Wearing track suit pants to melb uni?

[notveryasian]

He's clearly trolling
-3rd year uni; would be understandable/plausible if it was 1st year but by the 3rd year...
-the fact that he eats lunch in the toilets has no relevance at all to the topic, but he throws it in anyway (for humour?)
-do you guys honestly believe that he eats lunch in the toilets? It's literally the most illogical place to go to eat lunch, when you could simply leave campus and go to a park/shop (if he didn't want to be seen by other students)

This whole thing just seems ridiculously fishy. I mean, in the pretty much impossible event that this thread is true then I'm sorry, but it's quite clearly fabricated to me.

EDIT: Exhibit A (Image removed from quote.)

Common theme?

I find it appalling that you would just dismiss OP as "clearly trolling" on the basis that what he wrote was implausible. I don't think you understand what a lot of people go through in their day-to-day life, and the struggles they face that make them do "illogical" things as you call it.

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He's clearly trolling
-3rd year uni; would be understandable/plausible if it was 1st year but he's been at uni for 2 whole years already.
-the fact that he eats lunch in the toilets has no relevance at all to the topic, but he throws it in anyway (for humour?)
-do you guys honestly believe that he eats lunch in the toilets? It's literally the most illogical place to go to eat lunch, when you could simply leave campus and go to a park/shop (if he didn't want to be seen by other students)

This whole thing just seems ridiculously fishy. I mean, in the pretty much impossible event that this thread is true then I'm sincerely sorry, but I'm almost certain that it's fabricated.

I suggest that before you post things, you ask yourself if they're necessary.  Even if this thread is trolling, it doesn't harm anyone; whereas your post really can does harm people .  Just be more careful bro.

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True

Thankyou

[Gentoo]

Gotta rock them Adidas trakky daks. (strong correlation between that and fully heqtiqness)

[asianguy22]

Guys i am not trolling. I suffer really bad anxiety and feel like a loner when i sit and eat lunch by myself at uni. I have eaten in toilets/stayed in the toilets before class and sometimes during my breaks because i have no where else to go. Here is a pic i took last year, i painted over my shoes/water bottle so i dont get recognized:

http://i.imgur.com/Wo4gkjn.jpg

[asianguy22]

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[cameronp]

Guys i am not trolling. I suffer really bad anxiety and feel like a loner when i sit and eat lunch by myself at uni.

Hi asianguy22,

It sounds like you're worried about more than just wearing trackpants. A lot of people have anxiety and find it difficult to make friends when they first start uni, but it must be pretty rough if you've been having these problems for a long time now. If you can't quite figure out how to get your life the way you want it to be, and you don't have anyone else you trust to ask for help, it might be worth seeing a professional psychologist.

The University has a counselling service which is free for students, and there shouldn't be much of a wait to get an appointment at this time of year. It's not an instant fix but they should be able to help you with strategies to get through whatever it is that's been getting you down.

[sjayne]

Guys i am not trolling. I suffer really bad anxiety and feel like a loner when i sit and eat lunch by myself at uni. I have eaten in toilets/stayed in the toilets before class and sometimes during my breaks because i have no where else to go.

I have social anxiety and completely understand this!! Which makes staring uni terrifying. I'm not sure what else you've tried doing but I'm planning on joining a couple of clubs and finding a few quiet corners if I end up alone.

[hobbitle]

All I can say is, I hope uni becomes more enjoyable for you. It should be a fun experience but I understand it can be lonely at times. I am very ok with being on my own in public, and can't imagine what you're going through, but one thing my mum always told me was to "look outward". What she meant was that no one cares if you're eating lunch on your own or walking to class alone or what you are wearing. The more you worry about that stuff, the less productive your thoughts are - "look outwards" means to take the opportunity to "see" other people, even if it just means enjoying their interactions with each other or maybe trying to find out the name or have a chat with the guy who makes your coffee. As Cameron said, if you're still struggling, the uni has some really good counselling services. Also, on a sunny day, South Lawn is super pretty to sit and have lunch!

Just wear the trackies. It's uni - no one cares!

[shadows]

From experience, people are too busy worrying about themselves than to judge others- unless you give them a reason to (ie, make a big deal about it ) 

Just wear what you want. If people ask and comment- just simply tell them "I like being comfortable" or something like that,Don't feel the need to justify  because there is nothing to apologise for.

As for finding people to hang out/sit  with at lunch, perhaps you can find someone in one your classes that you feel the least uncomfortable talking to, and just ask. "Doing anything after this? Want to get something to eat"  I know it can be extremely awkward at first but it only takes one person. After that you can build friendships with his/her friends.
 I often suffer from anxiety and it can be a crippling and self destructive cycle, especially if you over-think things and replay worse case scenarios in your head that are 1. 99% not going to happen and 2. If it does happen, what's the worst that can happen? What have you got to lose?

My best piece of advice for anxiety (more like a  general life tip, lol) is not to wait for a better or more ideal time because there won't be one.
When the opportunity presents itself, don't over think it, and just do it.

