Oh man I can't believe this - civil conversation about religion and spirituality on the internet. O.o
So to share my story, I never really believed in a god, but went to a Catholic school, was baptised, confirmed, everything in-between. I kind of just went along with it all, never actually wanting to put a name to my beliefs (something I still struggle to do now, actually), but essentially I believed in what I could see. Then come year 9, and in year 9 I went through this massive phase where I wanted to do everything. No clue why, but in years 7 and 8 I was too scared to do anything because I didn't want to be judged. At the end of year 8, though, I got pushed by one of my teachers to join the school choir - and then I joined the debating team, and then I took a Japanese dancing class, and by the end of it the teachers were trying to get me to do less things. Come to the end of year 9, and the school offers to let me join a three year program known as Remar (lol if anyone knows what this is, you da real mvp).
Remar's a program which pushes youth to be the best person they can be, trying to teach key lessons in leadership/teamwork, community service, skills, and spirituality. It was run by a religious group, in a religious school, and undoubtedly had a religious backing - but I joined it because as much as I didn't believe it, I was obsessed with doing everything. Furthermore, at the time, everyone who was in the program talked about all of these great friends they made in it, and I was desperate for a real friendship, when all of my relationships at the time felt non-existent or superficial. (something something depressive episode something something bad times something something suicidal, I think you guys get the point?)
I know I have a tendancy to go on and on and on, but the backstory is super important for this next bit, I swear.
Come to the end of my first year of Remar, and I was up shit creek without a paddle - the few friends I thought I had wanted nothing to do with me, and they were in this program with me. Now, during the program, I had started to believe that maybe there was a God, but in doing so I had to put a face to that name. Not an image, per-say, but just figure out what God was like - if he had a personality, how he treated others and wanted others to treat each other, etc. What I came to conclude was that he was a loving God, but a teaching God. At the end of the day, we lived our lives, and he couldn't live them for us - all he could do was try and guide us on the right path.
So I'm on this camp for Remar, and I'm at the end of the one big prayer night we have. At this point, I wasn't sure I believed in God, so I did the one thing you shouldn't do - I told God to prove himself to me. Of course, absolutely nothing happened - but I begged. And begged. And then the teaching staff told me to go to bed, but to do this I had to walk outside and about a 5 minute walk to a dorm area. Then, as I walked outside, I looked up, and I saw two stars - which really freaked me out, because their positions were unambiguously different, with one perched over the exit of the school, and the other one perched right on top of the dorm area. It was as clear as day to me - if there is a God, he was telling me that he couldn't get me through this, all he could do was show my options. Either I pack my bags and leave, or I go back and continue the program.
So, I packed my bags and left. Some things happened, and I ended up repeating year 10. In repeating, I decided I wanted another shot, so I did the program again. Loved it, not what I wanted out of it, but I had some good friends this time, and made a few more. Then, year 11 came, and we hit the major camp for the year. Now, I'm not gonna lie, I didn't suddenly believe in God before this camp - yes, I believed I had a spiritual event a couple years before at the place above. But, I didn't assume this meant there was a God - I knew I had a moment of clarity, and the timing of it with that session helped me believe that maybe there was a God looking out for me. But then, this second camp happened.
And oh BOY did it happen. Big prayer night, we watched a re-enactment of the passion of the Christ. But it was different - for one, there was no spoken words, just background music and a projector displaying phrases shouted out by the crowd. Trying to describe this experience is actually impossible, but it was intense. I was on the verge of tears constantly - and to try and put it into perspective, since primary school, I can only remember ever crying three times in my life. One of those times actually followed the watching of the passion. I don't know why, but it all felt so real - as if I was in the crowd that day, and I was ignoring my God in need of help.
Now, normally after dramas like this, they always gave us the option to stay in silent prayer. Unlike other camps, though, this time they made us stay. For two hours. Now, they supplied a shit-ton of prayerful activities (made scriptures available, there was a priest on-hand we could speak to, we could light candles, relaxing spots to lie down, an arts and crafts section, the works).
Now, I didn't know what to do with myself. At all. I felt like crying, and so I rotated through a few of these stations - mostly just trying to get comfy and pray near a statue of Mary. Eventually, though, I gave in and had a massive cry. After the tears stopped, I looked up, and just saw Mary looking down on me. I didn't deserve to cry - what did I do other than sit in the crowd and deny my God? I still wanted to cry as I realised my uselessness, but I'd hit a point where I physically couldn't anymore. Eventually I moved on, and decided to light a candle. I don't even know why I did it, I think I just wanted to try distract myself. That's when the most spiritual moment in my life happened, the thing that drives me to believe in God.
I lit my candle and tried to put it in the sand-box they had set-up. Well, my hands were so shaky, and I was so upset, that I ended up putting the candle almost on top of another candle. The second candle burnt on the wax of mine, and it lost structural stability. It fell into the sand, and was extinguished. All of a sudden, I could see nothing around me. I could hear nothing around me. All that was left was me, my dead candle, the candle that killed mine, and the darkness. I watched in silent horror as the second candle continued to burn through the wax of mine. I couldn't move, even if I wanted to, and I was stuck watching my candle get smaller and smaller. The wax dripped into the sand as my candle died, until eventually, the wax was all gone and the wick was exposed.
That's when it happened - the second candle burnt the wick and lit my candle from the middle, creating one of the most illuminating blazes I'd ever seen in my life. Then, I was calm. I went from being so sad I'd literally cried away all the tears I had in my body, to being in a state of completely tranquillity. To me, this was the biggest experience I have ever had and ever could have with God, and completely affirms my belief in him.
I don't really do any sort of religious practice anymore. I used to attend a youth group, but got put off by all the "you're not religious enough"-shaming that goes on in them (maybe yours doesn't do it, but all of the ones I went to did). Now I kind of just limit it to taking a breath every now and again to remember the prayerful times I have had, and simply enjoy them.