Ask them to set aside a long block of time for a talk. Say you want it to be a really open, honest talk where you all tell each other your real feelings, and you give each other space to talk, and really want to listen to each other. Make a bargain that it’s just for listening and then saying exactly what you feel – no interruptions, blaming, hiding, dishonesty, anger or yelling allowed. (Remember that you have to keep up your end of the bargain too).
Then open up and tell them how you feel. Tell them (politely! don’t blame them, just state it) that you’ve felt really upset about how they’re controlling you – explain how and why.
Then tell them that you really
do care about your education – explain how you’re still feeling super upset and bad about your results and you DON’T want to repeat that. Explain how you’re feeling as vividly as you can, and tell them that you’re being really honest (ideally break down and cry
).
And so on. Give them space to talk too.
Thing is, you can’t expect them to get how you feel if you don’t tell them honestly and openly – especially after things like telling them the wrong ATAR. Think about it from their perspective - how would that step make you look to them?
MAKE SURE you make clear ‘rules’ about this talk.
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