New Year Resolutions 2018

[Joseph41]

Coffee, with yoga, do you just do it at home? Where's a good place to start (like, right from the beginning start), do you think?

[Mada438]

Also, ditto re: making friends.

I think we could all make more friends, don't you think? 

[achre]

If this year has taught me anything it's that I need to learn when to say no, so I'm going to commit to not committing myself to too many things in 2018

[Joseph41]

If this year has taught me anything it's that I need to learn when to say no, so I'm going to commit to not committing myself to too many things in 2018

Great one. Really like this.

[Coffee]

Coffee, with yoga, do you just do it at home? Where's a good place to start (like, right from the beginning start), do you think?

I do it at home but when I was first starting out I went to classes. If you want to start at home, Yoga with Adrienne on Youtube is a good place to start. I know a lot of people start practising at home first, so I don’t think one way is necessarily better than another. I do think you should go to a class at some point though, either from the very beginning, or once you’ve built up some confidence at home. This is mainly because you need a teacher who can correct your posture and make sure you’re getting into positions properly. It really is easy to hurt yourself, so best not to pick up any bad habits!

If you’re looking for classes, I’d recommend Jessica Dewar Yoga. That’s where I started. They’re based in Camberwell and work on a pay-as-you-feel policy, so they’re pretty inexpensive if money is an issue.

[clarke54321]

So that you can look back on it in a year, what are your present thoughts?

Hmm....it's still quite difficult to say. I wouldn't rule out the Juris Doctor, and a future career in law (not necessarily as a lawyer). But at the same time, journalism has always appealed to me. So perhaps a fusion between the pair?

[Gogo14]

My goal is to start a business, travel, do a project with my friends and develop independence. Bit ambitious and expensive, but we'll see

[zhen]

My goal is to start a business, travel, do a project with my friends and develop independence. Bit ambitious and expensive, but we'll see

What type of business are you planning on starting? Also, what project with your friends are you planning on doing?

[AngelWings]

2018 - the year of self-development for me. Hopefully in at least three different aspects: personality, life skills (including maintaining health) and career-wise.

[zofromuxo]

2017: Getting involved in extracurricular (Unions, Committees, Leadership roles, Volunteering, etc) Success
Reading more books Success
Getting a job Fail

2018: No more yearly ones
I have noticed that I don't have the motivation to commit to a multiple "major" goals for the whole year. So instead i've decided to do a resolution each month focusing on one specific goal.
I hope this does the following:
a) Keeps me motivated to achieve it due to the shorter time-span to make it succeed
b) I'm more likely to fix issues/shortcomings and/or overcome obstacles as i'm only doing it for a month, so I may as well try to achieve it
c) I can try my hand at different things. I've always had a knack for switching the new year resolution because I find so many other things I want to achieve. This then creates a spiraling vortex of goals and me trying to do them all = Nothing ever gets achieved. The book called Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less is a nice read on this topic of "Less, but better"

As for what they are, well. I would love to tell you, but i'm one of these people: The people who don't get the goal achieved, when they tell people what their goal is.<= A nice short video to watch, if you struggle achieving your goals.

Good luck to everyone, I hope you become the 9% that achieve their resolution

[beatroot]

- I need to exercise more. I'm so sick of having to walk to the bus stop and upon arrival, my heart beats really fast and I need to drink 10 litres of water to recover. How does one stay committed to going to the gym or staying fit in general? I need to eat healthy too (this probably won't happen knowing me)
- I want to be more outgoing next year, seeing that I'll be starting uni in 2018. I want to make new friends and be more confident in social situations. Though I would definitely like to be in touch with my high school friends. There's like five of them, so hopefully all goes well and we'll be friends for a long time
- I want to be more confident in customer service because I want to stop relying on my co-workers for help and ensure that all my customers get the best customer service. I'm not just representing myself, but I am representing my company.
- Say 'YES' to more things
- Lastly, ask for help when I need it. I need to stop holding in things. It's not healthy.

[K888]

- I need to exercise more. I'm so sick of having to walk to the bus stop and upon arrival, my heart beats really fast and I need to drink 10 litres of water to recover. How does one stay committed to going to the gym or staying fit in general? I need to eat healthy too (this probably won't happen knowing me)

Depends on the sort of exercise that you like, but I've always found playing a team sport more enjoyable than solo exercise, and team sports are great for helping you stay committed (can just be a social thing, too, and not too serious!). The fact that you have set training times/match times really helps because then you can plan stuff around the exercise rather than having to plan the exercise around stuff. You also make friends, and you generally have someone telling you what to do so you don't necessarily have to plan out a session like you would if you were just going to a gym.
Otherwise, I always liked exercising with people, so see if you can organise doing stuff with friends. You might be suffering, but at least you'll be suffering together

Keeping at it is really all about mindset and willpower. The first while of getting some fitness can be hellish, but when you see yourself making gains, you start to feel good about it. Plus, it's generally your mind that will give up before your body does.

