Is anyone else ugly? (Srs)

[sadboy222]

Does anyone else feel like they are really ugly?

It really does suck being ugly. I'm like a 3-4/10 for a guy. Whenever i go out my friends are the ones getting checked out and girls never seem to be drawn to me.

People will say things like "its all about confidence" or "its about personality" or "if you think your ugly others will" but lets be honest thats just like an overweight women saying "men like curvy women"

it sucks being ugly

anyone else know this feeling ?

[Art Vandelay]

what do you think

[availn]

Your friends are playing this love game on easy mode. Man up and join the elites, you don't need the advantage.

[spectroscopy]

beauty is in the eye of the beholder

[lala1911]

beauty is in the eye of the beholder

What if all the beholders dislike ugly people 

[ggxoxo]

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

[spectroscopy]

seriously though, with guys at least, if you think its a real problem that youre ugly, to the point where you feel bad about yourself, figure out what about yourself you think is unappealing eg; acne, weight, hair, clothes, then actively pursue to fix it.
one of my best friends used to get bagged so badly in year 9 for being fat and having pimples, it got to the point in the middle of term 4 that he had enough, then he started using some pimple stuff, and improved his diet, and started going for runs every day, then when school started next year BOOM new person, got his first girlfriend too. usually though (at least with guys) you can fix all your look problems if you just get some nice clothes, get a good haircut, do something about pimples, and make sure you arnt too heavily overweight(you dont need to be ripped)
then after that, confidence becomes important, if you believe it enough yourself everyone else will too !!
i think that applies to girls too but females might have some other factors that im not aware of

but dont let your looks affect you, i know you hear it all the time but seriously, be confident and act natural and hold conversations. being good with words, and not being really awkward is just as important as looking good !

[FlorianK]

Does anyone else feel like they are really ugly?

It really does suck being ugly. I'm like a 3-4/10 for a guy. Whenever i go out my friends are the ones getting checked out and girls never seem to be drawn to me.

People will say things like "its all about confidence" or "its about personality" or "if you think your ugly others will" but lets be honest thats just like an overweight women saying "men like curvy women"

it sucks being ugly

anyone else know this feeling ?

Maybe try to get a makeover. I mean srly all the dudes at Beauty and the Geek come in, being probably at least at your degree of beauty or below (no idea how you look, but maybe similar), and after the makeover most of them are hot. I'm sure nearly every guy can turn himself good looking.

[nubs]

You really don't want to underestimate how important confidence is

Besides, you'd be surprised at how much you can actually change your physical appearance if you eat healthy and exercise. You'll see the effects of it on your face as well as your body.

[thushan]

Does anyone else feel like they are really ugly?

It really does suck being ugly. I'm like a 3-4/10 for a guy. Whenever i go out my friends are the ones getting checked out and girls never seem to be drawn to me.

People will say things like "its all about confidence" or "its about personality" or "if you think your ugly others will" but lets be honest thats just like an overweight women saying "men like curvy women"

it sucks being ugly

anyone else know this feeling ?

Hey mate, I was in your position a while back. I believed that I was inherently an ugly person who would find it impossible to attract a girl. When I talked to friends, there are times when girls check them out, but it never really happened to me either so it made me feel unattractive as a person. I was quite thin, and I believed girls were attracted to muscle and the like. I had posted here before in a "Ragequit" thread that I've (at the time) never had a girlfriend and never got close to having one, and at the time I believed it would never happen because I was just inherently unattractive.

What did I do about this? I went to the gym to build some muscle. Whilst I am now not ripped or anything, I've put on some bulk, and I felt so much better about myself, so much more confident, and I was able to be me. At the same time, I didn't think I was attractive enough for a girl to like me. I was wrong in the case of one girl...and that one girl is now my girlfriend. I had never believed that would ever happen to me. But it did. When I least expected it. And I tell you what - I don't give a rats backside what others think of my appearance. What my girlfriend thinks is all that matters to me.

Sadboy, figure out what you think makes you ugly, and take steps to eliminate that. Work on yourself; it's really rewarding when you work on your appearance and you see yourself as much better looking.

And when those people say "its all about personality" they're actually goddamned right. From what I have learnt, people may or may not be attractive. Irrespective of that, if you are a guy with an amazing personality, you're caring and you're an interesting person to talk to and be with, you'll find that the girl you spend time with will find you attractive, irrespective of what others may think.

