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Re: How to deal with overly insane, results oriented parents
« Reply #15 on: January 16, 2015, 10:52:56 pm »
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49's a great score and it's good to know that your parents have set some high standards however if they keep pestering you over it, you might as well tell them "there's nothing I can do about it now, so let me concentrate on my final year".
Not sure if that'll help, but I understand where youre coming from :/

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Re: How to deal with overly insane, results oriented parents
« Reply #16 on: January 16, 2015, 10:55:29 pm »
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I'm already doing 6 so if i'm repeating i'd have to do 7 in one year (6+ a uni) which is unsavoury to say the least :/

I never knew how lucky I was to have parents that were actively telling me off for studying too much and missing social and church events :) so I can't really help!
Tell them that you'll get worse marks in your other subjects if you have to do 7 subjects?
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Re: How to deal with overly insane, results oriented parents
« Reply #17 on: January 16, 2015, 11:23:49 pm »
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You could perhaps have an honest chat with them, a chat where perhaps at the start you can take their side and say "yeah, 50 is better than 49 but you know what? it was all down to luck (perhaps mention what EulerFan101 said) and say that you completely agree with them about how you could have got 50, then say "but you know what, 49 is excellent too, it's not as good as 50, but the only, and only difference is an insignificant 1. Doesn't mean that your not as smart as a 50." tell them the atar is more important than the study scores. and then emotionally get them, honestly, but with emotion... say that what you did was a great achievement, and then just start listing all your arguments, and tell them all the cons for doing methods again. You can only reason with them what you believe, and then try to convince them. Tell them to just trust you and what your doing, say that this is for their pride of you, for you to become an actuary, etc.   

I have Indian parents, lol. And every time I chat with them, and have provided good reasons and evidence, they at least consider my choices. My dad has never been satisfied with a 99%, he makes a huge deal about that 1% and when I get 100% he just says 'good' and goes on to doing whatever. It's okay. Just talk to them, with emotion, power, a strong voice and legitimate reasons and insist on them trusting you.

If all else fails just tell them that they should trust your decisions. Get your parents to talk to really well respected people about this, and that might change your parents mind.