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Friend(s) being a distraction?
« on: December 21, 2010, 02:19:59 pm »
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You may think I'm worrying about it a bit to early but one of my best friends is a real distraction to me in class.. And my other friends think I should do something about it too but I don't know what.
She's constantly yelling out simple things like 'whats the molar mass of magnesium?', 'whats 8 times 4?': simple questions that can be answered if she thought about it for a second. And I am a really easily distracted student who is constantly losing focus due to her random questions that come literally every minute or so =_=
I was only in year 11 this year so I didn't care so much but year 12 will be a big year and I don't want her to get in my way. I don't know if I sound very selfish or anything right now but it's been really bugging me and I don't know what to do. I mean.. I'm happy to help her and all but she's taking it too far. And although I'm the only one she asks all the time, the people around us get annoyed at it too. Thought I could ask you guys for some advice :)

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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #1 on: December 21, 2010, 02:25:02 pm »
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I also get distracted fairly easily and also have some friends who act in a similar manner (unfortunately). My strategy is go to the front row very time in class, if my friend acts like an idiot, then the teacher will move him (for me, I guess). The strategy worked for me in the last few weeks of semester 2 (when I thought of it) and I think it is a good way to approach the problem. Hope it helps.

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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #2 on: December 21, 2010, 02:25:51 pm »
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Tell her to STHU, you need to focus, it's year 12.

If she's really your best friend, she should understand and stop her disruptive behaviour.

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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #3 on: December 21, 2010, 02:28:01 pm »
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I've tried telling her to like wait til i finish my question and stuff but she's just like.. 'You never help me you always do things on your own'

and she's not one of those people who act like an idiot cos she actually works and she always sits front row - next to me. The thing is her working is costing the people around her their concentration
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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #4 on: December 21, 2010, 02:35:43 pm »
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I've tried telling her to wait and stuff but she's just like.. 'You never help me you always do things on your own'

and she's not one of those people who act like an idiot cos she actually works and she always sits front row - next to me. The thing is her working is costing the people around her their concentration

Don't ever let anyoneeee in Year 12 that it's your responsibility to help them pass. Tell her that school is really important to you and that she's something along the lines of 'too much fun'. Worked for me because in a way it's kinda flattering. Then just sit away from her.

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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #5 on: December 21, 2010, 02:40:02 pm »
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I've tried telling her to wait and stuff but she's just like.. 'You never help me you always do things on your own'

and she's not one of those people who act like an idiot cos she actually works and she always sits front row - next to me. The thing is her working is costing the people around her their concentration

Don't ever let anyoneeee in Year 12 that it's your responsibility to help them pass. Tell her that school is really important to you and that she's something along the lines of 'too much fun'. Worked for me because in a way it's kinda flattering. Then just sit away from her.


Get a teacher to tell her to stfu. Third party.
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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #6 on: December 21, 2010, 02:40:20 pm »
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Get a teacher to tell her to stfu. Third party.

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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #7 on: December 21, 2010, 02:44:13 pm »
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Don't ever let anyoneeee in Year 12 that it's your responsibility to help them pass. Tell her that school is really important to you and that she's something along the lines of 'too much fun'. Worked for me because in a way it's kinda flattering. Then just sit away from her.

Seconded.

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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #8 on: December 21, 2010, 02:50:53 pm »
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I hate people like that.. (unfortunately 98% of my school..)
The best way to deal with this is to kind of not TELL her to do anything, but you have to sort of act really annoyed.
Ex.
Your friend: " O_O' TAN Whats 8+1 again? "
In your response, you have to act annoyed, and sort of hint that she's an idiot (it's mean, but necessary)
You: "*Annoyed face, demeaning tone.* Lets see, add the 12, carry the five, divide by 0.. oh yea, 8+1 is 9"

Your in a tricky situation, I imagine you still want to be friend with her, so telling her is going to be pretty hard.
If the above approach doesn't work, just try ignoring the really basic and silly questions.
If she's asking for the molar mass of magnesium, just tell her how to obtain the answer (i.e "check the periodic table")
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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #9 on: December 21, 2010, 02:52:42 pm »
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Maybe you can sort of adapt your study habits to counteract her behaviour. Like going, through the topics/similar problems that will be discussed/completed in class at home or recess. Then when you do learn topics/problems in class you won't be so distracted because you would have already been familiar with the topics/class problems to a degree and your friend will be less distracting. Also, don't forget, having someone who has trouble understanding concepts/problems may also be beneficial to you in that you'll be able to help her with her questions. Helping others in class is also a good opportunity for you to have someone to explain stuff to and doing this will benefit both you and your cohort! :)

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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #10 on: December 21, 2010, 02:53:07 pm »
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Ex.
Your friend: " O_O' TAN Whats 8+1 again? "
In your response, you have to act annoyed, and sort of hint that she's an idiot (it's mean, but necessary)
You: "*Annoyed face, demeaning tone.* Lets see, add the 12, carry the five, divide by 0.. oh yea, 8+1 is 9"

lol, I'm going to try that! "divide by 0"  ;D

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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #11 on: December 21, 2010, 02:54:26 pm »
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Yeah that's what I always do, tell her to check the periodic table but she keeps asking.. and yeah telling is going to be hard. I've had a friend actually scream at her and told her shes really annoying but that only quietened for for like a day...

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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #12 on: December 21, 2010, 02:55:24 pm »
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LOL I just noticed the divide by 0 LOLOL.

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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #13 on: December 21, 2010, 03:01:10 pm »
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Yeah that's what I always do, tell her to check the periodic table but she keeps asking.. and yeah telling is going to be hard. I've had a friend actually scream at her and told her shes really annoying but that only quietened for for like a day...

Really, she keeps asking.. Do you think, that your friend may actually be stupid? Like I'm not offending anyone here, but there are people that aren't so bright, or below average/have lower concentration levels etc - nothing wrong with that. But do you think she may be one of those people?
If she is, try to control her sugar intake - although sugar is an essential energy source for the brain, it'll just get her hyped up and she won't concentrate and slip in some omega 3 capsules in her food(which i believe now comes in syrup as well) Encourage her to eat banana, moderately releases the sugar to keep you at your peak at all times without having you go hyperactive. I truly believe diet is the key here
Otherwise, try the annoyed tactic..it's gotta sink in some time!
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Re: Friend(s) being a distraction?
« Reply #14 on: December 21, 2010, 03:07:44 pm »
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Yeah that's what I always do, tell her to check the periodic table but she keeps asking.. and yeah telling is going to be hard. I've had a friend actually scream at her and told her shes really annoying but that only quietened for for like a day...

Really, she keeps asking.. Do you think, that your friend may actually be stupid? Like I'm not offending anyone here, but there are people that aren't so bright, or below average/have lower concentration levels etc - nothing wrong with that. But do you think she may be one of those people?
If she is, try to control her sugar intake - although sugar is an essential energy source for the brain, it'll just get her hyped up and she won't concentrate and slip in some omega 3 capsules in her food(which i believe now comes in syrup as well) Encourage her to eat banana, moderately releases the sugar to keep you at your peak at all times without having you go hyperactive. I truly believe diet is the key here
Otherwise, try the annoyed tactic..it's gotta sink in some time!

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AND DON'T SLIP CAPSULES INTO HER FOOD!
If you want to keep her as a friend, getting caught putting things into her food is the last thing you want to do FFS.
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