Have you kept your friends?

[Joseph41]

I was thinking about this today.

If you're in high school at the moment, are you still in contact with your friends from primary school (if applicable)?
If you're in uni at the moment, are you still in contact with your friends from high school (if applicable)?

I'm not exactly close friends with any of my friends from primary school. There are a couple with whom I'm on decent terms as acquaintances, but like, never really speak with.

High school is a little different, but I'm honestly surprised how little contact I have with my high school friends (although my girlfriend went to the same school, so it's not like I'm detached from that period entirely haha).

I practically made no friends at uni.

A few people aside, basically all of my close friends now are from ATAR Notes lol. How about y'all?

[Aqualim]

I catch up with high school friends maybe once a year, other friends are people I work with.

[Aaron]

* I have lost quite a number of friends from high school. I was in Year 12 five years ago now and I only probably keep in contact with around 2 or 3 people. Some of them I have lost contact with due to the fact that they have had different priorities in life compared to me (e.g. children, career-focused, not-so-pleasant activities). A friendship is definitely tested once you leave the confines of the school environment.

* During my undergrad, I made a few friends who I still keep in contact with (similar personalities and interests). Some I have lost contact with as they were international students who returned to their home countries after they completed their degree.

* During my MTeach I think the people I communicate with are more on a networking level rather than a personal friendship level. We help each other out and talk about uni, but apart from that, not much.

I think as time goes on, it is much more difficult to make and retain friendships. My friendship group at the moment is quite small - but I really enjoy it like this because I know they're all genuine

[sweetiepi]

This is really weird but I still keep in contact with quite a few peeps from both the primary schools I went too.

High school wise- even though it's been a while since I've seen most of them- I do still make the effort to make plans and catch up with most of them and I speak to quite a few at least a few days a week haha.

Uni- Not even midsem yet, I'm not giving an opinion on that (although my cohort is super small- all my uni friends went to schools in/around my area, so we have a 6-degrees-of-separation deal going on)

[Coffee]

I'm not in touch with anyone from primary school. Most of my friends were in grade 5 when I was in grade 6, so once I graduated that was it. It's a shame, really, because I definitely do still think about them.

As far as high school goes, I'm still in touch with my best friend- we see each other almost weekly but it can be hard since we're at different universities. I also see another good friend from high school. She left a couple years before me, so she's obviously in a much different stage of her life (working full-time), so we don't see each other as much, generally once a month or so. That's it though, I've lost contact with all my other friends, as has my best friend- the group has very much 'broken up' since school finished.

[babushka818]

actually feeling this thread massively right now.. most of my friends from primary school came to high school with me, I have other people on facebook but never really spoke to any of them apart from those who came to my HS.

mostly technological issues, but my phone has very little storage so I got rid of all my snapchat, viber, whatsapp communications.. my close high school group was only really in contact through whatsapp so I lost contact with most of them since starting uni. only one of my high school friends came to Monash with me and she knows my atarnotes friends now too, but apart from that I lost touch with basically everyone from my school life except this girl who I see at uni and my best friend since the 4th grade (who I still only text like every fortnight).

I don't think I really made any friends at uni, there's no one I message about non-academic stuff in my course, I didn't join any societies, I don't like being around people in my breaks at uni.. the only people I talk to anymore are people from atarnotes.. which is weird but pleasant, because though I've never met half of my AN friends, they seem to be all I really have these days and I never really thought they'd be as important to me as they are..

so hey if anyone wants to be friends hit me up <3

[Coffee]

the only people I talk to anymore are people from atarnotes.. which is weird but pleasant, because though I've never met half of my AN friends, they seem to be all I really have these days and I never really thought they'd be as important to me as they are..

so hey if anyone wants to be friends hit me up <3

It's funny because I definitely feel that way too. I sometimes talk to people from AN more than I talk to my real-life friends. Even though I haven't met a lot of them, I still feel like I have a pretty good support system. It just goes to show that online friends can be just as good as offline friends!

P.S. You can hit me up any time. <3

[Joseph41]

^This is why I love ATAR Notes so gosh darn much.

[babushka818]

It's funny because I definitely feel that way too. I sometimes talk to people from AN more than I talk to my real-life friends. Even though I haven't met a lot of them, I still feel like I have a pretty good support system. It just goes to show that online friends can be just as good as offline friends!

P.S. You can hit me up any time. <3

sighs, actually suffering acute loneliness because i feel like i have no actual friends in any form :/ just...acquaintances. (i know this probably isn't the case it just feels like it because i never talk to or see anyone on a casual basis)..

thanks <3 meet up at uni on thursday??

