Where have your friends come from?

[Joseph41]

Really interested by this.

I realistically have no friends from primary school, very few from uni, and the number of people I keep in contact with from high school is also small.

I was thinking this morning: the majority of my friends are literally from ATAR Notes lol.

But that's obviously not necessarily consistent across the board. If I think about my brother, his friends are mostly from high school. Others would have sporting teams/musicals/other interests with strong friendship groups. Uni would also be a big source, I assume - but not for everybody.

How about y'all? For those currently in high school, is school where you've developed most of your stronger friendships?

[heids]

Friendship sources:
- high school: one
- church: heaps, varying levels of closeness but see them most often
- AN: a surface friend or two
- work

[K888]

- My "best friend" group comes from high school - there's 5 of us (including me). I also have retained a number of friends from high school who I'm not best friends with, but still good friends with.
- Several amazing friends from AN
- A lot of friends from soccer - this is probably the biggest bunch of people I'm friends with. I was on good terms with everyone in high school, but I'm actually close with my teammates, whereas I wasn't close with everyone at school
- Uni - becoming good friends with 4 or so people at uni, and am surface friends with a lot more people and there's plenty of people I chat to politely but wouldn't consider them friends, per se.
- Work - more surface friends I guess, we get along famously at work but don't really chill outside of work.

I retained absolutely no friends from primary school, and since finishing high school haven't spoken to people that I considered friends - there really are a lot of people you're only friends with out of convenience/because you see them 5 days a week.

[fantasticbeasts3]

my friends come from 4 places: school, acyf (Catholic festival i went to 2 years ago), family friends, and the internet.

i don't like a whole lot of people from school, because girls are bitchy, and going to an all girls school doesn't really help. i've got about 5-10ish close friends from school. probably less than that. acyf people are some of the nicest people i've met, and i remain quite close with them, but because i live a bit far from them, i don't see them that often. family friends are pretty self-explanatory, i guess. the internet is also a great source of friends, such as here on AN and my harry potter instagram account. :-)

[EEEEEEP]

Friendship sources:
- high school: surface one or two
- AN: a surface friend or two, a beloved one =)
- uni: one surface, one semi close

[katie,rinos]

My friendship sources:
- Primary: no one really, I passed one of my best friends in primary the other month and she didn't seem to even recognise/or talk to me.
- High School: I have got a fairly big group now (around 10-15 of us), but I don't really know how much this will progress into next year (and how many of us will still talk). I think this is where I have developed some of my stronger friendships, but I spend the majority of my week at school.
- Girls Brigade: I've got a few close friends here and i'm friends with my leaders.
- Band
- Work: Some of the girls I was closer to have left, varying levels (more surface level though).
- AN: Even though I haven't met most of you, I've spent lots of time on here, and would count you guys as friends.

[strawberries]

all my friends are from AN haha
(actually tbh idek if i'm their friends but I consider them my friends so...)

edit: not that friends from AN is a bad thing, just probably should make more IRL

[emi87]

Class of 2019 here:
- Tuition: quite a number of friends here (I think I actually bond with students in my weekend classes more than my weekday )
- Primary school: null
- weekday/normal school: a couple friends, but very, very few I can actually call 'close', despite seeing them 5 days a week 

I find as I move up the high school ladder, the fewer friends I have??

[spectroscopy]

damn i been on atarnotes longer than alot of you guys and i dont think i've made any friends on here LOL

1st = high school: 70% of my friends and hang out with them heaps and still super cool
2nd = primary school/neighbourhood: a solid 20% of my friends who i see heaps but mostly 1 on 1 as the groups have dissolved
3rd = uni: maybe 10% of my friends. almost all of these come from extra curricular activies or study abroad and am pretty good friends with alot but dont hang out frequently.

other sources are mostly negligible apart from a couple of people. facebook friend doesnt = friend. criteria for friend counts as someone who I realistically could message and ask to hang out, or see them near me on snapchat and be like "YO WYD" and hang out

[zofromuxo]

Hmm.... a bit difficult to answer personally since i'm currently in the aftermath of a culling phase from high school (Lets just say it wasn't the most enjoyable..)
-Primary School: I got a best & close friend since Grade 1, which is quite rare in this generation apprentely.. so i'm grateful we have both managed to keep it together all those years. I also got a few others in which we aren't as close, but willing to hang with .

