Does love cause intimacy, or does intimacy cause love?

[Wales]

I certainly love a lot more people than the number with whom I'm intimate.

Same here. Love 3. Intimate 0.

[jamonwindeyer]

Same here. Love 3. Intimate 0.

I'm one of those three right?

But nah this is a really interesting discussion, the idea of whether love comes as a side effect of knowing someone deeply and intimately. But then, would you let someone know you that deeply and intimately if you didn't love them? Humans are secretive creatures, after all...

[brenden]

I'm one of those three right?

But nah this is a really interesting discussion, the idea of whether love comes as a side effect of knowing someone deeply and intimately. But then, would you let someone know you that deeply and intimately if you didn't love them? Humans are secretive creatures, after all...

But then if love precedes intimacy... doesn't that threaten our ideas of what love is supposed to be?

[heids]

But then if love precedes intimacy... doesn't that threaten our ideas of what love is supposed to be?

What are your ideas about what love is supposed to be?

[brenden]

What are your ideas about what love is supposed to be?

Based on something meaningful and non-arbitrary. (Speaking for society)

[Joseph41]

Based on something meaningful and non-arbitrary. (Speaking for society)

Can love be non-reciprocal?

[brenden]

Can love be non-reciprocal?

I see what you're setting me up for and I LOVE IT.

Intuitively, yes. Upon consideration, maybe that's just obsession?

[heids]

I see what you're setting me up for and I LOVE IT.

but does it love you ooooo

[Wales]

Can love be non-reciprocal?

I think so.

See: Yeats

Jokes aside, one can love somebody and want to help them without being given back the same. That's going by my definition of love though.

[elysepopplewell]

I think so.

See: Yeats

Jokes aside, one can love somebody and want to help them without being given back the same. That's going by my definition of love though.

I'm loving your HSC references on the general discussion boards today haha.

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To answer, I think you can be intimate with someone without loving them. I think you can love someone without being intimate with them. BUT, if we are talking about a romantic love, then I think my response changes a bit.

[brenden]

I'm loving your HSC references on the general discussion boards today haha.

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To answer, I think you can be intimate with someone without loving them. I think you can love someone without being intimate with them. BUT, if we are talking about a romantic love, then I think my response changes a bit.

Definitely talking about romantic love.

[elysepopplewell]

I think I can testify to being intimate with someone without being in romantic love with them.

[brenden]

I think I can testify to being intimate with someone without being in romantic love with them.

Hahahaha yes, well. I'm sure intimacy can certainly lead to distaste xD

[Wales]

I think I can testify to being intimate with someone without being in romantic love with them.

Definitely.

I think it's through intimacy individuals are able to begin the process of love, whether it be unrequited or mutual. I really do love discussing and thinking about is. I really do..

[elysepopplewell]

Hahahaha yes, well. I'm sure intimacy can certainly lead to distaste xD

I'm laughing out loud. I didn't actually mean that, but, well, yeah...

I mean, I can be intimate with someone in both an emotional and physical sense before being romantically in love with them. In fact, I could be intimate with someone in the knowledge I may never be in love with them. I don't anticipate love when intimacy begins.