Let's all just calm down a bit guys
I think we have a lot of variety on this forum; some take studying and marks super seriously, some less so; some love to tell others their marks, some don't; some like to answer more questions, some like to ask more questions; some like to worship those with highs scores, others don't; etc. This makes the community diverse, and I think that makes it not unlike any other school. I don't think it's up to any one of us to judge why someone weighs one factor more heavily than someone else, we don't know why they're here, we don't know what's happening at home, we don't know what's happened in their lives (inb4 you don't know my story memes), we don't even know if they're telling the truth sometimes. And that's to be expected - we are all posting relatively anonymously on the internet

I can't speak for everyone, but personally I don't really care what someone's scores are, as long as they're happy and doing what they love. I'd rather have a forum of people largely content with their lives, than have a bunch of stressed out and depressed high achievers. And that's just what I think it important, I'm sure each of us has different thoughts on what is most important for this community, that's that cool too

To turn back to the meetup, I've attended three over my years here. I didn't go to the one in 2011 (my graduating year) because for many reasons stated here ("bunch of nerds talking about ATARs and study scores and flashcards and physics and <some other topic I wasn't interested in talking about because I'm Indian and talk about these things at home 24/7>") and I think I was being too judgmental and was pretty off the mark because when I went to later meets (as a "mod"), the scene was pretty different. Sure, those "nerdy" topics come up, and it's honestly a decent ice-breaker to ask something like "so what are our plans for next year?", but the conversation naturally flows from there.
Having said that, doubt I can stay for long tomorrow, but I'll hopefully duck in at some point!
