f'(-3) = -6a + b tells you that the gradient of f(x) at the point x = -3 is "-6a + b"
Because you know that the gradients of the two graphs are the same at x=-3, you know that -6a+b must equal -30(the gradient of g(x) at that point), as you've worked out. That should be your answer to part (i).
For C)ii), you are unable to solve for a & b as there are two unknowns present, with only 1 equation. To fix that, they tell you that the two graphs also touch at the point x=-3, meaning, at that point, the y coordinate is the same.
g(-3) = 63 --> at the point x=-3 the y-coordinate of g(x) = 63.
f(-3) = 9a-3b --> at the point x = -3 the y-coordinate of f(x) is given by 9a-3b.
Because you know that the y-coordinate for both graphs are the same, 63=9a-3b. That's your 2nd equation.