So when do we actually use Var(5X)=5^2Var(X) and when do we use Var(5X)=5xVar(X)
Still so confused :/://
You NEVER have var(5X)=5var(X). That therein lies your confusion.
Let's consider the case of the 5 large loaves alone for now. Then, the variance of the weight of all the loaves is given by var(L1+L2+L3+L4+L5), where L is the weight of the large loaf. Now, let's try and calculate the variance using var(5L). Since they're equal, we get:
var(5L)=var(L1+L2+L3+L4+L5)
which gives us:
5L=L1+L2+L3+L4+L5
There's one massive problem with this, though. This assumes that each large loaf weighs exactly the same - but that can't be true all the time! Statistically speaking, yes, you COULD get each of the loaves to be the same weight, but it's unlikely. These things are normally distributed, it's much more likely that they're each different. That's because the weight of each load is INDEPENDENT of the other loaves.
Because of this, the problem isn't choosing the "correct formula". The problem is you're tackling the question completely wrong. For these cases where each thing you're measuring is INDEPENDENT of the other, you shouldn't say X1+X2=2X, because that completely destroys independence.
So instead, the way you'd tackle it is like this:
Total variance = var(L1+L2+L3+L4+L5)
since each L are independent, we then get:
Total = var(L1)+var(L2)+var(L3)+var(L4)+var(L5)
=5var(L)
So you see, we do get this a*var formula highlighted above, but it's because we DON'T have 5L. What you need to be able to do in your exam is distinguish when each draw is independent, and when they're not. If they're independent, then you use the sum formula. If they're not independent (and are exactly equal to the first event), then you use the square formula.