There's this TED talk which may or maynot help. I found it incredibly inspiring, especially towards the end.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ks-_Mh1QhMc

Remember that the start of a new semester is the perfect time for change. (and that it's never too late)

[katiesaliba]

I suffered from social anxiety all throughout my teens, only recently overcoming it (mostly). Just know that there are a lot of people who, if you approached them to literally just say 'hi', would welcome your presence and enjoy conversing! I know this because if someone came up to me to introduce themselves I would be so happy. Everyone loves making new friends after all! If someone even has the audacity to be rude, then they're seriously not worth your time. It's their loss, not yours. Be confident, because everyone is unique and special in their own way. No one has the right to make anyone else feel unworthy.

[vox nihili]

Everyone here has been so, so lovely. Good work guys

[mnafady2006]

Even though i'm not at uni yet, i have attended quite a few lectures and seminars for VCE at Melb uni
On one occasion i rocked up to Melb uni in a Spiderman onesie ( was a dare)
Nonetheless Was surprising that more people came up to me and complemented me for the confidence and the humour, Even some uni girls came and took pics and asked for the digits
What I'm saying is , you could wear whatever makes you feel comfortable as long as you are confident in how you look it will reflect in whatever you wear.

Sure there were the one or two Harvey Spectar looking guys with their $5000 Armani suits who "greased me off" but just smile and give them a wink worked best for me haha.

All the best op, hope you stay true to yourself and not be forced with society crazy expectations of what is "Acceptable "
 

[literally lauren]

No clothes I own would be worth more than $30, so I'll skip over the fashion debate, but just re: social anxiety at uni, it's worth asking yourself what you're looking for in friends or acquaintances. I've met quite a few people who just needed someone to talk to so that they weren't alone, and they weren't particularly fussed by reliability or catching up outside of uni (which is fine, obviously.) Meanwhile there are others who genuinely want to forge friendships and connections, especially if they don't know (or want to know) anyone from high school in their course.

Basically try and pinpoint whether the loneliness or nerves are stemming from the fact that you're not with anyone, or that you're not with the 'right' people.

There was a great autobiography that came out a few years ago, and I can't remember who wrote it, but there was a chapter to the tune of 'learn how to be alone, cause it's gonna happen quite often.' You don't have to accept it in a really bitter way, but out of all the days and all the breaks you'll have, chances are there'll be instances where you don't have people to hang out with.

Because uni is so soooo much bigger than high school, it can be a strange transition socially, since you're usually going from a place where everyone knows you by sight, if not name, to a place where 10,000 people pass through daily.

One time, I saw a kid with dreadlocks sitting in a tree on South Lawn eating a sandwich and listening to Taylor Swift. If you did that at high school you'd no doubt get branded Swifty Mc Tree Climber for the duration of your time there, but at uni, no one bats an eyelid

But back to the whole 'being alone' thing, i'd actually say it's more common to see people sitting on their own than in groups. Not only is it nowhere near as stigmatised as in high school, but people will rarely even notice. If you really want to be alone, having a book or some notes open works as a nice 'I'm alone, but it's cause I'm busy and committed, you guys' statement. But if you would prefer to have company, then any of the advice above (talking to people in tutes, joining clubs etc.) works too. I'm sure there'd be no shortage of nice ANers who'd gladly swing by for a chat as well.
Don't eat in the toilets bro, you'll get all sorts of gastro 

tl;dr: anyone who judges your fashion sense is a vacuous moron, and being alone doesn't have to be shameful or embarrassing

[99.90 pls]

No clothes I own would be worth more than $30, so I'll skip over the fashion debate, but just re: social anxiety at uni, it's worth asking yourself what you're looking for in friends or acquaintances. I've met quite a few people who just needed someone to talk to so that they weren't alone, and they weren't particularly fussed by reliability or catching up outside of uni (which is fine, obviously.) Meanwhile there are others who genuinely want to forge friendships and connections, especially if they don't know (or want to know) anyone from high school in their course.

Basically try and pinpoint whether the loneliness or nerves are stemming from the fact that you're not with anyone, or that you're not with the 'right' people.

There was a great autobiography that came out a few years ago, and I can't remember who wrote it, but there was a chapter to the tune of 'learn how to be alone, cause it's gonna happen quite often.' You don't have to accept it in a really bitter way, but out of all the days and all the breaks you'll have, chances are there'll be instances where you don't have people to hang out with.

Because uni is so soooo much bigger than high school, it can be a strange transition socially, since you're usually going from a place where everyone knows you by sight, if not name, to a place where 10,000 people pass through daily.

One time, I saw a kid with dreadlocks sitting in a tree on South Lawn eating a sandwich and listening to Taylor Swift. If you did that at high school you'd no doubt get branded Swifty Mc Tree Climber for the duration of your time there, but at uni, no one bats an eyelid

But back to the whole 'being alone' thing, i'd actually say it's more common to see people sitting on their own than in groups. Not only is it nowhere near as stigmatised as in high school, but people will rarely even notice. If you really want to be alone, having a book or some notes open works as a nice 'I'm alone, but it's cause I'm busy and committed, you guys' statement. But if you would prefer to have company, then any of the advice above (talking to people in tutes, joining clubs etc.) works too. I'm sure there'd be no shortage of nice ANers who'd gladly swing by for a chat as well.
Don't eat in the toilets bro, you'll get all sorts of gastro 

tl;dr: anyone who judges your fashion sense is a vacuous moron, and being alone doesn't have to be shameful or embarrassing

+1 for insane eloquence