Right, I forgot you were the supreme arbiter of at what point something becomes a "potential for life", rather than a "potential for a potential".
Adoption. Are you fucking serious? I'm just going to post this, because she's said it better than I ever could have.
A common rebuttal, when the abortion debate comes up: why abort when there are so many happy, willing, sometimes even desperate adoptive parents just waiting for reluctant moms to hand over newborns?
This argument seems to assume that pregnancy is easy. Or at least not debilitating. I am 4 months pregnant right now, and I can't imagine anyone who has been pregnant telling a young woman to just go ahead and go through with the pregnancy to eventually adopt it out. Mind you, I think it's amazingly generous when women do decide to do that (especially my brother's birth mom, I am grateful to her every day!) but I am frustrated with people pressuring pregnant women into carrying to term.
Many women have "morning sickness" that lasts all day, every day, for many weeks at a time. It's not uncommon to end up in the ER with dehydration that you can't combat with fluids, since you vomit them up. Hope you have good health insurance to cover that! Pregnant women can find themselves cripplingly exhausted, unable to complete work or school assignments. At 7 weeks, I fell asleep in the middle of a high-anxiety standardized exam.
Pregnancy is also quite painful well before labor. Cramps as your uterus grows, something called "round ligament pain" which is a sharp, horrible pain when you sneeze, cough, or just move too quickly (like jumping out of a car), along with other aches and pains.
Later term, pregnant woman can find themselves on bedrest, a treatment the American Pregnancy Association calls "common" and is used to treat a pretty wide variety of complications. Good luck keeping your job or keeping up with your schoolwork if you're not supposed to be leaving a bed! Not to mention that you can't cook, drive or do chores.
And then, the labor. Everyone knows it's painful, but there's also a long recovery after even relatively easy births. My doctor is recommending that I don't plan do to much of anything for at least the first month, and that's assuming everything goes well (as in, no emergency c-section, which is also quite common).
No question, pregnancy is a huge burden on a woman, for the better part of a year, even when nothing goes wrong. It's not a discussion with room for this glib, simplistic response.
Last year, I was a gestational surrogate. I chose to help make a family and sailed through another easy pregnancy (my first was amazing). I delivered a perfectly healthy little girl at 36 1/2 weeks and the parents went home thrilled beyond words. Four days after I got home from the hospital, I was back. But now I was in complete congestive heart failure and my heart was on the verge of giving out completely. I had developed something called Peripartum Cardiomyopathy and my cardiologist said he had never seen any woman deteriorate as quickly as I had. I almost died and I spent 5 days in the hospital recovering. Now, because of the high risk of going into heart failure again, I can't physically risk having any more children of my own. I'm not sorry that I went through with the surrogacy because I absolutely adore that sweet girl and had and I'm great friends with her parents, but to make someone go through a pregnancy just because there are people willing to take the baby is crazy. Imagine if that was your first kid. Imagine that you gave away your only chance at having a baby for the rest of your life. That seems awfully unfair.
I'd just like to add postpartum depression to that list. If you have ever experienced depression, you would know that it is not something to be sniffed at.
You would force an unwilling woman to go through what is a potentially life-threatening, and at the very least an extremely uncomfortable, condition to satisfy your sick sense of "morality"? Then yes, you are an evil person.
By following your logic, someone who believes that people shouldn't be able to kill one another (dictating what people do with their bodies, to other people's bodies) then they are a "terrible, evil person".
I would call that stupid logic, but it would be overly generous of me to even call it logic. What part of killing
another person corresponds to doing something with your
own body? Because last time I checked, a foetus is part of a woman's body.
I recommend you do some reading and educate yourself. Start with this.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Defense_of_Abortion#The_Violinist