[Coffee]

sighs, actually suffering acute loneliness because i feel like i have no actual friends in any form :/ just...acquaintances. (i know this probably isn't the case it just feels like it because i never talk to or see anyone on a casual basis)..

thanks <3 meet up at uni on thursday??

Don't worry, I feel you! Uni can feel very lonely, I don't see anyone on a regular basis either.

Wednesday would be best but I can do Thursday if it works better for you. Haha, should we brace the campus centre and grab lunch? (It's always so busy )

[elysepopplewell]

My closest group of High School friends are still all really close now. Perhaps even closer than we once were, but I'm only two years out of High School!

As for primary school friends:
My two best best friends...one lives in Melbourne and we've lost touched entirely, and the other now lives in Canberra with her baby. So my two besties left the state! Admittedly, I don't know if we'd all be so close still even if we stayed in NSW, but we'll never know

[babushka818]

Don't worry, I feel you! Uni can feel very lonely, I don't see anyone on a regular basis either.

Wednesday would be best but I can do Thursday if it works better for you. Haha, should we brace the campus centre and grab lunch? (It's always so busy )

friends <3 I actually am not going on wednesday, all my lecures are cancelled for study, but thursday would be preferable because I have a midsem on that day so after that would be nice to chill

[HopefulLawStudent]

LOL I'm still best friends with the girl I was best friends with in the second grade even though I switched schools the year after that. Legit we went through every form of technology you could probs think of: phone calls, letters, emails, Facebook. We still regularly talk...

Beyond that, I'm still close with one or two people from the primary school I graduated from and a couple with high school.

Tbh I think this quote quite correctly summarises my experiences thus far:

"Everyone you meet has a part to play in your story. And while some may take a chapter, others a paragraph, and most will be no more than scribbled notes in the margins, someday, you'll meet someone who will become so integral to your life, you'll put their name in the title." - some dude.

[spectroscopy]

yea, i feel like an outlier but my whole high school cohort are still reasonably in touch with each other.

by that i mean, almost all of the friendship groups of 5-15 people in my year 12 cohort still hang out amongst their group, and larger groups made up of 2-3 of those 5-15person groups, still get together as well like once every month or two for some reason.

it might be because i went to a selective entry high school where the cohorts are super tight, and a bunch of my high school friends came to my uni (around 80 from my year level), but i am still very attached to my high school friends more so than any other friendship group. in the average fortnight i would say i have seen/hung out with around 20 people easily from high school at one point or another, and when there is a big birthday party or a music event alot of people are keen for, it can easily be 80 in a day/night. these arent the same 20 people every week/fortnight either, like maybe 10 or so of my closest friends ill see weekly and then the other 10 would be people im friends with but not super actively (maybe only tag each other in a meme once a week but we hang out at uni if we have matching breaks).  it might be because we have lots of group chats and group snapchats and things so we stay in each others lives pretty well but yeah.
usually if im at uni and im by myself after a class ill message all the group chats saying "whose at uni" and hang out with whoever replies.

i really think its important to keep up with friends. going from lots of active friends to very few is a very sad thing and can get quite lonesome. even super duper introverted people i know still feel it important to hang out with the group when they can. easier than making new friends HAHA

EDIT: grammar and spelling and clarity

[tashhhaaa]

yes and no

in terms of primary school friends no except for a couple because they incidentally went to my HS (well a lot of my primary school people went to my HS) but we only became friends later in HS

I have one friend who I've known since primary, same HS and now same uni which is pretty cool

my school wasn't 'academic' and it didn't have a 'strong' cohort so only 5 people from my cohort go to UoM, 3 of which were part of my high school friendship group and I still see two of them when we have the same break or whatever (rare)
the other never unfortunately probs bc of conflicting schedules. The rest of my HS group still talk in our old group chat sometimes but we're all doing different things so we don't see each other

in my 2 and a half semesters at uni thus far I've made a couple of friends per semester from some tute, but then when the semester was done we stopped seeing each other :S tbh this semester I haven't really made any new friends other than some acquaintances but I'm basically never at uni since I have 2 days off (working instead) and I only do 3 subjects

a weird thing that has happened is my old tute friends hitting me up out of the blue and then I reply and they never reply back??? like why did you message me??? lol am I missing something

this is way longer than I intended but I want to get more social at uni but idk how, not sure what clubs to join either