What do you wish to be more socially acceptable in society?

[appleandbee]

I wish it was more socially acceptable to never having experienced familial bonds, not knowing what having a family is like or being maternally deprived. Yes, people in this position go through through cycles of loss and pain everyday, but being made to feel like a deficient  or a 'less wholesome/good' person is clearly unnecessary. Societal narratives (I also think that people with good intentions do it unconsciously to some extent) that claim that having a family/familial bonds are so important to the point that it's shapes you as a person and it's fundamental to the most intrinsic human qualities/traits (eg.empathy), make people who hasn't experienced such things feel like a deficient and less 'developed' person. Also when I tell people (when they talk about having kids/family in the future) that maybe I haven't thought about having kids or a serious romantic partner due to personal experiences (I just never saw having a family as a thing to aspire to probably because I never knew what it was like to have those things), I get told 'sorry to hear that, hopefully that changes', as though the way I've formulated my worldviews and developed as an individual from my experiences is wrong. The way people developed or learn from experiences such as maternal deprivation and loss are equally as valuable.

[brenden]

I fucking love this thread.

[good_stuff]

Bodily hair, makeup and I suppose the whole keeping-up-appearances thing in general.

Society is so worked up about being COMPLETELY hairless, when bodies are meant to grow it! I know I'm a hypocrite as well, since I'm fine when it's on me but when I see other it still seems weird? We're so used to seeing these hairless, flawless body parts that we're rejecting our own bodies. It's like seeing those weird but oddly charming hairless dogs (idk where im going) with this.
Although I do understand when people want to dress up and get all ~fancy~

anyway!

[good_stuff]

...at any party I go to if everyone else is drunk I just go along with it and act drunk haha just wish people realised you don't need to drink to have a good time 

I DO THIS!! Acting drunk is part of the fun imo lol

[Calebark]

I wish it was more socially acceptable to never having experienced familial bonds, not knowing what having a family is like or being maternally deprived. Yes, people in this position go through through cycles of loss and pain everyday, but being made to feel like a deficient  or a 'less wholesome/good' person is clearly unnecessary. Societal narratives (I also think that people with good intentions do it unconsciously to some extent) that claim that having a family/familial bonds are so important to the point that it's shapes you as a person and it's fundamental to the most intrinsic human qualities/traits (eg.empathy), make people who hasn't experienced such things feel like a deficient and less 'developed' person. Also when I tell people (when they talk about having kids/family in the future) that maybe I haven't thought about having kids or a serious romantic partner due to personal experiences (I just never saw having a family as a thing to aspire to probably because I never knew what it was like to have those things), I get told 'sorry to hear that, hopefully that changes', as though the way I've formulated my worldviews and developed as an individual from my experiences is wrong. The way people developed or learn from experiences such as maternal deprivation and loss are equally as valuable.

Definitely agree here. I (and others) shouldn't be made to feel less developed because I didn't have proper parental figures growing up. I feel this is especially important with the whole 'BOYS NEED A FATHER FIGURE' vibe constantly getting thrown around.

Haha this is legit 100% me. Just got home from a party but luckily some of my mates have a soccer final tomorrow so had to stay sober! I have never drunk and so at any party I go to if everyone else is drunk I just go along with it and act drunk haha just wish people realised you don't need to drink to have a good time 

Maybe the best way would be to show people you CAN have fun without being drunk (i.e. not acting drunk) (I hope that didn't sound mean, haha, certainly not intended!)

[dancing phalanges]

I DO THIS!! Acting drunk is part of the fun imo lol

It's fun watching drunk people haha when i came to the party tonight my mate was absolutely fucked and instead of just greeting me normally decided to lick me on the neck yep alright haha

[sudodds]

It's fun watching drunk people haha when i came to the party tonight my mate was absolutely fucked and instead of just greeting me normally decided to lick me on the neck yep alright haha

wait is licking people on the neck as a greeting NOT socially acceptable??!?

[strawberries]

I did not even know half these things were even socially unacceptable...

[Calebark]

wait is licking people on the neck as a greeting NOT socially acceptable??!?

Is this why you want more dogs in cafes? So you feel more at home?

Edit: Oh, hair length. Nothing wrong with a woman having short hair and nothing wrong with a guy having long hair. Source: am a guy with long hair

[heids]

Males showing emotion.

[Joseph41]

Males showing emotion.

+1.

Females being strong (without being "bossy", "emotional" or "a bitch").

[Calebark]

Males showing emotion.

MY LARGE, RED, BOLDED, IMPACT FONT SYMBOLISES MY EMOTIONAL AGREEMENT WITH THIS STATEMENT

legit tho, used to get punished as a kid for crying. not cool. happened to others I know too, so not an isolated incident. i'm also writing this without capital letters so it feels more casual when I share, y'know.

[Wales]

Males showing emotion.

I don't think that's entirely unacceptable as of now. Recently got told off by a friend for not showing enough emotion. It really depends on those who you spend your time around, and if somebody will judge me for showing emotion as a male I wouldn't want to be associated with them anyway.

Still heavy stigmatisation around boys crying seen as "weak" which is completely wrong. Hopefully it changes.

[EEEEEEP]

Introvertedness =)

If only being an introvert was more socially acceptable, then I wouldn't have to fake being social xD.

[Joseph41]

I don't think that's entirely unacceptable as of now.

Still heavy stigmatisation around boys crying seen as "weak" which is completely wrong. Hopefully it changes.

Seems like it is to me.