Your #1 and #2 questions are actually more related than you might think. In the text under #1, you make reference to the current traveling down the axon. This is actually a crucial idea behind understanding a refractory state or refractoryness. Current can only move down (and not back up) the axon because channels are made refractory. It is key to understand that refractory is a
third state for these pumps. You have opened - self explanatory, you have closed and you have refractory. Closed channels can be opened again, its just like locking your door - put the right key in and it'll open again. Refractory channels cannot be opened, this would be like filling your lock full of superglue or cement. It is impossible for them to be opened. They first must pass back into a closed state and then they can be opened again.
Channels that were previously activated become refractory, they are unable to be opened. Current can not "backfire" or travel back up due to this. Ahead of the current are closed channels, yes they are closed but with the right key, they will be opened. For all intents and purposes, the refractory channels before the current are glued shut (for a time, until they become closed).
Here are some more picture i made which may illustrate it further for you. I think the key realisation that needs to be made is that refractory is a third distinct state with special properties, it is different to a closed state.

An AP comes along, closed channels are opened and current starts to move...

Only closed [
NOT refractory] channels can be opened. The
(closed) channels
ahead of the current pulse can be opened, the
refractory channels
behind it cannot.
