Parent got diagnosed with terminal cancer - continue to YR 12 exams or quit?

[betruetoyou22]

I think you should definitely apply for the derived score, since either way it'll be of benefit to you.

With that said, whether or not you sit the actual exams is your personal choice. Maybe you choose to sit them but ease up on the studying, maybe you work harder then ever, I think there's many ways of rationalizing what you're going to do and none is less justifiable then the other. I don't think anyone here can give you advice on whether or not you should continue with VCE, that is a personal choice that you should make for yourself.. I wish you all the best though, hope you get through everything okay .

thanks for the advice - love this community <3

[Special At Specialist]

I think that you should apply for the derived exam score and if you change your mind you can always just attend the exam. Use it as a safety net incase you decide you don't want to go through with it.

Take at least a few days off studying. Don't even think about school. It will do you good regardless of what your final decision is.

[betruetoyou22]

I agree your teacher didn't want to be a catalyst for your panic. The nature of teachers is they want the best for you, so in her opinion the best for you is to get the highest ATAR you can to set you up for further studies, which would come from sitting exams.
Don't say "i'm usually strong about these things" -> strength is not acting tough. Strength is being dealt the worst hand imaginable and continuing. One of my favourite quotes, no idea who from, -> if you're going through hell, keep going. The fact that you're talking about what you should do in terms of your exams etc shows your strength. That, is strong.
At the end of the day, fuck what your school thinks (sorry for any ninnies out there.) This is about you, what's best for you, with the decision made by you (as objectively as possible.)
As worthless as it is, my thoughts and well wishes are with you.

pretty wise words if i do make it to the exams, it would be thanks to your post! and your motivational corner lol, i'm gonna go sleep and pray for the best - but know that your thoughts and well wishes are much appreciated !! thanks for the support and wish you the best too

[brenden]

Have a great sleep, thank you. AN is always here.

[betruetoyou22]

I think that you should apply for the derived exam score and if you change your mind you can always just attend the exam. Use it as a safety net incase you decide you don't want to go through with it.

Take at least a few days off studying. Don't even think about school. It will do you good regardless of what your final decision is.

taking a few days off seems impossible - especially if i do sit my exams. i'm a couple of weeks behind on schedule and so i feel like these two weeks need to be spent EXTRA wisely...

[enwiabe]

You truly are between a rock and a hard place, and whatever decision you make is the right one, honestly. There is no right or wrong answer as the positives and the negatives to pursuing either option are significant. So make your decision and understand that you had to make a choice. This was thrust upon you, and it's nobody's fault, and especially not yours. Whatever happens, just don't blame yourself.

I really hope the doctors are wrong and your parent can pull through. Stay strong, and good luck with everything.

[betruetoyou22]

You truly are between a rock and a hard place, and whatever decision you make is the right one, honestly. There is no right or wrong answer as the positives and the negatives to pursuing either option are significant. So make your decision and understand that you had to make a choice. This was thrust upon you, and it's nobody's fault, and especially not yours. Whatever happens, just don't blame yourself.

I really hope the doctors are wrong and your parent can pull through. Stay strong, and good luck with everything.

thankyouu so much - i hope so too huge props for running atar notes !! god knows where i'd be without it.

[taiga]

Either one you choose is completely fine, I don't think you can regret either one. Your parents would want what's best for you, and I really think that they would want you to do well regardless of their situation.

To have the strength to not just break down completely and come on here and show that you are capable of even attempting to make a positive decision in your situation is just amazing and I think you'll do very well in the future regardless of which path you choose.

I really can't offer any real advice, but all I can say is that I wish you all the best and I really hope you get through this as best you can

[Fyrefly]

I'm not very good at saying stuff, but if I met you in real life I would probably squish you with a huge hug.

[betruetoyou22]

Definitely apply for a derived examination score ASAP: http://www.vcaa.vic.edu.au/Pages/vce/exams/specialprovision/derivedexam.aspx

Submitting your application

Students who believe they are eligible for a Derived Examination Score should first seek advice from their school. The primary responsibility for submitting a correctly completed application form rests with the student.

If circumstances are of an exceptionally private and sensitive nature, students may apply directly to the VCAA. Students will still be required to provide evidence in support of their application

If you don't feel comfortable talking to your school about this then apply straight to VCAA. It says you can get forms from your VCE coordinator only so I would email them directly and ask how you can proceed from this point.

You are under more than enough stress and emotional turmoil right now without having to think about exams as well. Please take some time off for yourself.

i called vcaa today and they told me that i can only apply through my school - they were very harsh and told me that its not possible for me to apply BEFORE i sit the exams - they said i could only apply after i sit my final exam and that i may or may not get approved. I would only know if i got approved after i actually sit the exams... getting a bit panicky.

[betruetoyou22]

I'm not very good at saying stuff, but if I met you in real life I would probably squish you with a huge hug.

lol, haha virtual hugs for now

[ninwa]

i called vcaa today and they told me that i can only apply through my school - they were very harsh and told me that its not possible for me to apply BEFORE i sit the exams - they said i could only apply after i sit my final exam and that i may or may not get approved. I would only know if i got approved after i actually sit the exams... getting a bit panicky.

That's bullshit, their own website says you can apply through VCAA if the matter is of a sensitive or personal nature. It also says you have to submit your application no later than 7 days after your final exam - it doesn't say you can only apply after exams have commenced. Whoever took your phone call is a moron.

What did you tell them exactly?

[betruetoyou22]

i called vcaa today and they told me that i can only apply through my school - they were very harsh and told me that its not possible for me to apply BEFORE i sit the exams - they said i could only apply after i sit my final exam and that i may or may not get approved. I would only know if i got approved after i actually sit the exams... getting a bit panicky.

That's bullshit, their own website says you can apply through VCAA if the matter is of a sensitive or personal nature. It also says you have to submit your application no later than 7 days after your final exam - it doesn't say you can only apply after exams have commenced. Whoever took your phone call is a moron.

What did you tell them exactly?

i just basically told them my situation and asked where i can acess the application form. The guy i spoke to was like "yeah, look you can only apply through your school and only AFTER you sit your exams" and he's like that i'd find out if my application is approved a couple of weeks before i find out my atar score. so now its a matter of i have to sit my exams because i'm not even sure i'll get approved.

[brenden]

Are VCAA a 9-5 operation?

[betruetoyou22]

Are VCAA a 9-5 operation?

apparently so