair to sell a PhD experience to a prospective candidate as something with a guaranteed stream of income. I want Crescendo to apply for a PhD by all means if he or she wants the experience, because it's great - but also not to be misled into thinking that they don't need to look at a range of options about where their funding and income will come from.