Dude, think about it like this. If you're worried about whether we'd judge you on your appearance, you can get rid of that thought. Personally, I don't give a damn about what people look like, so long as they're a good person. I don't even actively do it; it's innate. And if it a girl who likes you/your girlfriend etc. SHE will find you attractive - that's why she is going out with YOU and not the next person. You say - but I will never be able to attract a girl. To that I say - different personalities and different types of people attract different types of girls. Appearance may be a factor (WHICH IS SOMETHING YOU CAN TAKE STEPS TO MASTER!), but if you are a genuine and interesting person, you'll find that the right girl will fall for you hook, like and sinker and will find you attractive, even though some people don't think you do. If those people find you ugly and hound you over it, they can go fuck themselves. Trust me, it will be enough that your girlfriend will find you attractive - and you wouldn't care about what other people think of your appearance, yeah?

So basically - appearance is something you can master, so figure out what makes you ugly, you can always master it mate. Even if you can't do it much, it's not a big deal. Why? Because when people say it's all about personality and confidence, they're actually frigging right.

[Charmz]

I recently discussed a with a friend about how we could find any guy attractive regardless of how he looked. This is really the case, you don't have to have an amazing body or incredible features, if a girl gets to know you, given you are a lovely person with an amazing personality, she isn't going to care what you look like. To her, you may be extremely attractive even if no one else sees it.

It really is about personality, regardless of how attractive someone is, they aren't going to be good looking forever and if a girl is going to value appearance so much, she probably isn't worth it.
When someone falls for someones personality, it accentuates their appearance. Give it time, you may realise there are in fact people who find you attractive for whatever reason. I've known of friends being interested in guys who were overweight and perhaps they weren't the best looking guys either but these guys had amazing personalities and made them laugh.

It really does come down to confidence and personality. Learn to accept yourself and you might find that people do notice you.

[JellyDonut]

just do squats and deadlifts

[nisha]

Thushan, you teabag. I have taught you well:)

[sadboy222]

Hey mate, I was in your position a while back. I believed that I was inherently an ugly person who would find it impossible to attract a girl. When I talked to friends, there are times when girls check them out, but it never really happened to me either so it made me feel unattractive as a person. I was quite thin, and I believed girls were attracted to muscle and the like. I had posted here before in a "Ragequit" thread that I've (at the time) never had a girlfriend and never got close to having one, and at the time I believed it would never happen because I was just inherently unattractive.

What did I do about this? I went to the gym to build some muscle. Whilst I am now not ripped or anything, I've put on some bulk, and I felt so much better about myself, so much more confident, and I was able to be me. At the same time, I didn't think I was attractive enough for a girl to like me. I was wrong in the case of one girl...and that one girl is now my girlfriend. I had never believed that would ever happen to me. But it did. When I least expected it. And I tell you what - I don't give a rats backside what others think of my appearance. What my girlfriend thinks is all that matters to me.

Sadboy, figure out what you think makes you ugly, and take steps to eliminate that. Work on yourself; it's really rewarding when you work on your appearance and you see yourself as much better looking.

And when those people say "its all about personality" they're actually goddamned right. From what I have learnt, people may or may not be attractive. Irrespective of that, if you are a guy with an amazing personality, you're caring and you're an interesting person to talk to and be with, you'll find that the girl you spend time with will find you attractive, irrespective of what others may think.

Dude, think about it like this. If you're worried about whether we'd judge you on your appearance, you can get rid of that thought. Personally, I don't give a damn about what people look like, so long as they're a good person. I don't even actively do it; it's innate. And if it a girl who likes you/your girlfriend etc. SHE will find you attractive - that's why she is going out with YOU and not the next person. You say - but I will never be able to attract a girl. To that I say - different personalities and different types of people attract different types of girls. Appearance may be a factor (WHICH IS SOMETHING YOU CAN TAKE STEPS TO MASTER!), but if you are a genuine and interesting person, you'll find that the right girl will fall for you hook, like and sinker and will find you attractive, even though some people don't think you do. If those people find you ugly and hound you over it, they can go fuck themselves. Trust me, it will be enough that your girlfriend will find you attractive - and you wouldn't care about what other people think of your appearance, yeah?

So basically - appearance is something you can master, so figure out what makes you ugly, you can always master it mate. Even if you can't do it much, it's not a big deal. Why? Because when people say it's all about personality and confidence, they're actually frigging right.

 i have terrible bone / facial structure

only plastic surgery can fix this

[thushan]

What you call "terrible bone and facial structure" a girl who has fallen in love with you would call "cute".