Just making small changes really adds up Also, getting someone to help you start change - whether that be an exercise physiologist, a personal trainer, a dietician or whatever can be really helpful. You don't have to do it all yourself.

[beatroot]

Depends on the sort of exercise that you like, but I've always found playing a team sport more enjoyable than solo exercise, and team sports are great for helping you stay committed (can just be a social thing, too, and not too serious!). The fact that you have set training times/match times really helps because then you can plan stuff around the exercise rather than having to plan the exercise around stuff. You also make friends, and you generally have someone telling you what to do so you don't necessarily have to plan out a session like you would if you were just going to a gym.
Otherwise, I always liked exercising with people, so see if you can organise doing stuff with friends. You might be suffering, but at least you'll be suffering together

Keeping at it is really all about mindset and willpower. The first while of getting some fitness can be hellish, but when you see yourself making gains, you start to feel good about it. Plus, it's generally your mind that will give up before your body does.

Just making small changes really adds up Also, getting someone to help you start change - whether that be an exercise physiologist, a personal trainer, a dietician or whatever can be really helpful. You don't have to do it all yourself.

Thanks so much for this! I used to play badminton around April to July this year with my friends but stopped because of HSC Trials . I would play badminton with them again but I'm no longer friends with them (yay for post HSC life!). I'll definitely try to convince my other friends to come exercise with me but they are lazy ahaha. I'll try and use the Zumba wii game at home for starters. Is it worth getting a gym membership? I prefer exercising on my own (if it's dancing or swimming) Though if I go to the gym, I need to find a gym buddy ASAP because at least I'll have someone to suffer with How do you set realistic goals when exercising?

[Juliesokha]

2018 goals:
- Read lots of books & discover more good musics
- Get my first job
- Get a driving license (I'm scared but I'm definitely going to confront it)
- Complete my first year of uni without going insane (hopefully! fingers and toes crossed!!)
- Be healthier and happier!

[peterpiper]

I'm going to make it hard for myself and say that I hope to lock target on poor lonesome passerby make at least one friend who seems to have no other friend at uni next year and stick onto them like super glue and ishiguro never let them go hahahahahahhahahah *maliciously slides away in supine position*

No I'm kidding. That's what I would've said early this year. What I really want is: to become a more patient person, and to not always expect results straight away. I never realised how impatience took away my ability to actually derive the fulness of meaning from my immediate experiences. Good things happen as time builds up. Friends will come and go, and that's perfectly natural for anyone including myself. We only have moments. All I need to do is to be patient with everything and I'll make a greater and more positive difference, and I'll hopefully be able to share some really special things with people who may or may not stick around. The important thing is that I would be there for it.

In a slightly different and less personal vein, I'm also going to make a huge effort in going to the gym (I dare you to quote this to me this time round next year) and build some upper body strength because I'm really weak in the arms and cannot lift heavy things to save my life like my bag which carries all my books from libraries (aghh). So yeah, it would be practical if I could get just physically stronger in that respect, but that said, I'd also have to find some mindful purpose for doing it other than strength to continue the habit in the long-run (knowing my temperament). Something probably along the lines of I'll die and none of my physique/looks will have mattered but at least in the time when I was able, I could lift chairs and heavy stuff and help around the garage when it was needed and triumphantly break no sweat over doing it...or something like that.

Maybe try dancing since I'm heavy-footed as hell (I want to improve ), but I'm not too sure which dance style tbh.

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I think I did well this year. I sussed out a lot of the 'who I am' questions, and I'm completely satisfied with the way I'm handling strong emotions. While some days I feel horrible (always going to happen) and it feels like I'm going to break down and collapse onto the floor and never get up, I've found time and time again that I can pass through the episode fine and dandy, and still maintain healthy relationships with everyone around me. I'm less horrible as a person (a spectacular breakthrough), and I've become a lot more accommodating, more able to let go of my critical judgments and more willing to embrace diversity in the department of opinions and values even if it conflicts with my own. I'm also less deceiving and less emotionally manipulative and vacant. I'm also a better judge of situations and what they require now. Good things do happen people. Good and positive things (yeah!)

Next year will involve a lot of learning, but I also hope it will be a year when I can finally share special things with other people outside of my rather current introspective world, as this year has been all about, really. But, if that doesn't happen, passing through the year will be just as equally good as any outcome there is. And if I die, then eurghh that totally sucks. If the afterlife existed, I'd feel just about as robbed as a five-time oscar nominee, but - nevermind - I'm peering into next year with a bright and slightly more realistic optimism