-High school: I lost a close friend of my after they went of to TAFE and just ghosted me I guess... I made like four friends as well, but not really close with them as much.

-University: I've been pretty good on this front, although most of them are much older then me. I guess also quitting social media, not being a huge drinker and party animal turns me off to a lot of people.

-Friends of friends: I've made quite a fair amount from this stream.

But then again, I guess i don't need a huge amount of friends. I just want a few friends that I know I have a real, good and close connection to.

That being said, I liked to add AN as well... although i'm worried when I go to the meetup, everyone is going to not be my friend .

[beatroot]

- primary school: don't talk to them anymore because i lost contact.
- high school: pretty much 99% of my friends come from here. i just hope we keep in touch after we graduate
- teachers: can you count them as friends? i love talking to them.
- work: we sometimes chat on facebook but not super close
- friends of friends: i know of them but don't talk to them. just because it's really awkward and we can't seem to build an actual friendship.
- tutoring: still friends with one person from tutoring. she's pretty cool
- extracurricular: used to be friends with them but not anymore because our extracurricular got cancelled.
- tumblr: have mutuals on tumblr that i talk to every now and then.

if i'm being honest, if i didn't go to high school and saw the same people everyday, i'll probably have 0 friends.

[Alwin]

Hmm, interesting q. I live in the same suburb as my primary and high school but I think I see my uni friends a lot more than the people I geographically live closer to - which might say something about how much time I spend at uni haha.
 - Primary School: A lot of my close friends moved away to selective/private high schools and I've lost touch with many of them.
 - High School: Good group of friends but nowadays (I'm fourth year uni) we only seem to catch up on holidays or special occasions.
 - University (classes etc): Made quite a few good friends from sitting down next to them at lectures, or as a jaffy rocking up to non-existent comp labs/tutes in the first week and just chilling instead.
 - University (clubs, societies, etc): I'm involved with quite a few clubs/societies and you see a lot of the same people. After the third or forth time of "haven't I seen you at X or Y before?" you learn their names and become friends.
 - Table Tennis: Not breaking an stereotypes here, I play table tennis and have made quite a few friends.
 - Work/AN: Quite a few and you probably know who you are

[Bri MT]

-venturers/scouts  some really good ones from here
-high school  some really good ones here too
-band ranges from good to acquaintances
-youth advisory council good mainly
-kwong lee dow  good mainly
-primary school  good to acquaintances
-mutuals   good to acquaintances
-RYPEN never had time to get contact details but would happily have multi hours convos if I ran across them
-VCESS very good to acquaintances
-people randomly met at academic or leadership stuff    good to acquaintances

[appleandbee]

All my friends right now are from uni debating (mainly from my own university society but I'm know to people from interstate and overseas as well), work (some of it is debating related and the rest is journalism) and volunteering. I am meaning to broaden my scopes from the liberal/progressive echochamber, and get to know different people as well, sometimes I appreciate being able to talk to someone about soccer and other interests like films, photography, dance, different cultures, philosophy, tennis, music, theatre and funny life stories/jokes rather than being argumentative or bonding over an esoteric meme/joke. I've always wanted to know what non-debating people cared and liked talking about (even though debaters are great).

For some reason, I've found it difficult to properly get to know people in university tutorials. I've also thought about reconnecting with people from high school or attending reunion events but I didn't like school and most people if not everyone have fixed negative perceptions of me.

By the way, does anyone here attend high school reunion or alumni events?

[zofromuxo]

I've also thought about reconnecting with people from high school or attending reunion events but I didn't like school and most people if not everyone have fixed negative perceptions of me.

By the way, does anyone here attend high school reunion or alumni events?

I didn't attend my primary school reunion as you stated in this quote because I didn't like my school.
I don't think you should force it appleandbee, sometimes people change and are more accepting to restart the relationship and sometimes people don't change at all.
For me personally, I would go for only two reasons
1. Because I want to and not from some external obligation
2. A friend wants me to accompany them
Other then that, I don't bother that past is the past. Some bridges aren't meant to be rebuilt and deserved to be burned.

But that is my opinion on it, I'm a very take no bullshit person and will call people out regardless on who you are.
So as you can tell, I'm not exactly very well-liked by many people...