Perfectionism

[s.ay]

So I know I'm only in year ten, and many consider this year to not count for anything, but I'm a perfectionist.  I get stressed over a test that I know is most probably irrelevant and won't have any bearing on my future, and if I get an A instead of an A+ I beat myself up. Which is ridiculous. I'm guessing I'm not the only person on here that has such perfectionistic tendencies, so I am posing this question; How do you cope? I have been trying to adjust my expectations, but I can't seem to relax. I know focus and determination is a good thing, but it's coming to the point where nothing is ever good enough.
Sorry if this makes no sense and is completely stupid haha.
Thanks guys.

[Lasercookie]

I figure out where I went wrong and why. Then I try and improve on it.

[Interficere]

Just remember that there's nothing you can do to change your mark; the only thing you can do is move on, and do better next time. There's nothing wrong with expecting the best from yourself, but don't beat yourself up over a less-than-perfect mark, because that's just going to waste time. You'd rather spend that time making sure that you're ready for the next test.

Sorry if this is terrible advice, but I'm definitely guilty of this too, to the extent that my teacher will give me full marks and I'll STILL be all, 'oh god, this is the worst thing I've ever written - she never marks me harshly enough.'

[s.ay]

No no its not terrible advice at all. Its definately time consuming and fair more of a hindrence than a help. haha i completely relate to the teacher comment. my english teacher gave me an A++ for an essay that I was tempted to rip up and recycle.
Thanks for the advice

[Camo]

See I have this problem but with my notes. Sometimes the little things really piss me off. I've actually gotten to the point of making no mistakes until 3 pages are done on average.

[s.ay]

ah yes I get that with cue cards. One mistake and into the bin it goes. which is incredibly expensive, considering the amount of note taking I do for psych 

[Thu Thu Train]

I only got 99% on a methods SAC once so I repeated year 12.

[Water]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2OxWD85Ngz4


This is your answer.


Its Subtleties will bring about a profound realization to the answer of your question.

[taiga]

Don't think it's a bad thing purely in terms of academics. Moreso of a concern if you inadvertently belittle the results of others by voicing that attitude

[s.ay]

I only got 99% on a methods SAC once so I repeated year 12.

I think you win.

[s.ay]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2OxWD85Ngz4


This is your answer.


Its Subtleties will bring about a profound realization to the answer of your question.

hahahhaha
thankyou, I didn't think enlightenment came in a 3.26min youtube video.

Don't think it's a bad thing purely in terms of academics. Moreso of a concern if you inadvertently belittle the results of others by voicing that attitude

ah yes very true. I made the mistake today getting annoyed over a score of 86% in a math test in front of my friends. I'm suprised I came away unscathed 

[dinosaurs]

You fell short of A+ on one of your tests?
I would also feel ashamed, honestly I can't comprehend how I'd react to that if it were ever to happen.


... are you serious dude? just tell yourself: "this dosen't mean shit"

[MJRomeo81]

So I know I'm only in year ten, and many consider this year to not count for anything, but I'm a perfectionist.  I get stressed over a test that I know is most probably irrelevant and won't have any bearing on my future, and if I get an A instead of an A+ I beat myself up. Which is ridiculous. I'm guessing I'm not the only person on here that has such perfectionistic tendencies, so I am posing this question; How do you cope? I have been trying to adjust my expectations, but I can't seem to relax. I know focus and determination is a good thing, but it's coming to the point where nothing is ever good enough.
Sorry if this makes no sense and is completely stupid haha.
Thanks guys.

This post describes me basically, and I'm in year 12. However, the thing with me is I only get mad if I screw up something I shouldn't have. I don't mind getting an A+ (albeit dropping a few marks) in legal studies if I hardly studied. But when I miss out on a perfect score by one mark on something that I studied for, and it was a stupid error, that's when I get pissed off.

I don't think there's anything wrong with the approach for high school as long as the 100% or nothing mentality isn't affecting other things in life. Sure, you might be mad for a day or two, but after that things should return to normal.

[REBORN]

But when I miss out on a perfect score by one mark on something that I studied for, and it was a stupid error, that's when I get pissed off.

+infinity. Happened to me today again for my 3/4.

[brightsky]

You fell short of A+ on one of your tests?
I would also feel ashamed, honestly I can't comprehend how I'd react to that if it were ever to happen.


... are you serious dude? just tell yourself: "this dosen't mean shit"

This.