Good excuses for not going to school formal?

[Dr.Lecter]

Not participating in this debate but Visionz is 'psychologically' correct but this isn't the place to post damaging information that could lower the self esteem of the OP as stated by LOVEPHYSICS.

On a side note, I hate Physics.

You actually are.

Alright then nitpicker, I'll remove the post. I'm not interested in this argument.

shut up you conniving cunt

[iNerd]

Someone has anger management issues...

I would tend to agree.

[LOVEPHYSICS]

Thank god for bomb. Someone who understand the main point of my argument, that we are not debating OP's personal issues or evaluating the usefulness of the prompt, we are here to answer OP's question, and that's if we want to. Visionz cannot be 'psychologically correct,' especially not when he is inferring from illogical assumptions.  Also, My mom knows a person who panic and had an heart-attack mid flight because he was convinced that bungee jumping would help him overcome his fears of height. He died, and I wouldn't called that an invigorating experience.

[Visionz]

If you read my post as a whole then youll understand exactly what I was saying in that little extract.

Ill lay it out for you though...
OP is socially challenged. He has no legitimate reason not to go to the formal, hence the thread. Hes not being truthful to himself anyway, money is an issue blah blah, when the reason is psychological. Hes ignoring the real reasons. Validation will just reinforce his thinking and we'll see the same shit in the future. (Honestly, this thread is a lie. OP has said his stuff in a way that he hopes we will swallow easily. He hopes we reply the way he has planned in his head - ie. 'just say this, just say that..' then he'll use that acceptance [of his refusal to go] as reason to do the same in the future.. know what I mean? He needs those typical responses so he can quieten that one part of his psyche that knows its restricting him. Eventually that part of your mind shuts off, goes silent, you ignore logic and you cannot see that what youre doing is doing damage)

Im not saying he has to go to the formal now but hopefully it can plant the seed in his head at least (if this is the problem) and maybe he'll work on getting better in these situations sometime in the future. Baby steps.
Its just antisocial behaviour if not a phase, is a vicious cycle. If not tackled head on he could spiral out of control in the future and end up far from where he would really like to be.  

My first formal/AP was a great experience and one of the best nights of my life tbh.

Lol you sound like one of them people who do VCE Psych and think not only that they are now qualified to label people as "socially challenged" but also read people's true thoughts through their forum posts.

If, Dr. Phil, you truly believe that it is a "psychological" issue, then you wouldn't mind offering to pay? Seeing as he wouldn't accept your money because he doesn't want to go for other reasons?

Anyway he asked for an excuse, not an evaluation of his life - you're giving him irrelevant pointers (considered a career at Microsoft?).

Back on topic.

O.P, if you don't want to go just say you have family commitments, feel sick, etc. Or you could use the end all, be all of excuses - it's against my religion *Waits for VN Religious Debate XXV*

I can see where youre coming from totally. Im not saying this from a VCEpsych perspective though im saying this from personal experience. I missed out on going to my year 10 formal with the girl I spent the next year and a half trying to get because I suffered from an anxiety disorder with huge social ramifications.
It might be off topic in your eyes but whatever. Hopefully like I said it can at least get OP thinking about changing IF THIS IS HIS PROBLEM. It looks eerily similar and its honestly worse than cancer. Hopefully its completely irrelevant and he doenst have it but if he does hopefully its enough to stop him from hitting rock bottom the same way I did.
I never said he had to attend. I always said IF this is his problem (nowhere am i holding a gun to his head and telling him to admit it) then hopefully it plants that seed in his mind that will make him think about the real reasons for skipping social situations and maybe get help.
To be perfectly honest I dont give a flying fuck if theres a 1 in a million chance that hes got something wrong with him cause if what I said makes any difference at all its worth the bitch fight with you and your friend lovephysics.

And hey if its not that then tell em that youre having an abortion and its a very private thing...

[Romperait]

What was the topic again?

[burbs]

What was the topic again?

I have said this many times, but you are one of the best posters on this site.

[Visionz]

What was the topic again?

How to train your dragon orsumshit

[bomb]

its honestly worse than cancer.

Anyone want to take advice from this guy?

[LOVEPHYSICS]

"Lovephysics your only issue seems to be that half the posts in here dont address the OPs question DIRECTLY. We're not actually his servants. Last time i checked he didnt pay me to do his thinking for him. Thats why ill lay down my thoughts in my own way and he can take from that what he wants. I dont care if he prints it out and and hails it the 3rd testament or if he puts it on 1ply A4 and uses it to wipe his a$$.
OP can use what I said to come to a conclusion on what he should do to address his situation and thats how my posts are relevant."

My problem is not only because the posts do not address his question, but because people seem to have the discretion to judge and impose their views on someone they do not really know. And the views imposed are all personal attacks on that individual. You are not his servant, true, but he never forced you to answer his question, if you see his question as pathetic and sore, then just ignore it or give some positive criticism if you have to, and not blatant assumptions and attacks on his virility. No, your posts are not relevant because its simply assumption->attack statements. And he did not ask on how he 'should an address his situation,' that's too broad, he specifically ask for 'good excuses,' nothing more and nothing less. Don't twist posts.

[nacho]

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[Dr.Lecter]

You lewd, crude, rude bag of pre-chewed food dude

[david10d]

Hey LOVEPHYSICS, you seem a bit mad =/

No need to get worked up over a topic on VCENotes.

[Visionz]

bomb - wouldnt expect you to understand. Try being housebound with no idea if youll ever get better and not being able to tell anyone whats wrong. Not like cancer where youve got the support for everyone who you speak to.

lovephysics - its hardly a personal attack. Why would I attack someone in the same situation I was. It was a bit of cold hard reality but yeah fair enough my first post I hadnt created a context where it could be seen that way.

[taiga]

lets all chill like this hamster cuz this thread probably aint going nowhere

[bomb]

bomb - wouldnt expect you to understand. Try being housebound with no idea if youll ever get better and not being able to tell anyone whats wrong. Not like cancer where youve got the support for everyone who you speak to.

I'm hoping that you're trolling hard because I refuse to believe that someone would honestly make that comparison. Sure, having a psychological problem would be terrible, as would cancer, but saying that it's "honestly" WORSE than cancer is idiotic.

Unless, of course you had cancer after this psychological problem and thought "hey, I think I like this one better", in that case I apologise. Or maybe you've met a cancer patient undergoing Chemotherapy who has said "atleast I'm not housebound".

Stupid comment to make man.