function is strictly decreasing when for every x < y, f(x) > f(y). since it concerns two points, we must look at a specific domain. there is no reason why we need to leave out 9, since 9 < 9 + a, for small positive a, we still have f(9) > f(9 + a), whereas when we take a number lower than 9, say 8, then inequations do not stand. 
hope this makes some sort of sense.
I was going to PM you both but it would be better off if I posted to avoid confusion for others.
 Basically, what brightsky has said is correct; the function is strictly decreasing when for every x < y, f(x) > f(y). Since we normally associate x and y with axis, I'm just going to re-write it the way VCAA does in this bulletin: 
http://www.vcaa.vic.edu.au/correspondence/bulletins/2011/April/2011AprilSup2.pdf (page 3).
A function f is said to be strictly decreasing when a < b implies f(a) > f(b) for all a and b in its domain. A function is said to be strictly decreasing over an interval when a < b implies f(a) > f(b) for all a and b in the interval.
So, if you pick any two points in a given interval, the smaller valued point (which we will call a), will have a greater f(x) value then the bigger valued point (b). 
For your example of x^2, it is actually correct to say that the function is strictly decreasing for (-inf,0), because it still fits that definition. 
However, what VCAA will probably ask you in an exam (as it did in the '09 exam), is "State the interval for which the graph of  f is strictly decreasing.", and in this case, it requires you to state the maximal interval. Therefore, for y=x^2, you would have to say (-inf,0], because no matter which value lower than 0 that you pick, the corresponding y-value will always be higher than the y-value at 0 itself (which is 0). That's why 0 is able to be included, too.
That was probably a little long-winded, but hopefully it makes sense 
